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Validation about AP style comes from the most unexpected places.

otcotc
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One of my patients today was 3.5 months PP and we gave her different anesthetic agents due to her BFing and not pumping.  She is from Burma and is Karen-another cultural group, not Burmese, etc.  I was talking to her and her translator about how they care for their children, etc and they both laughed and said "Of course we sleep with our children, how could you expect them to sleep by themselves?, We do not let them CIO, how could anyone else sleep? We wear our babies as we can't carry them and get our work done.  We breastfeed until they no longer need to."

I really enjoyed our conversation:) 

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  • thomas930thomas930 member
    I'm mostly a lurker, but I must say that I wish our culture was more accepting of AP. It would make it a lot easier on those that choose to parent this way.  
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  • mybabylove2009mybabylove2009

    I totally believe that other cultures are way more AP friendly. This country is not AP friendly, I have gotten mean comments wearing him, NIPing, and I'm scared to death the mention we bedshare to people.  

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  • cobaltbluecobaltblue

    Love it.

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  • Dobie_MamaDobie_Mama
    Very cool.
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  • mopsiemopsie member
    I think the reason our culture is not as AP-friendly is because of the modernization of our society.  People let their babies CIO because they can be in a room on the other side of the house that doesn't affect other people's sleep.  We have video monitors and movement monitors and audio monitors that allow us to make sure our baby is surviving on its own.  Our culture is so different from so many others around the world... and even with all the technological discoveries that make us so "advanced", I'm not so sure we're better off this way.
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  • PaisleyDukePaisleyDuke
    Good stuff!
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  • QuazelQuazel member

    imagemopsie:
    I think the reason our culture is not as AP-friendly is because of the modernization of our society.  People let their babies CIO because they can be in a room on the other side of the house that doesn't affect other people's sleep.  We have video monitors and movement monitors and audio monitors that allow us to make sure our baby is surviving on its own.  Our culture is so different from so many others around the world... and even with all the technological discoveries that make us so "advanced", I'm not so sure we're better off this way.

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  • idtb82idtb82

    imagemopsie:
    I think the reason our culture is not as AP-friendly is because of the modernization of our society.  People let their babies CIO because they can be in a room on the other side of the house that doesn't affect other people's sleep.  We have video monitors and movement monitors and audio monitors that allow us to make sure our baby is surviving on its own.  Our culture is so different from so many others around the world... and even with all the technological discoveries that make us so "advanced", I'm not so sure we're better off this way.

    Exactly.

    It is so interesting to note the differences in cultures. The way people rear children now seems to be more tailored to the parent than the child. I think its also interesting to note that many other countries give a much longer maternity leave to mothers than this country gets. I am fortunate to not have to return to work right away, but I can imagine that it would be difficult (not impossible) to carry out the AP style with both parents at work 6 weeks after delivery. DH spends time in the Netherlands for work and he says that he notices so many children out with their parents. They are just part of their lives, as they should be. The parents he sees wear their children everywhere; on their bikes, walking around the city, at cafes...By contrast, it seems like I notice less children out here. When I am on my walks with DD in my moby, I get so many comments. None really negative, but mostly in awe of what I am doing, as if they have never seen someone carry their child like this. It's amazing how, if you really think about it, we are trying to change something so inherently part of us. Children thrive with this type of parenting style. (sorry for the long reply) 

     

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  • brideofaussiebrideofaussie

    Kind of an AW- but I visited a Karen village in Thailand.  amazing.

     

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