SIL and BIL are going to start TTC (vent)

mrshoppy_1231 · November 2009

While I should be happy and excited for them all I can feel is panic and animosity and I hate it that I feel that way! I don't know what I'll do if she gets pregnant before we do... it will hurt more than the normal announcements!

I know she was trying to be nice - she knows about our struggles - but she called DH yesterday and said she hopes it's not weird but they are going on vacation for 2 weeks in December and they "hope to get pregnant while they are there". 1 month off the pill and apparently not a clue about ovulation or anything. And it will probably happen right away for them.

Will I ever feel normal when I hear about others TTC or getting pregnant?!

OK, vent over. Thanks for the support ladies!

*jenjen* · November 2009

I think it will always hurt hearing how easy it is for some after we have to go through so much. I totally understand...I've tried to be happy for others because it's not their fault that we are having issues, but it's just so hard. ((hugs)) I hope you get your bfp soon and maybe yall can share the experiences together.

njdcgirl · November 2009

Unfortunately, it doesn't get easier, and it is so hard when it is family. I think we've all felt jealous at one time or another. It is an awful feeling...but normal. Hang in there - you don't know if it will work right away for them or not. Practice your smile and "that's great...congrats" just in case. ((HUGS))

Dee1028 · November 2009

*jenjen*:
I think it will always hurt hearing how easy it is for some after we have to go through so much. I totally understand...I've tried to be happy for others because it's not their fault that we are having issues, but it's just so hard. ((hugs)) I hope you get your bfp soon and maybe yall can share the experiences together.

this is exactly what I was going to post but in different words

Dragonfly1226 · November 2009

I'm so sorry hon. I have been there. That feeling of panic is horrible. I really hope you get your sticky BFP soon.

(((((hugehugs)))))

Dochas · November 2009

I know how you feel. I love my nextdoor neighbors and they just got married. I keep thinking she's going to get pregnant right away and what will I do. And then I feel horrible. So don't be hard on yourself. Besides - I find it weird when people announce they're going to start trying.

cjdub13 · November 2009

I am terrified that my little sister and her husband will announce they are pregnant soon. ?I get anxious talking to her sometimes. ?My mom assures me they are waiting until their anniversary. ?I know her life can't stop because our plans are not working the way we wanted them, but I know it will hurt if they get PG right away and we are on our 19th cycle. ?Life is just not fair sometimes.

CJ71903 · November 2009

I'm the same way. My sister recently told me that her and my BIL were going to start TTC. She's off BC and I think she's been tracking ovulation using an internet ovulation chart. While I don't want them to have the problems like we've been having (she only has one ovary), I will be quite sad if they get pregnant before we do. It only makes sense that she would get pregnant before me though since almost everyone else seems to. I'm kind of expecting it, in a way, which probably won't make it any less painful when it happens.

yodasmistress · November 2009

My SIL and BIL started TTC a year after us, took 2 years and 2 IVFs and they still beat us to the punch. And their twins will be the first grandkids AND great grandkids. Their news literally broke my heart. But what can you do? Sadly, it's just life.

mrshoppy_1231 · November 2009

Thanks for the support ladies, I appreciate it so much. It's such an awful feeling - Of course I want it for them and don't want them to have any issues but I want it for myself too!

Hopefully we'll all get our sticky BFPs soon!

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