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Oh, SMIL, you are a true gem.

whitward87whitward87
in 3rd Trimester
My Dh and I do not have anything to do with his mother, but his dad has remarried, and in general I really like her. When Dh and I visit them, we talk and laugh, we always exchange gifts at Christmas, and have a good time. She has two grown daughters of her own, they have always accepted me and I don't feel like an outcast. I will admit however, the woman is a bit selfish. She doesn't really let my FIL see my DH's nephew. Yes, nephew is  a pain in the butt sometimes, but he is still his grandson and I think FIL should put his foot down. My DH calls me yesterday and says MIL may not be able to make your shower. I ask why and he said, well she has to go to chuch and then her and my dad have to eat out, so she just may go back home because she doesn't want to come a few minutes late. UM, seriously?? I can understand if she had a prior engagement at church that required her to stay late. No, just church and eating out. I am chalking this up to hormones, but I am pissed. I really thought we were pretty close and that she would be there. Guess not. Okay, done venting.
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Re: Oh, SMIL, you are a true gem.

  • ashleyb0604ashleyb0604
    Well that sounds sh!tty to me. I would be pissed too. I'm sorry!
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  • sarajo317sarajo317

    That's an odd way to get out of something!! She has to go to church - i can understand that.. but HAS to had FIL take her out to eat.. umm no. And that's dumb that she would miss your shower FOREVER because of running a few minutes late.

    Can you call her and tell her - you dont care if she is late.. you just would like her to be there.

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  • mrs_sherodmrs_sherod member
    That does suck.  Sounds like she just doesn't want to come.  Try not to worry about her, she just has on her witch hat at the time.
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  • Jen&LouieJen&Louie member
    Church is understandable but, eating out?  No.  Ridiculous excuse.
    the boymom is expecting a girl!
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  • C12H22O11C12H22O11 member

    My SMIL couldn't make it to my shower because she was..wait for it...making popcorn balls for a church function.

    We're in a similar boat - DH does not talk to his mother, so SMIL is all we've really got.

    Ethan Michael - 12/21/09
    Norah Jewel - 2/26/14

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  • chazzgirlchazzgirl
    honestly...that is brutal.
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  • inlovewowinlovewow
    That's the most lame excuse I've ever heard...forget it.  Sounds like she doesn't want to be there.  I always look at things like this:  The people that are actually there (wedding, birthdays, showers, etc) are the people that really matter!!!
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  • lilbit923lilbit923 member
    Wow..nice! SMIL sounds like a peach. Umm, is she this way with you or would she do the same thing to her daughters as well?
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  • whitward87whitward87

    imagelilbit923:
    Wow..nice! SMIL sounds like a peach. Umm, is she this way with you or would she do the same thing to her daughters as well?

    Oh I cant even imagine her doing this to her daughters! They are her life and that's where the selfish part comes in. During holidays noone asks us what we are doing, or when we can come, it's all about her daughters. UGH!

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