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How would you feel (NBR)

fromymomfromymom
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I am just wondering what you all think of this situation and how you would feel?

My best friend and I have been planning on going and seeing New Moon together for the last year. She told me she would take me as my birthday present. It is the first time the two of us have done something together, without our kids and husbands since she had her baby 4 months ago so I was looking forward to a girls night. Well she just texted and and said "My brother is coming, he just bought himself a ticket and asked if he could sit with us." It wasn't a question by the way. I don't know her brother very well and I also don't care for him. He left his wife when she was 8 months pregnant with their 3rd child to live the "bachlor life" so I am not a big fan. Would you be a little upset or let down?

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  • Shannon11/3Shannon11/3 member

    Yup, I would be upset and let down, but at the same time, from the sound of the text it doesn't sound at all like she invited him - more like he invited himself, and can she really say "No, you can't sit with us" to him?

    But it still sucks!

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  • Alexandra*sMomAlexandra*sMom member
    Of course I would feel upset and let down.  I would have dinner before (or after) just alone with my friend though - and specify this before hand.
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  • MrsHTMrsHT member
    I for sure would be upset.  I don't think she can really ask him not to sit with you, but I for sure would not be overly nice to him.  If at all possible I would act like he was not even there.  I'm so jealous you are going to see New Moon, DH wants to wait until next weekend to see if because maybe less of a crowd.
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  • MyshMysh member
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    Yup, I would be upset and let down, but at the same time, from the sound of the text it doesn't sound at all like she invited him - more like he invited himself, and can she really say "No, you can't sit with us" to him?

    But it still sucks!

    This. I agree that you should try and garb a bite to eat before or after going just the two of you. She probably knows that you aren't really into the idea, she might not be either from the sound of the text.

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    imageShannon11/3:

    Yup, I would be upset and let down, but at the same time, from the sound of the text it doesn't sound at all like she invited him - more like he invited himself, and can she really say "No, you can't sit with us" to him?

    But it still sucks!

    This. I agree that you should try and garb a bite to eat before or after going just the two of you. She probably knows that you aren't really into the idea, she might not be either from the sound of the text.

    We can't go to eat before or after. We can't before because she doesn't have anyone to watch her daughter until her husband get home and not after because she "has to get home." Saying that makes me feel like crap.

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  • BabyButler2010BabyButler2010 member

    imageAlexandra*sMom:
    Of course I would feel upset and let down.  I would have dinner before (or after) just alone with my friend though - and specify this before hand.

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  • Shannon11/3Shannon11/3 member
    imagefromymom:
    imageMysh:
    imageShannon11/3:

    Yup, I would be upset and let down, but at the same time, from the sound of the text it doesn't sound at all like she invited him - more like he invited himself, and can she really say "No, you can't sit with us" to him?

    But it still sucks!

    This. I agree that you should try and garb a bite to eat before or after going just the two of you. She probably knows that you aren't really into the idea, she might not be either from the sound of the text.

    We can't go to eat before or after. We can't before because she doesn't have anyone to watch her daughter until her husband get home and not after because she "has to get home." Saying that makes me feel like crap.

    Yeah that sucks.  If it were me I would probably let her know how disappointed I was, along with a disclaimer, like "I know you can't help it that your brother bought a ticket, but I was really looking forward to a girl's night out."  I would probably have texted that back.  It probably wouldn't accomplish anything, but at least I would know I got it out there...

    Maybe ask if you guys can go for ice cream just the two of you after.  It's not like that takes long, and it would still be some girlfriend time...

     

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  • foreignroyaltyforeignroyalty
    I'd be annoyed but you'll only  have to say hi and sit in the dark not talking for a couple hours so it wouldn't bother me too much. If it were to involve actual conversation/food/etc I'd suddenly have some last minute change in plans.
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    imageShannon11/3:
    imagefromymom:
    imageMysh:
    imageShannon11/3:

    Yup, I would be upset and let down, but at the same time, from the sound of the text it doesn't sound at all like she invited him - more like he invited himself, and can she really say "No, you can't sit with us" to him?

    But it still sucks!

    This. I agree that you should try and garb a bite to eat before or after going just the two of you. She probably knows that you aren't really into the idea, she might not be either from the sound of the text.

    We can't go to eat before or after. We can't before because she doesn't have anyone to watch her daughter until her husband get home and not after because she "has to get home." Saying that makes me feel like crap.

    Yeah that sucks.  If it were me I would probably let her know how disappointed I was, along with a disclaimer, like "I know you can't help it that your brother bought a ticket, but I was really looking forward to a girl's night out."  I would probably have texted that back.  It probably wouldn't accomplish anything, but at least I would know I got it out there...

    Maybe ask if you guys can go for ice cream just the two of you after.  It's not like that takes long, and it would still be some girlfriend time...

     

    It's a good suggestion but honestly at this point I don't really feel like she cares. This was supposed to be for my birthday so why should I be the one trying to make it nice, ya know? You think you could have said "I'm really sorry, or I know it's a bummer but let's get dessert after." But she didn't so I almost feel like why should I make the effort. I know that kind of petty but that's how I feel.

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