when to share the big news???

ashleyy0219 · November 2009

I'm going home to see my parents for Thanksgiving and since the next time I will be home won't be until Christmas I'm contemplating telling them this weekend but is it too soon?? DH and I are planning on waiting until at least 12 weeks to tell everyone else but how far along did you ladies tell your parents?

Mrs.LM625 · November 2009

We went to my parent's house that night to tell them, since we live closeby. MH called his parents to tell them when we got home. So both sets knew at 3w5 days. Our siblings knew that day too.

We still haven't told friends yet, except a very few close friends.

LoveMonkey1401 · November 2009

I told my parents and my family right away. I am not good with secrets and this one would have eaten me alive! I would say tell people when you feel ready or after your first appointment. I have told my closest friends but we'll tell other friends once we hear the heartbeat and have our first u/s picture. We just want that confirmation and then there's no holding us back!!

KellyG6279 · November 2009

With DS we waited until 16 weeks!! It is easy to not tell our family since we live 3000 miles away and never see anyone:( This time around probably more like 13 weeks. I prefer to wait until after the 12 week appt and past the 1st tri.

MrsMommyQ · November 2009

We told our parents and DHs siblings (I'm an only child) right away--around 4w5days.

We also each told 1 close friend. The rest we are waiting to tell.

I'm glad we told early bc I had some complications this weekend and it was important for me to be able to tell my mom, talk to her about it, etc.

nwyn73 · November 2009

We are telling our parents this weekend. It has been killing me to keep it a secret this long. My sister, and a few of our closest friends already know!

With DD, I told my parents the day after I got a positive test, and we told his parents about a week later.

stephogirl · November 2009

We considered telling our parents at Thanksgiving, but decided against it. We felt that DS should be the first to find out, and we want to verify a heartbeat before we tell DS so we have a reduced chance of having to explain that something happened to the baby.

So we're waiting until Christmas.

teach2183 · November 2009

It depends whether you think they can keep the secret. We told everyone right away with DD. MIL proceeded to tell everyone despite our strict instructions that she tell no one. Everyone else kept their mouth shout. So this time, the ILs were the last to find out after our 11w appt when we heard the heartbeat. We once again told my family pretty much right away. In fact, I told my sister before DH as he was at football practice.

njc921 · November 2009

So I just found out today that I am pregnant! I'm super excited but really nervous at the same time! I took the test bc my breasts were really sore but I figured I was just getting my period...I took a test just to get that out of the way and there was a faint line! I called my sis and she told me to get a digital test...yep, pregnant! I will be telling my family before thanksgiving dinner starts! I am so excited to be a mom!!!

His-N-Hers · November 2009

We are telling our parents this week (his at Thx., mine the next day) and I will only be about 8 weeks. Since SIL lives out of town and we are spending Christmas w/ my side, this is going to be the only time to get to tell his side in person while everyone is together. And, of course, we could not tell his parents a month before telling mine, hence driving to see my parents the day after... I would feel better about the arrangement if my first u.s. were this week, rather than next monday, but that's life...

We won't be telling others until we get through the first tri.

glycerine1281 · November 2009

I've been really worried about this actually. We want to tell parents ONLY at Thanksgiving. I'm confident that DH's parents and my dad can keep the secret, but my mom is going to be so crazy excited that she'll likely say something that will give it away. She'd be the one to ask me how I'm feeling on FB so all those friends would wonder too. We don't plan to tell anyone else till Chrismas. Our first appointment isn't until Dec. 10th. We're both nervous for the appointment too so that's why I'd like a little support incase we fiind out bad news, but DH isn't quite sure what the right thing is. I suppose things will go down the way they're supposed to.

ashleyy0219 · November 2009

glycerine1281:
I've been really worried about this actually. We want to tell parents ONLY at Thanksgiving. I'm confident that DH's parents and my dad can keep the secret, but my mom is going to be so crazy excited that she'll likely say something that will give it away. She'd be the one to ask me how I'm feeling on FB so all those friends would wonder too. We don't plan to tell anyone else till Chrismas. Our first appointment isn't until Dec. 10th. We're both nervous for the appointment too so that's why I'd like a little support incase we fiind out bad news, but DH isn't quite sure what the right thing is. I suppose things will go down the way they're supposed to.

We're having the same issue, both our dad's and my mom can keep a secret but my MIL and stepmom can't keep a secret to save their life! Our first appt isn't until 12/30 so that seems like forever from now...I don't know how I'm going to keep my mouth shut!

hillbillysunshine · November 2009

We won't be telling anyone until after 1st tri. The BF and I are generally private people, so it's not THAT hard for us to keep the secret.

Dec31stBride · November 2009

Just told our parents on Sunday - a few days shy of 12 weeks. Last time we told them around 10 or 11 weeks - after we heard a hb at the dr's office. My brother already knew for awhile (he'd been asking alot and we're pretty close). We'll tell extended family on Thurs, and I'll probably tell my boss next week.

mexicolombiana · November 2009

Hey Ashley, first of all I think I'm also 4 weeks 6 days based on my last period! and I took 3 HPGTs last saturday and told my mom, dad, my DH's mom, dad and my brother and his sister immediately! The next day I told like 4 of my close friends and I think that's all I'm telling until after my 1st dr's appointment on 12/29.

I also play volleyball monday nights on an all women's team and told just 2 of the women (who are moms) on the team after the game to see how long I should play until, and one of the women said she didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks becasue she was scared of a m/c. I could never wait that long to tell close friends and family. The rest of my friends, boss, co-workers I'm thinking of telling after week 10. But that's just me!

wordbox · November 2009

We're waiting until after the first ultrasound... only me, my husband, and my best friend know right now.

emi_girl23 · November 2009

We told our parents and siblings at 5wks, and some how the news leaked out. I had a lady that I don't even know congratulate me on making my parents grandparents at the grocery store the other day....that was an akward hug...I live in a small town obviously.

ashleyy0219 · November 2009

mexicolombiana:
Hey Ashley, first of all I think I'm also 4 weeks 6 days based on my last period! and I took 3 HPGTs last saturday and told my mom, dad, my DH's mom, dad and my brother and his sister immediately! The next day I told like 4 of my close friends and I think that's all I'm telling until after my 1st dr's appointment on 12/29.
I also play volleyball monday nights on an all women's team and told just 2 of the women (who are moms) on the team after the game to see how long I should play until, and one of the women said she didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks becasue she was scared of a m/c. I could never wait that long to tell close friends and family. The rest of my friends, boss, co-workers I'm thinking of telling after week 10. But that's just me!

My first Dr's appt is 12/30 we'll have to share our experiences! I'm also kinda nervous because I'm known by my family to enjoy wine so the fact that I will not be drinking any at Thanksgiving dinner will be a dead give away to my family so my thought is they're gonna figure it out anyways I might as well tell them!

MexicoBride0507 · November 2009

We are telling our families on Thanksgiving. Last time I had to keep it a secret until Christmas which was so hard given my m/s. DH and I have already told a few close friends.

homebird · November 2009

I told my parents at 8 weeks. I would have told them earlier, but I wanted to see them in person, and we couldn't get home until then.

2bMrsAnderson · November 2009

Told parents/siblings at 7 wks (it was after our first drs appt and u/s to date LO).

DH told his work at 8 wks - (we new once we got ku that we wanted to move closer to family, so he had to start working on transfering stores, also he works at a pharmacy so if you add up all the drugs I was on, wont be that hard to figure out...

Friends: 12 wks

My work (other than my boss @ 8wks b/c on bad m/s)- 17 wks, wanted to wait until after 12 wks, after m/s was gone or until people started talking. I did tell the one other girl in my dept, just so that if I really had a problem and my boss wasnt around someone new what was going on.

2010mommy! · November 2009

It's really important to me that my mother be the first to hear the news. In addition, I wanted to do it in person, so we're waiting until Xmas (we're visiting my family then--they live across the country), when I'll be 15w. We'll call DH's family right after to tell them. And then our friends.

I'm not telling work until after the Xmas holiday, at which point I'll be about 17w.

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