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Help me understand what this means (if anything)

DoubleDiamondDoubleDiamond
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I work for a Board of Directors. 

I have not had a good experience with a new member of the Board.  Ever. 

I think he's a jerk.

He thinks I'm "resistant." 

I requested a lunch meeting with him in an effort to appear "open" and to mend bridges. 

I emailed him earlier today to confirm our meeting.  He replied. 

"Yes, and Board Chair will be coming with us."

That's fine.  I'm cool with the Board Chair. 

But he requested that my Outlook send him notification upon my receipt of the email.

Does that mean nothing?  Or something?  Because I feel like I'm not trusted or something.  None of his other emails have come with that request.  Am I crazy?  Being defensive?  Or is something up?

"I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy." J.D. Salinger Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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Re: Help me understand what this means (if anything)

  • mfransdellmfransdell member
    Maybe he just adjusted his settings?
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  • kiki-Wkiki-W

    sounds like he wants to keep a paper trail for some reason. do you think he wants to make a complaint about you?

    EDIT: keep it nice on paper and throw him some elbows in the halls. ;)

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  • TimsMayBrideTimsMayBride member

    I've done the same but because I work with someone who is constantly claiming she doesn't receive emails.  (Even emails she had relplied to!)  I think he has some trust issues and is coming from a place of defensiveness - hence the 3rd wheel at your lunch.  Sorry he's being such a ***.

    ETA:  Geez bump - last word was d!ck.  *** and Jane.  *** and Harry.  See, it's not so bad.

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  • mfransdellmfransdell member
    I also have to add how much I *despise* those read receipts. Seriously, I'll get to your email when I get to it! It's so irritating.
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  • ShleiShlei
    That's odd. I send that return receipt request when I don't want someone to pretend they didn't read my email. It sounds like he's covering his butt so you can't get mad and say you didn't know the Board Chair was coming along (I'm not saying that you would).
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  • surprisebaby4us2009surprisebaby4us2009 member
    Hmmmm, i would be wondering the same as you.  Sorry im no help but good luck at the meeting!
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  • in my lifein my life member
    I had a similar issue with someone on our board at work. You may be overanalyzing, but I tend to do the same thing. It would seem to me he wants another set of "ears" there to be part of the conversation. Or it could be totally innocent, and the request could just be to make sure you received the info.
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  • DoubleDiamondDoubleDiamond
    imagekiki-W:

    sounds like he wants to keep a paper trail for some reason. do you think he wants to make a complaint about you?

    EDIT: keep it nice on paper and throw him some elbows in the halls. ;)

    LOL @ your edit!  :)

    He joined while I was on mat leave and complained about how "DoubleDiamond isn't doing much."  Another Board member was like, "Um, she's not WORKING you fool" and told me about it.  Then, when I got back, we all had a meeting together to catch up and regroup.  He had a bunch of hairbrained ideas and I smile and nodded, but I did say when I thought something wouldn't work or hadn't worked in the past (all in the most polite and kind way possible).  It was after that meeting that I found out (from the same Board member pal) that he had said, "Gee, she sure is resistant to our opinions, isn't she?"  WTF? 

    So, it's possible that he has complaints about me in general.  And I just don't get it. 

    "I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy." J.D. Salinger Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • mavilabridemavilabride member

    He probably set it up so that you don't later say you didn't know the chair would be there.

    Hopefully its nothing.  I can't stand passive agressive "higher ups"

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  • Mrs_mamMrs_mam
    People at my office definitely overuse the read receipt option on email. He probably used it just to confirm to himself that you know the board chair is coming. But I don't doubt that he's a jerk!
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  • MrsBattyMrsBatty
    passive aggressive people = VOMIT.  
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