due date blues

nobodygirl1983 · November 2009

This is my first time back on the bump since miscarrying back in April. My due date was November 10th. As soon as a I woke up that morning, everything was awful. It really didn't help that 3 of my closest friends wanted to "check on me" to see if I was okay. Anyone else just want to tell people not to talk about it anymore?

ButterflyMommy2009 · November 2009

Yes i know exactly what you mean, tomorrow i should be 20 wks preggers, and well, I lost my baby boy at 18wks 2days. I cant help but to keep counting the days going, if i was still preggers i would be this far along and still wearing my maternity clothes, this just sux!

nobodygirl1983 · November 2009

Yeah, I still have a huge bag of maternity clothes (still with tags) waiting for me in the top of my closet. I was only 12 wks, but had started buying all the cute clothes I saw! Don't worry, we will wear them again one day!

*kendrick* · November 2009

I am sorry for your loss. I am dreading my due date, but it is still far away.

While there is no right length of time to grieve, have you processed through the grief fully? I may be wrong on this, but if you were fully healed wouldn't you be sort of okay with talking about it? If you do have any lingering feelings, adressing them--even if it stinks and hurts--is probably a wise thing for the long term. And if I am way off base here, and you have fully processed, fully healed, and just are ready to move on--you've talked about it as much as you possible can and are just DONE--that makes sense, too.

I don't at all mean any judgement or to impose any "standard of grief"--we all are different-- I just figure that this is the place where we can ask each other these tough questions out of love. And you are much further out from your loss than I am, so I have no idea what going through that milestone date feels like.

ala_1220 · November 2009

I'm so sorry. I hope you get your baby really soon.

I'm am the opposite...and everyone is different. I don't want people to forget that I was pregnant, that I had a little girl growing inside of me, and don't want them to forget my due date. Now, I may not want to talk to them and want to be by myself that day, but I hope someone remembers.