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hterry85
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A SS ? & AW
hterry85
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So first my question. I grew up with two sisters, and as I'm learning, little girls play MUCH differntly than little boys lol SS is 3, and has a brother with BM who is 6. Having no kids typically to play with when with us, I'm sure he plays with his brother more than anyone else. Anyway, I'm just not sure if I'm ok with the way he plays. He likes to play "fight" with people (DH, my sister, BIL, again, not really any other kids around when he's with us. But he does know he can't with me because of the baby) I also hate when he makes gun noises. It's *usually* not at people, just pretend ghosts or monsters or whatever. But still. I don't like it. Is this just how little boys play and I was never aware of it, or should we be saying no way, you're too young for that??
Anyway, then last night ss and I were driving home and he was asking me about certain people in is life and who they are to him (ie grandpa S is BM's dad). Then he came to me....I was pretty curious what he would say, since, because of his age the whole mom/sm thing hasn't really been brought up much. He thought for a minute, and said...you're my favorite Heather! Well...I'm his only Heather, but I'll let that part go. lol
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Re: A SS ? & AW
I can honestly tell you that playing rough/with guns is not only a normal thing but a is co-ed.
It all depends on his surroundings. My sis and I grew up in a neighborhood FULL of boys (both older and younger than us). We played with matchbox cars, GI Joes (no Barbie for us) and then our version of Star Wars (hey, I am almost 40).
My cousin's son only has little girls for neighbors and friends and he plays less agressive games.
YOU as parents provide the backdrop to their imaginative play.
My DH loves to wrestle and play fight with the boys. Your SS sounds perfectly normal.
If the "gun noises" are all the time, every minute, you can set limits. Obvious limitations: not at the table, not during reading, not during naptime...
He's also not too young to talk about what is appropriate in different settings. For example, our school has a "no pretend guns" rule so kids don't pretend to shoot at each other on the playground. So, we used the same rules at any park or playground. The boys play games where they "shoot" at enemies, but it's only in their playroom or backyard, and not where other kids are playing.
I grew up as one of three girls and we have this type of conversation a lot at our house:
Me: Why is he tearing stuff up/breaking things/running around pretending to shoot things/basically wreaking havoc?
DH: blank look
Me: Seriously, should I be worried?
DH: That he has a penis?
Me: Oh.
I started getting REALLY worried when DS would giggle and laugh hysterically about how he was going to cook us in the oven or blow us up or something. Tom & Jerry is no longer allowed in our home. Problem solved.
Yes! This is how I feel! Last night ss took a plastic (like a soft bendable plastic) construction hat and told me he was going to break it. And then he crumpled it all up. I was in awe, why would you do that to your toys!? And then he told me he was going to fix and proceeded to pop it back out to it's normal shape (well, now a little crumpled normal shape) This way of playing is totally lost on me lol
I asked my Fi the other day if he thought the things my nephew was saying were normal, for example he never wants to drive his cars he always has to crash them. As above he said he will shoot my brother and at halloween he wanted to be a ghost, we tried to teach him the whole trick or treat saying but all he wanted to do was make ghost/monster noises frighten people.
My Fi told me no it was not normal and he would hate if SS behaved like that. It really hurt my feelings, but after reading this my nephew sounds totally normal.
Although I can imagine it may be upsetting, I think that is typical little boy behavior... I hate guns too, and will not want my son to play with them, but - I dont think that he is doing anything out of the ordinary.
And I think that is really cute about you being "his Heather"!!! That had to make you feel good
That's normal. My SS is almost 8 and makes the gun noises. I hate it, for no other reason than its an annoying and repetitive sound. I don't usually get on him about it, just tell him to go into his room to play with the gun noises and stuff.
The ONLY time I jumped on him was he did it right in my face when I was bending over to get something in the dryer for him, and those gun noises create a lot of spit. Didn't do it on purpose but still unnecessary.
Either way DH and I usually just tell him to chill out or go to his room to do it. Let him do it, its a boy thing, just make sure you get him trained young to stop when you say stop! LOL