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WOW! Stupid comment from an anti-BWer

mybabylove2009mybabylove2009
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DS and I were out shopping and I always wear my moby to go shopping, cause I am afraid of someone snatching him in the carseat if I turned around to grab something.

So I had him in his moby, doing my shopping and this lady comes up to me and asks me if I can't afford a carseat and thats why I'm wearing him in "that piece of fabric" I kindly explained that his carseat is heavy, and that this is easier for me to keep him close and safe.

I have NEVER even associated baby wearing as a social class thing. I was so dumbfounded that anyone would assume I couldn't afford a carseat because he wasn't in it in the store. WTF? Of course we have a carseat! We have a complete travel system. I just don't like using it that much, its huge and bulky feeling. 

Ugh people are dumb!  

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  • HuneyofJeremyHuneyofJeremy

    Ummm...Wow!

    I had someone once that would not leave me alone about it being bad for my back and how I was ruining my back. I kept telling her Thank you, and getting louder each time. It was like 5 minutes of it. People are crazy.

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  • Jelliebean1982Jelliebean1982

    You should have seen if you could have gotten a free carseat out of her.  "No, I'm so desperate I cannot afford a carseat for my LO.  Can you please help me out and buy one for me?"  What would she have said then?! 

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  • mybabylove2009mybabylove2009
    imageJelliebean1982:

    You should have seen if you could have gotten a free carseat out of her.  "No, I'm so desperate I cannot afford a carseat for my LO.  Can you please help me out and buy one for me?"  What would she have said then?! 

    LOVE IT! I was just soooooooo shocked! Its not like Moby's are cheap either!  

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  • ashleyhuneyashleyhuney member

    Huh, interesting.  My association with BWing is the opposite, but I guess if you really just don't know....

    And I actually did carry DS in "a piece of fabric," homemade stretchy wrap baby ;)

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  • HippinskiHippinski
    Oh wow.  I would have gotten in trouble for my response.  It would not have been PC.
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  • mybabylove2009mybabylove2009

    imageHippinski:
    Oh wow.  I would have gotten in trouble for my response.  It would not have been PC.

    Oooh lets hear it!  

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  • cubitscubits member

    A man asked me this on the subway once.  "Could I not afford a stroller?"  I was sitting with another mother who had just started up a lovely conversation about midwives and a pregnant woman.  We gave him hell.  It was hilarious. 

     

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  • mybabylove2009mybabylove2009
    awesome! 
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  • MrsErinnElizabethMrsErinnElizabeth

    Who asks whether or not you can afford something anyway??  You don't go around asking her whether or not she can afford better clothes or a nose job.  

    Besides, what if you actually couldn't afford it and burst into tears or something?  I'd be tempted to do that and run out of the store bawling just to see her reaction.  Haha.

    I wear DD when shopping because she sleeps through the whole trip (she wakes up in her stroller every time) and I can help DH much more easily.  Easier to avoid shopping cart traffic jams as well.  I get a lot of stares (wraps and carriers are not super common in AU) but mostly complete fascination and appreciation.  I'm sure there are a few naysayers out there, but they haven't said anything to me yet.  Lucky for them because I have a crapload of awesome comebacks after reading this board ;)   

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  • MissyOlivePantsMissyOlivePants
    she obviously does not know how expensive they are.  I want an ergo but can't afford. :(
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  • mybabylove2009mybabylove2009
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    i once implied that someone couldn't afford a carseat (i was being totally snarky).  i was 17 and was driving to Walmart, and i saw in my rearview mirror that the lady driving the car behind me (in the turn lane turning into Walmart also) was driving while holding a baby.  She looked like she was probably the baby (maybe 6 months old?)'s grandmother.

    i would have let it go but she happened to park right beside me.  i said, "i just got paid today from my after school job, and i would love to buy you a carseat for the baby.  i feel so bad that you have to carry him in your lap like that.  Really, i don't mind.  i have $100."  She just said, "Uh, no thanks."

    i felt a little badly about it later, but really, who does that?  Even 17 years ago that was an obvious no-no to, i would have thought, EVERYONE.  BUT i was also a kid.  i can't imagine a grown person saying something like that, especially when the baby isn't in any sort of danger.  It would be different if you were wearing the baby while driving...maybe.

    I would have been way meaner...I would have called 911. I saw something simular on the freeway when we were going to visit my DH at work a couple weeks ago. This can next to me had the baby out of the carseat and I'm guessing it was the babies older brother was holding him in the back seat! PLAYING WITH HIM!

    I slowed down enough to get their license # and called 911. they had a carseat too!!! 

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  • SoonToBeTaborSoonToBeTabor

    I would have said only rich people BW or something like

    "My husbands a millionaire, go away peasant"

     

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  • MrsErinnElizabethMrsErinnElizabeth
    imageSoonToBeTabor:

    I would have said only rich people BW or something like

    "My husbands a millionaire, go away peasant"

     

    LOL

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  • sweetpea7628sweetpea7628

    Uh..you can't bring a baby to a store without a carseat.  Doesn't she get that?!

    Edit: Assuming you drove to the store that is.

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  • EveryNameIWantIsTakenEveryNameIWantIsTaken member
    You do realize that you are crazy because you want to actually hold your child, right?  I mean, isn't that what they invented infant carriers for in the first place?
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  • nadiarlnadiarl member
    imageSoonToBeTabor:

    I would have said only rich people BW or something like

    "My husbands a millionaire, go away peasant"

     

    LMFAO! This is something my mom would say. I love it!

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