2nd miscarriage...now what

lahorn · November 2009

we just had our 2nd miscarriage, go for our D&C tomorrow. i am at a loss for words. i wasnt even that connected with this pregnancy becuase of the loss in may,i felt like i couldnt get attached to this little baby yet, but i was still excited when we went for our u/s today. then became heartbroken when we were told once again the baby had no heartbeat. we are decidin to do bloodwrok this time, check to see if anything is wrong with me. anyone relate??anyone do testing and they find nothing wrong with you, or if they did do testing and found something wrong, what did they find.

we are both very upset, but i almost expected it this time, i dunno, i just feel like this wasnt our time again....i hope sometime soon is.

HeatherPB1020 · November 2009

I am so sorry for your loss.

KarlsSweetie05 · November 2009

I'm sorry for your loss. (HUGS).

After my first m/c, I was able to the bloodwork for the recurrent pg loss (RPL) panel. I had a thyroid problem and blood clotting issue that needed medication to resolve.

After my 2nd m/c, I was able to send the remains for testing (chromosome and karotyping) to see if there was something genetically wrong with the baby. I am waiting for those results now.

I would try to do both this time if you are able so maybe you can get some answers.

pepomntpat · November 2009

I am so very sorry for your losses. {{hugs}}

Lissa832 · November 2009

I go to my follow up on Monday, and they are going to start the bloodwork that day. This is my 4th m/c. My OB doesn't think they will find anything wrong though because I have had a successful pregnancy. I'm sorry that you are here.

Sonadora · November 2009

I'm so sorry for your losses.

ladyluxe · November 2009

I'm so sorry...I just found out that I'm having my 2nd miscarriage too. Both blighted ovums. My dr. took blood yesterday from me and DH to do some genetics testing...results won't come for a month. I am having a D&C next week--she said they can test the tissue but because it's a blighted ovum there's prob nothing really they can test. but it's worth asking for it. good luck with everything.

KelandJohnW · November 2009

I am sorry for your loss, I know the frustration all to well,as I have also miscarried in may and now as of yesterday I just found out I have a blighted ovum. I was supposed to be 8wks 5 days but it only measured 6wks 5 days, and no baby inside. It is very frustrating. I have not done any testing,but I know plenty of people on this board have. I know its hard but try to stay positive. (((HUGS)))

Temp950106187509203 · November 2009

I'm so sorry for your losses. I hope your procedure tomorrow goes smoothly and that you get a good/useful report from the testing. {{hugs}}

grr_aargh · November 2009

I'm sorry for your loss.

Our 2nd m/c was really tough on me. The first was very emotional -- the second made me SO ANGRY. I was so mad and felt like my body was failing me. I only tell you that because if/when you have those emotions, I want you to know that they are normal. When we had our 2nd miscarriage, I read a very good book called "Coming to Term." It was incredibly healing for me to read - and inspirational.

RNCCRN9706 · November 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss. It stinks...it really does. I miscarried last week myself and it still seems like a bad bad dream.

MarriedInMay06 · November 2009

I also had a miscarriage in May at about 10 weeks and two weeks ago at 5 weeks. The first was extremely emotional and the second being frustrating. I had a D&C done after the first and didn't have testing done. After this one my doctor tested me for Lupus and other things. I tested - for Lupus, but they did find a MTHFR gene mutation which after a bit of reading is something that could cause clotting and issues with folate. My dr has asked that I take 1 mg of folic acid and baby aspirin along with my prenatal and we will go from there. I hope that is the answer for us. Best of luck to you and sorry for the loss, it sucks!

teachinbr · November 2009

I had my second miscarriage a little over 2 months ago. We had genetic testing at the D&C and found out the baby had trisomy 16. It was a twin pregnancy, and the twin was a blighted ovum. My first miscarriage was a chemical pregnancy. Since all 3 babies had a chromosome problem, my OB did not do testing on me. Instead, she referred us to a genetic specialist that feels we do not need testing on us for chromosome issues. Said all three lost babies have been "bad division of chromosomes." At this point, I am not giving up. He said we have a 98-99% chance of having a healthy baby next time. I have been counting down to TTC again, and that is what is getting me through this.

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