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Just need to vent ::sigh::

schen0510schen0510
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So many of you have probably read about my co-worker that has had to make a decision to end her pregnancy at almost 24 weeks due to severe fluid on the brain.  The doctors indicated that if the baby made it full term that the life expectancy would be short...possibly 3 months...and that there would be severe mental and physical disabilities.

So...she I believe she had her procedure today and I am not completely sure what she chose in the end but she was leaning towards the D&E.  So today...everyone and their mother found it necessary to come and talk to me and ask me questions about what she was going through, what she would be feeling physically, and when we should expect her back.

SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!  It has only been 3 months since I lost my little boys.  I try very hard to stay upbeat at work and not let others know how I really feel but come on.  Have some compassion.  What is wrong with people?  I may look okay but I am dieing inside...some days more than others. 

I just feel like people can be so nosey and in wanting to be in everybody elses business they forget their manners.

::sigh::  long day

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Re: Just need to vent ::sigh::

  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I find this behavior incredibly odd, insulting and insensitive - and I am really sorry you had to deal with it today. 

    I do not understand this idea that just because someone has had a loss, that they are now the go-to, encyclopedia, pregnancy loss expert. WTF. I cannot speak to anyone's losses but my own; I don't know anything medical or technical about what others might experience and I can't speak to how anyone will/should be feeling.

    This is why I get so irate, I guess, when people come to this board and ask "am I having a miscarriage" or "what does miscarriage feel like" or anything else like that. I. Don't. Know. What. Is. Happening. In. Your. Uterus. I am sorry you are sad, and I hate for anyone to go through this, but direct questions to your doc and vent your feelings to me. THOSE I can be here for and understand.

    Whew. That was a vent all over your post. Sorry!

     

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  • Lissa832Lissa832 member
    I'm so sorry.  People are stupid, plain and simple. 
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  • andrea zandrea z

    Ohh I am so sorry dear... I can't even believe that people think it is ok to do this to you.  It is amazing how fast people think we should get over everything.  It makes me so angry when people think I should be over it. 

     

    Big hugs dear.... I hope next week at work is better.

     

    Your friend is in my thoughts

     

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