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Elephant in the Room

lenabethlenabeth
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Did any one else feel like an elephant in the room today.  The only one (for adults) that treated me like he normally would was one of my BILs who always is sarcastic.  I usually hate it, but today it was nice for him to treat me like he usually does. 

No one wanted a conversation with me, even DH just went into the living room and watched football while I tried to talk with the others.  I was in a house full of my IL's that I have known for years, but they just seemed to pass me off.  I ended up drinking half a bottle of wine and taking a nap.  Happy Turkey Day indeed.

What a failed holiday.  Just want to crawl into bed, but I am guessing with out DH as he is playing Diablo 2 while this is the first day in over a month that we could be squeaking the mattress springs.  Well, I guess more vino is in call for today.

Another pity party for me.  I need to keep more positive or I think I will go bonkers...

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  • KtB0605KtB0605
    I'm sorry you had such a bad day :o( I'm sure people weren't purposely trying to avoid you, it just seems like they really have no idea to say. I'd rather people NOT say anything then have them say something really stupid (Like a lot of people have done to me.) Me and the wine were good friends today, too. I'm thinking it'll stay that way throughout the weekend, lol. Take care, and get a good nights sleep. Keep us updated on how you're feeling. 
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  • RNCCRN9706RNCCRN9706
    (((((((hugs))))))) Sorry you had such a rough day.
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  • MommaRed83MommaRed83 member

    Well I can't speak for everyone but I can tell you that I was a BIG elephant in the room. Luckily I made it to the car ride home with my Mom before I had my first breakdown since I had been around people today.

    I know the wine helped and I know that sharing 4 bottles between just my sister and I probably wasn't the best idea but it got me through the social part of the day. But I wish that I had made it until I was home alone. All I can think of is that I hope that Christmas will go better but I know that it will be 10x harder.

    I want you all to know that if it wasn't for you ladies I never would have made it this far. I am thankful for all of you this year. Thank you for all of your support!

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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    I am sorry you had such a rough day. {{hugs}}
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  • Cow-girlCow-girl member
    Luckily there wasnt an elephant in the room at my house, but we had a very small gathering (only 7 people).  But in honor of your post I posted the "elephant in the room" poem above.
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  • MSC03MSC03 member

    I'm sorry your Thanksgiving was awkward and difficult. It's hard to be grateful right now.

    We escaped this Thanksgiving and went to visit my aunt who was hosting Thanksgiving for a bunch of her friends who don't know what happened with our baby. It was nice to be treated normal and not be surrounded by children or reminders of what we don't have.

     

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