I am in tears and I hate my life

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

Just got a text from a friend

who is pg

with my due date.

ITS A BOY

like I give a rats _fucking_asshole_

Yes. I am bitter. No I don't care.

californiastars · November 2009

I understand. One of my best friends was due 2 weeks after me so all of her milestones sucked because I should have had them too.

I wonder if she thought you wanted to know or if it was a mass text message and she didn't realize. Either way it sucks.

(((HUGS)))

suntoto@gmail.com · November 2009

Big hugs to you!

roxyttandme · November 2009

I am sorry, hun.... It is just not fair!

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

I'm sure it was a mass text and she doesn't know about my loss, so i'm not "mad at her" but I just can't be all excited, happy for her, at least not yet. Maybe one day.

I think it hurts more b/c of the due date thing. A constant reminder of where I should be.

candycane3t · November 2009

Gah Allison, I am sorry that does suck....big hugs girl!

KelleyBean · November 2009

::hugs::

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

and I 1-starred myself, for being so nasty and bitter.

bad allison. bad bad bad

rjl07 · November 2009

I'm so sorry. That just sucks. I would be completey bitter too.

SpeedGlenn · November 2009

I'm sorry. ::hugs:: I can soooooooo relate.

My MOH is due 2 days after I was supposed to be, and it takes everything I have to talk to her. She knew she was pg when I told her I was, but instead of telling me she was pg too. She told me how she and her husband had decided not to have anymore kids (they have 2) since she was getting older, they only have a 2 bedroom house, they really can't afford it, and she doesn't have a car big enough to carry all three kids. So she told me she was pg 2wks after my m/c when I was on my way to a romantic weekend away with DH.

Now, I realize there was never going to be a good time to hear that news, but telling me on my way to a get-away, seems shitty. And why she didn't tell me she was pg when I told her I was, I'll never know.

Today she was asking for advice on carseats. I don't fuccking want to talk to you about your carseat issues. Mmmmkay?

Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuut, back to you (sorry for the digression!! Clearly, I'm bitter.) - I'm so, so sorry. And I completely understand.

Ashley858 · November 2009

Im so sorry! It sucks when people insist on reminding you of things like that all the time.

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

SpeedGlenn:

I'm sorry. ::hugs:: I can soooooooo relate.

My MOH is due 2 days after I was supposed to be, and it takes everything I have to talk to her. She knew she was pg when I told her I was, but instead of telling me she was pg too. She told me how she and her husband had decided not to have anymore kids (they have 2) since she was getting older, they only have a 2 bedroom house, they really can't afford it, and she doesn't have a car big enough to carry all three kids. So she told me she was pg 2wks after my m/c when I was on my way to a romantic weekend away with DH.

Now, I realize there was never going to be a good time to hear that news, but telling me on my way to a get-away, seems shitty. And why she didn't tell me she was pg when I told her I was, I'll never know.

Today she was asking for advice on carseats. I don't fuccking want to talk to you about your carseat issues. Mmmmkay?

Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuut, back to you (sorry for the digression!! Clearly, I'm bitter.) - I'm so, so sorry. And I completely understand.

and she's your friend for why??????????????? Good grief, that's just beyond insensitive. Holi Cannoli. I'm sorry you have to deal with that, that totally sucks.

Nikkicole007 · November 2009

Big hugs!!! Life is so unfair sometimes

lax15bsu · November 2009

I'm sorry, sweet. That's gotta be rough. :::big hugs:::

SpeedGlenn · November 2009

ShellShockedMama:

and she's your friend for why??????????????? Good grief, that's just beyond insensitive. Holi Cannoli. I'm sorry you have to deal with that, that totally sucks.

She's family. In case you haven't spotted a trend, my family sucks lips and as$holes. They're also from NJ. I blame a lot of it on the toxic waste. Something makes me think that their clear and obvious lack of tact has to be a direct result of their proximity to a SuperFund Site. Needless to say, I'm not visiting anytime soon.

bbetson · November 2009

I am so sorry. ((Hugs))

It's okay to be bitter and mad at things like this. I have a friend who is pregnant and her due date and mine were like 4 days apart. It is so hard to hear her talk about all the exciting things that I should also be experiencing. Last week she pulled out pictures of her latest U/S I immediately got tears in my eyes and started a side conversation with another friend who is having trouble ttc. These things just suck. Life is not fair.

MrsNJTiger · November 2009

I'm sorry. We love you!

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

bbetson:
Last week she pulled out pictures of her latest U/S I immediately got tears in my eyes

I think I would have died if I were in your place, how hard. ugh, I'm sorry!

dondraandluis · November 2009

I'm sorry hun. I understand what you mean. (((HUGS)))

BrittH05 · November 2009

That stinks =( We are still waiting for news on our baby b and it doesn't look good and a frind of mine due 2 weeks prior to me said "well you already have a kid so it shouldn't bother you too much if you m/c this one". What? What the h does that mean?

I just don't think people who haven't suffered a loss know how hard it is on you. I know I feel like a failure almost. Like I did somthing wrong. Then you are constantly surrounded by reminders.

((hugs)) Hopefully she was just sending it to everyone and had no intention of upsetting you.

jennsadye1979 · November 2009

Does a well-placed lolcat improve things any?

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

BrittH05:

That stinks =( We are still waiting for news on our baby b and it doesn't look good and a frind of mine due 2 weeks prior to me said "well you already have a kid so it shouldn't bother you too much if you m/c this one". What? What the h does that mean?

I just don't think people who haven't suffered a loss know how hard it is on you. I know I feel like a failure almost. Like I did somthing wrong. Then you are constantly surrounded by reminders.

((hugs)) Hopefully she was just sending it to everyone and had no intention of upsetting you.

I'll keep you in my prayers that you get good news.

Wow, your friend is just terribly insensitive, that's awful. Whatever happened to "if you have nothing good to say, shut the eff up" or something along those lines.

ShellShockedMama · November 2009

jennsadye1979:

Does a well-placed lolcat improve things any?

It does! it does.

Hewwo kitty witty

jennsadye1979 · November 2009

Oh good. Here's another:

BrittH05 · November 2009

Who knows! I just about feel out when she said that too! I was like, y should it be easier to lose a baby just because I have a child? We are really sudeo friends these days anyway and more forced to chat b/c my bf still lives near here and their husbands work together on the same ship. Then Lucky me she is moving close to us in April! I just can't wait. Oh well, some people are just that out of it when they make comments.

Thanks, maybe it will be good news, of course I have some hope, but I am trying to brace myself for the worse.

GL in the TTC and I hope it happens again soon for you.

mrsseguin · November 2009

I'm so sorry. Some people just don't have a clue.

babes12 · November 2009

awe i'm sorry buddy. big hugs!!!! i'm not feeling too cheery myself this evening, everything is too stressful. i detest TTC. Crying

can't we all just say i want to be pg. now and have it happen.

Heidisean · November 2009

Me and my bff were due 4 days apart and she has a 7 month old right now and I DO NOT! Everytime I see her baby I think that I should have a baby that age and it does hurt but she is my bff and seriously I am happy for her. I know that someday I will hold another baby in my arms so I try not to be bitter to anyone else.