So... when does the happiness start?

Re: So... when does the happiness start?

• Erourke

  November 2009

  I would say what you're going through is NOT normal. You should talk to someone asap.

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• kimandjared member

  November 2009

  Erourke:

  I would say what you're going through is NOT normal. You should talk to someone asap.

  I agree. Talk to your Dr next time you are in. I know there are safe anti depressants that you can take during pregnancy. My SIL had to take them with her last 2 kids for depression and anxiety.
  

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• miaomi

  November 2009

  Hon, I think you need to let your partner know whats going on as well as another supportive family member (mom?) right now.  Then, the very next thing you need to do is call the doc...asap.  This is not normal and you most likely have prenatal depression.  This is a clinical problem and you are not losing it and there is nothing wrong with you.  It's most likely hormones and they can give you medication to level it out.  However, you can't continue feeling this depressed. It's not safe for you or your baby.  Please, Please, Please...reach out for help right away.  Good Luck!

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• Ciconrad member

  November 2009

  I agree with the pp - that is not normal.  Every pregnant woman has bad days and overwhelming moments where you think "what did I get myself into?" but the thoughts you are having go farther than that.  You should speak to your OB - symptoms of post partum can begin during pregnancy.  Lots of women go through this and it all works out but you should definitely consult a doctor.  GL!

  

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• goatwife

  November 2009

  I really don't feel comfortable taking anti-depressants.  I spent years on them and don't ever want to touch one ever again.  I'm not saying I don't want the help, but ... maybe counseling or some alternative.  I dunno.
  

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• IrishBrideND member

  November 2009

  goatwife:

  I really don't feel comfortable taking anti-depressants.  I spent years on them and don't ever want to touch one ever again.  I'm not saying I don't want the help, but ... maybe counseling or some alternative.  I dunno.
  

   

  I think, though, right now it isn't just about you and what you want. You need to look at the picture and do what is best for you and your children. I'm not saying meds are it, but don't write them off.

  
  Definitely talk to your doctor. GL!

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• RecentlySpooned

  November 2009

  In my very humble opinion, I would NOT wait until your next appointment.  I would absolutely call your doctor's office and explain to someone there that you feel comfortable with how you are feeling.  I think that chemical/hormonal changes that are happening to all of us effect each woman very differently....however....feeling like life is not worth living is not a pregnancy phase to go through. 

  I hope that with your doctors help you feel better soon.

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• zllade

  November 2009

  Oh dear! I would definitly seek help!  Whether from your Dr or from a counselor.  I know a girl who was the same way and she went on an anti-depressant and it helped tremendously!  Please talk to someone!  I'll be thinking of you!

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• ASmallWonder member

  November 2009

  Obviously I don't know you so I can't say for sure but this doesn't sound like something counseling will help.  If it really started out of the blue when you got pregnant, it sounds chemical.  My mother has chemical depression and the ONLY thing that helps her is medicine because she isn't actually upset ABOUT anything, you know?

  I hope you reach out to your doctor and get help - feel better. 

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• SteelCityBride member

  November 2009

  Please talk to your doctor ASAP.  Especially since you have a history of depression (assuming since you were on anti-depressants?  sorry if this is a wrong assumption). But as PPs have said, every pregnant woman has a bad day & feels very overwhelmed from time to time.  But it sounds like you're feeling much MUCH more than that.  Get some help.  Start with your partner & your doctor & go from there.  Good luck to you.

  

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• A8194 member

  November 2009

  

  goatwife:

  I really don't feel comfortable taking anti-depressants.  I spent years on them and don't ever want to touch one ever again.  I'm not saying I don't want the help, but ... maybe counseling or some alternative.  I dunno.
  

  You need to do something! I have been dealing with the same thing you are right now! I did not want to take the meds either....been there done that. My OB suggested talking to a counseler and I was hesitant at first but realized what I needed to do was stop thinking about what I wanted and start thinking about what is best for my baby. Depression can have horrible side affects on a pregnancy and I was not and am not willing to put my baby at risk. I have been seeing my couselor for just over a month now and am feeling SO much better already. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE talk to someone! Look at ALL of your options! There is help I promise and you can do this, take it from someone whose in your situation and pulling through and with a lot of smiles along the way I might add

  

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• dstar

  November 2009

  You need to call your dr./therapist asap.  This is not healthy for you and/or you LO.  I can understand not being happy.  I have been sick, my DH is on temporary disability (which is not coming through regularly) and is causing us very bad financial troubles and it is causing me extreme depression but not to the point of ending my life.  This is the unhealthy part and what you need to see someone for.  I, myself was on anti-depressants for over 10 years but went off due to the pg.  I will be going right back on them as soon as this baby is born.  The pills are the only thing that help me feel better.  Good luck to you and if you need to talk or anything please PM me.
  

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