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2nd time moms: Anyone have the blues last time?

HawaiiBrideGrmHawaiiBrideGrm
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I did. And I'm afraid of having the baby blues again this time. I'm sure I will, but hopefully it won't be as much of a "shock" as being a 1st time parent was. I think I cried hourly with my 1st baby, and it certainly didn't help that BFing was extremely difficult at first, AND she had reflux so she basically screamed until I was able to convince her pedi that something was definintely wrong on like day 10. Ugh.

I'm sooo not looking forward to that aspect of the postpartum period this time around, but hopefully, this baby won't have reflux and BFing will be easy peasy;)

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Re: 2nd time moms: Anyone have the blues last time?

  • madeleines_mommymadeleines_mommy member

    I did not w/ DD... but I am nervous that it could happen this time.  I lost my mom last year to a long cancer battle and I am not in the best "emotional" state, so I feel vulnerable.  I'm sure I'll be ok, but it makes me nervous.

    I hope things go better for you this time!! You are a pro now :)

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  • JerseyBeachGrlJerseyBeachGrl
    Wow--you sound just like me!  DS was colicky for the first 5 months of his life and would scream for 8 hours straight!  Plus, I was not able to breastfeed so I felt like a failure.  I would cry for hours on end. I finally called my doctor and told him he needed to prescribe me something because I was about to go to the airport and just run away somewhere.  It was brutal.  I'm praying DD won't be colicky.  I don't even know if I want to attempt to breastfeed this time because I'm scared I won't be able to again.  Good luck to you!
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  • Natesmom05Natesmom05
    For me, the 2nd baby was actually better. My first I think when my L&D "expectations" weren't met, I was crushed. With my 2nd, I went in knowing that things would probably be difficult but they would get better. I had much fewer breakdowns with baby #2. AND for me at least, BFing was a breeze the 2nd time. I was miserable with my 1st but my 2nd was so easy...no pain at all. I'm hoping my 3rd will be the same! 
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  • HawaiiBrideGrmHawaiiBrideGrm

    imageJerseyBeachGrl:
    Wow--you sound just like me!  DS was colicky for the first 5 months of his life and would scream for 8 hours straight!  Plus, I was not able to breastfeed so I felt like a failure.  I would cry for hours on end. I finally called my doctor and told him he needed to prescribe me something because I was about to go to the airport and just run away somewhere.  It was brutal.  I'm praying DD won't be colicky.  I don't even know if I want to attempt to breastfeed this time because I'm scared I won't be able to again.  Good luck to you!

    First of all, you are ADORABLE pregnant!!! I only *wish*..........

    As for not wanting to try BFing this time... DO IT! Know what I did? I kept at it, and although it almost cost me my sanity (not really, but kinda), I got a close friend to help me (who BF her 3 kids) and she was a Godsend. THEN, I went and got certified as a lactation education counselor LOL! (I am a nurse, however, so it wasn't totally off-base). Anyhow, then I was able to continue BFing DD until she was 21 mos! So, I experienced it all... failure, remorse, and I even quit when DD was like 6 weeks old. Then after 2 days, SHE let me know she wanted to BF, so we did, and all was cured. Odd, but it worked for us. I urge you to try or you may regret it. Won't be so bad the 2nd time around, I'm sure;)

    And I totally understand feeling like you wanted to run off to some tropical island and just "get away" from it all. At times, life seemed "impossible", but thankfully, my DH made me realize that we would all be ok:) GL this time!!!!!!!!!

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  • Temp633014937506593Temp633014937506593
    I too have been starting to worry about this. I wouldn't say I was crying alot, but I remember feeling down. I am just hoping this time it isn't any worse. Also I have just started to have a lot of anxiety in general about labor etc.
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