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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
What is one thing your parents did that you promised you would not do with your LO
My dad was always brutally honest to the point where, "Wipe the make up off your face you look like a W*hore" was normal. As a result I have become accustomed to being brutally honest at times and have to think twice before responding. I have promised myself not to be this tactless with my daughter.
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Re: What is one thing your parents did that you promised you would not do with your LO
(0-3 is slow)
My ma slapped me across the face and called me a 'little ***' when I was 6. Yeah-definitely won't repeat that one.
At six? Oh wow
My parents brought me books. I would have rather heard it from them.
Wow! I was edited. It was B*tc*-incase you didn't get it. Yeah-we still have mother/daughter problems. Things never really changed from then.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Growing up, my mom was super hard on me and so easy on my sister. (I swear, I'm not just saying that because it was me) We would both get punished if she did something wrong but I would be the only one to get punished if I did something to get into trouble. I always had to pay my own insurance, cell phone, etc. I had a job when I was 15. My sister didn't work until she was almost out of college and she never paid for anything (my parents bought her several vehicles). So, I always swore that I would not show favoritism with my kids.
For the record, my mom and I have since talked about this and we are totally cool now. But she knows that she treated us differently and says that she regrets it because it caused so much friction between all of us when we were growing up.
Ah-it is what it is. Thankfully I had a lot of friends' moms to step in when I needed one.
My brother and I are the same age. My parents have admitted to favoring him because he was "easy"
I love my mom to death, and we're very close but numerous times over my childhood she's told me to "Go do some sit-ups, you're getting a tummy"
Thankfully she never pressed it more than a comment or two before moving on. I never did the sit-ups and I've never been even close to overweight. I whole-heartedly believe in helping Lilly see that being healthy is important, but I'll never tell her to go exercise her tummy away or anything close to it.
ETA: Also, I'm going to demand DH have numerous Daddy-Daughter dates over the years. I had a very rough relationship with my father growing up and even though we get along now, car rides are still awkwardly quiet. I figured that's how it was for everyone but my bff isvery, very close to her dad. I want Lilly to have that with H too. Especially since he'll often be gone for the military.
This Exactly!
have a more open conversation about sex and birth control......i think the reigns were on so tight that i just didnt know what the hell i was doing with my high school boyfriend. and i never had sex ed in school because my mom thought what they taught would encourage sex.....guess who had no clue about STDs etc....
anyhow, when my mom found out i was having sex with my BF she put me on the pill....still with no real talk about STDs or any of the other stuff that should have come along with it....
hmpf...if that is my only issue i have nothing to complain about
My mom received poor parenting and is actually a long-time mental health patient, so she did the best she could but there is a lot I will be doing differently. My dad was always very distant in one way or another. In the end, I often feel as though I raised myself and my brothers.
So, I want to be very present, very involved, and certainly grab a hold of the reigns a lot more than my parents did.
Although I knew I was loved we weren't an affectionate family. I don't remember hugs and kisses. I know I'll be more demonstrative with my love in that way.
My parents definitely took the roll as parent vs friend (which it should be) but I don't have any memories of playing with them. I want to interact more with my DS including running around with him at the park, family game nights, discussing foods at the grocery store and involve him in the cooking process.
We never took a family vacation, partly b/c we didn't have the money and I think the other part was that my parents didn't make it a priority. I think it's so important to show your child that the world is a much bigger place then their little town with people very different form the ones they grow up around. Those kind of life lessons can truly be life changing.
Mine is hard to explain. My dad was really affectionate, always told me he loved me, etc, but he didn't really show it. He was never around (he had to travel a lot with his job-not his fault), but when he was, he never really listened to me. He would end up "preaching" to me and figuring his speeches were all I needed and the problem would be solved.
He was also extremely stict when I got older. Extremely. I was a straight A student and rarely messed up....there was no reason for him to be that way. Once I was at a friend's older sister's wedding, I called and asked if I could stay a little later, my mom said sure. When I got home my dad screamed at me all night for wanting to stay out and that I was never going anywhere again. That's just one example.
I will not always be late picking him up and dropping him off. Its embarassing never being on time for school or birthday parties, and it sucks getting picked up 2 hours late from the airport when you're bringing your fiance home to meet your parents and you haven't seen them in a year.
my parents were always late for everything- sucked. they also beat the crap out of me- that's how they were raised. and they punished to the extreme- also started paying for everything myself when i was 13 & got my first job- but my brother got everything handed to him- lame.
so yeah- all of the above i'll be nixing.
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