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Are you kidding me?!? (vent)

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So I went into work this morning (I'm a nanny and I just started working with a new family since I just moved) and the mother of the kids I watch said she had noticed that I've seemed upset lately and wanted to know if I was okay. I had not even told her I was pg (I didn't really want to tell anyone until I hit my 2nd trimester), so I hadn't told her about my m/c. I decided it might help to talk to someone, so I told her what had happened.

 Her response:

"Oh, well it was probably for the best, you're too young anyway."

 Are you serious???? I lost my child, not my favorite DVD! Yes, I'm 19, and it was unplanned, but how does that change my ability to raise a child? I am responsible, I am in a great relationship with a wonderful and supportive guy, and I have a full-time job where I take care of her children all day! Not to mention the fact that this was coming from the mother of the most poorly behaved children I have ever met, and I've been working with kids for years. I am not the first 19-year-old to get pg, and I certainly won't be the last.

 She then went on to tell me about how being pg and unmarried wouldn't make me the best role model. So rude.

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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    People should keep their opinions to themselves.  {{hugs}}
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  • Cissi64Cissi64
    What you do is no ones business unless it is negatively impacting them. She is probably worried about having to look for another nanny if you have a child of your own. I believe I would make her nightmare come true and look for another job.
    dd(Brianna) 11/01/94, ds(Bram)10/17/95, ds(Jesse)9/26/97, dd (Annie Ruth) 7/27/05 5mc Jan '08, May '08, Feb '09, Sept '09, Apr '11 "And can it be that in a world so full and busy, the loss of one weak creature makes a void in any heart, so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of vast eternity can fill it up." - Charles Dickens

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  • TapsalteerieTapsalteerie member

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    What you do is no ones business unless it is negatively impacting them. She is probably worried about having to look for another nanny if you have a child of your own. I believe I would make her nightmare come true and look for another job.

    I agree with this.

    And to the person who 1-starred this post.  Go to hell.

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  • JuJuBe3JuJuBe3

    Wow, how frickin' awful!  You are grieving a loss and she should have shown a little sensitivity.  Her reasoning just sucks too.  I mean, in her mind you're too young, but it's okay for you to be a nanny to her kids?!?

    And her kids aren't well-behaved, wonder where they got that from?

    I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.  Hope your day gets better.

     

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  • KarlsSweetie05KarlsSweetie05 member

    wow.  shaking  head.  just wow.

     I think I'd be looking for a new family to work for. 

     sorry that happened. that is just unbelievable.

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  • RNCCRN9706RNCCRN9706
    People say dumb things...especially when they've never experienced it firsthand.
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  • jesseandbrijesseandbri
    Open mouth, insert foot.  She is pretty good at that.  Sorry!
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  • kymomakymoma
    that is really hurtful. I can't believe she said that. I'm sorry you have to have her as a boss!
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  • jgoetz:)jgoetz:)
    People can be so dumb...You're obviously too good to work for her.  I just went back to work today after my D&C and one of my co-workers said to me, "It's probably for the best... Now you can finish out the year and just try again later."  (I am a teacher)  Yes, it's much better to lose my baby so I can work with my class the last 2 weeks of the school year...People are so dumb!
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