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Worried about Thanksgiving....I couldn't sleep last night

cmrand4cmrand4 member
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So at our house on a day to day basis, it's pretty quiet and relaxed.  TV off during the day and lots of relaxing quiet time.  That's what LO is used to.  I laid awake last night not sleeping worrying about LO becoming overstimulated on Thanksgiving.  I know that all the relatives will be clamoring to hold LO and that's fine but it ends up where they're in his face constantly trying to get him to smile, talking to him, tickling him, etc. so much that it's too much for him.  He won't be able to snooze or just sit and that he'll be exhausted. Anyone else worried about this?
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Re: Worried about Thanksgiving....I couldn't sleep last night

  • shainababygirlshainababygirl

    I'm not really worried about it, I expect it to happen. But, I also realize that most of DD's relatives haven't met her yet, and just want to enjoy her. I guess I just don't think that one day of over-stimulation is going to be detrimental to her, and these relatives only get to see her about twice a year (some of them more often). I want them to be able to enjoy her, and share in her cuteness.

     I'm taking my Mei Tai, and if she gets cranky (like she did at a baby shower I went to last week) I'll just pop her in and let her snooze. 

    My child is NOT used to quiet...but I want it that way, simply so she can nap during loud situations and not have to have total quiet. 

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  • cindy453cindy453

    Me! Em is just getting to where she really recognizes people, and can see me when I'm across the room. She tolerates other people holding her for a few minutes, and then freaks out when she realizes, "You're not my mama!" 

    I've perfected breastfeeding in a sling or ergo, which helps. can you bring a travel swing or a bouncer (if your LO likes that)? 

    I think for people with super easy going, happy with anybody babies, it's hard to understand the level of anxiety that comes with a fussy baby. Because it just HURTS emotionally to see your baby crying. And it's hard to put them knowingly in a situation where they will be unhappy.

    I keep telling myself that she will only be this tiny once, and that she has her entire life to get to know family. It's not going to hurt them if they don't get to hold her as much as they want. But, it will OBVIOUSLY upset her if they hold her too much- and she can't logically understand "they want this" while the adult can logically understand, "the baby doesn't like this". So, her needs win!

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    Me! Em is just getting to where she really recognizes people, and can see me when I'm across the room. She tolerates other people holding her for a few minutes, and then freaks out when she realizes, "You're not my mama!" 

    I've perfected breastfeeding in a sling or ergo, which helps. can you bring a travel swing or a bouncer (if your LO likes that)? 

    I think for people with super easy going, happy with anybody babies, it's hard to understand the level of anxiety that comes with a fussy baby. Because it just HURTS emotionally to see your baby crying. And it's hard to put them knowingly in a situation where they will be unhappy.

    I keep telling myself that she will only be this tiny once, and that she has her entire life to get to know family. It's not going to hurt them if they don't get to hold her as much as they want. But, it will OBVIOUSLY upset her if they hold her too much- and she can't logically understand "they want this" while the adult can logically understand, "the baby doesn't like this". So, her needs win!

    My babe is much younger, and while she prefers her Momma, she doesn't freak when other people hold her (unless she's hungry). I do have a very easy-going babe... but I will Mei Tai her when she starts getting fussy.

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  • atlbride23atlbride23
    4 of my mom's sisters came to visit and I thought this would be an issue, but the girls slept most of the day because there was constantly a "granny" holding them.  But they were not tickling, etc.  I would have asked them not to if it was an issue, but they all have young grandkids and are pretty sensible.
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  • CalinsBrideCalinsBride
    That happened at Canadian Thanksgiving. DS does not do well with all those people and all that noise. DH and I wound up taking him into an upstairs bedroom amd taking shifts hanging out with him while the other socialized. We are skipping extended family Christmas this year. We want to enjoy M's first Christmas, and we want him to have a good day (even though he doesn't know what Christmas is) so we are going to have a quiet family Christmas at home, just the three of us. I'm really looking forward to it.
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  • sugarfingerssugarfingers member

    Boys get overstimulated easier than girls.  At that age, that would have been too much for my DS all day. If he starts to cry from too much stuff going on, just take turns with your husband and one of you take him upstairs (or wherever) and play quietly with him or just snuggle awhile in the queitness.  Or if an aunt really wants to hold him, let her take him upstairs and hold him in his room for awhile.

    I think it's important to be considerate to your baby and what they need and are used to.  A little extra stimulation is fine but you don't want to stress  your poor baby out!  He's too little to say Enough!  So be his voice even to well-meaning relatives. 

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