Nightly checkin/ Morning check in (since its soo late)

ButterflyMommy2009 · November 2009

Hello Ladies! I just first and foremost want to say that through this tough time i am so greatful and blessed to have been able to meet you all, and feel that i am no longer alone in this strugle that others really just do not understand.

I was wanting to check in with everyone and see how everyone is doing? I know you are probably thinking "how do you think we are doing", but I was just wanting to make sure everyone is doing okay, to the best we at this point in our lives can be doing, say god bless and thank you all for such support and that i am glad in this rough time to have found you all!

So, is anyone getting ready for black friday? Anyone finished thier holiday shopping yet? Do you plan on doing holiday shopping out and about or online? What do you hope the DH gets you for christmas?? Anything inparticular?

Thoughts and Prayers are with everyone!

schen0510 · November 2009

As you know...good days and bad days. Yesterday was a not so good day. I am hoping today is a better.

DH and I are totally getting ready for Black Friday. I think he likes it even more than I do...LOL...who would have thought. It is his chance to shop for deals on cool electronic gadgets which he loves. As for finishing holiday shopping...we have only purchased 1 gift so far and it was really random and not something we were looking for. We will probably do a little of both for our holiday shopping. I would prefer to stay at home this season but sometimes it is just easier to go to the store.

As for my xmas gift...I really don't want anything that I could have. I know that it sounds horrible but I just can't think of anything. DH did buy me a knew car a couple of weeks ago...although of course my salary contributes to all of that...LOL. We are also going away for the weekend in December so I am just happy with that. Gifts seem so unnecessary this year.

candylies · November 2009

Doing okay here, just gearing up for Thanksgiving which is definitely keeping me distracted. My dad doesn't know we are trying and doesn't know about the m/c so I won't get questions about it and my sister who I did tell I know won't mention it unless I bring it up first so that's good. And so that will make for a good thanksgiving. Smile

I am scrooging it up for xmas, i decided. Just not into it, for obvious reasons. Made the mistake of already telling DH of my determination to be a scrooge and so he is already trying to annoy me with xmas music! He so likes to tease me endlessly but it does make me laugh so it's all good.

What I really want for xmas is to just go away, like to Vegas or something! But I don't think that is happening. I would forego everything else on my wishlist if I could just be taken away for the long weekend and just not really think about it.

JuJuBe3 · November 2009

Ups and downs here too. I actually had a good weekend, but still broke down here and there.

I don't do Black Friday. I enjoy my sleep more than the savings, I guess. We did some shopping this weekend and will order some online and will likely be almost done in the next week. That feels good.

As for Christmas, I agree with pp, all I want it to get away. Time with DH and no obligations for events when we'd rather be alone.

Hope you all have a great week!

triple_sevens · November 2009

I thought today would be a horrible day (like Friday was) after I woke up at 4:30 am crying. But it was actually okay. I went down to my parents' house to celebrate my sister's engagement with her future in-laws and had a really good time. It was so nice to be with my family and to play with my silly little dog in the back yard. She loved chasing leaves.

Now my back is killing me and I'm having major cramps (post-d&c). But emotionally, I'm alright.

pepomntpat · November 2009

I can say right now, I am doing okay. We've moved into our new home and have the huge task of unpacking before us. I have to care for my four cats and my dog who are having a rough time adjusting-especially one particular cat. So I do not have a lot of time to feel sad. The grief counselor I spoke with, said this is a good thing as long as I set aside specific times to talk about, write about, think about my grief.

I spent a lot of time on that yesterday-went to church, prayed, spoke with some people I didn't realize were even friends (amazing who reaches out in rough times) spent time with DH and didn't do a whole lot. We talked about Ellen (our name for our baby) a lot. Talked some about trying again. I am worried right now about telling people if/when we get our next BFP. I realized I will never get to tell them about our first baby again and that a lot of our joy will always be tainted with some sadness due to our loss. I don't know if those feelings will ever change.

I booked our cruise for the week of Christmas so we have that to look forward to. I'm going Christmas shopping with my sister on Saturday. I really am looking forward to Thanksgiving and all the wonderful food. I am not looking forward to the part where my mom freaks out the whole day because her mother, her husband, her dogs all hate her and conspire against her. I am not looking forward to the fact that my whole family (with the exception of my brother) refuse to let me talk about my baby Ellen. But, since we are not taking our dog with us this year, we have him as an exit strategy. Sorry, mom, gotta go take care of Guinness!

I guess that was rather long. But, just have to say that we are getting through this a day at a time.

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