Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Just got the news yesterday....

I am 22 wks pg and my baby is not growing.  He is the size of a 18 wk old.  My OB said his heartbeat will stop eventually and I will have to deliver the baby.  The OB thinks there may be something wrong with my placenta, but they are not sure.  I go back in 3 wks for another u/s to see if he has grown and if not, I am going to be admitted to the hospital and given steroids to see if that helps.  Also, my fluid is low so I guess all around, this pg is not going well.  I cant stop crying and I have been told to just rest and drink lots of water.  I cant even drink anything. I feel so depressed.  This would be my 2nd child and the first pg was a breeze compared to this one.  I am trying to think maybe he will make it but with 2 OB's saying they dont think so, its hard to stay positive.  My 5 y/o keeps asking why I am crying and if its because the baby is going to die...OMG, I am such a mess!!!!

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  • I am so sorry for your sadness and frustration.  These ladies here have helped hold me together during some dark times.  I think my new favorite thread is FFFC and has helped me gripe without consequences.  HUGS to you. 

    Can DH help explain to DS what is happening.  When my parents had to talk to me about death (if that becomes your case) they read me "The Fall of Freddy the Leaf"  If helped me understand some of the mortal stages in life.

    Good luck and we are all here for you!

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  • I'm so sorry you are going through this and you have to wait that long.  We are here for you. 
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  • I'm so sorry you are suffering.
    BFP #1 10/17/09: missed m/c at 7 weeks; BFP #2 10/22/10: chemical pregnancy; BFP #3: 1/28/11

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  • I am so sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time.  You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. 
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  • I am so sorry that you are going thru this.  I lost my son at full term and just had a miscarriage a month ago at 8 weeks.  It is so hard and unbearable.

    I also have a 3 year old and 5 year old that I had to tell that we were not going to have the baby afterall.  My 3 year old didn't get it, but my 5 year old was upset and still talk s about it a month later.  I understand how hard it is to have to explain somehting like this to a child, especially when you don't understand it yourself.

    My thoughts are with you, your family and your baby.

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  • Thank you everyone for your prayers.  I am trying to comprehend how it will be having to deliver a child and not be able to take him home.  And all the new clothes I bought, I have to return.  I am just happy we havent put the crib together yet.  And returning to work with all the questions from the people that dont know what is going on.  That may all sound superficial but I cant help thinking about all of that. 
  • I am SO sorry. And I am thinking of you and your family. Hugs to you.
    BFP#1 10/5/09 | Heartbeat 11/1/09 | D&C 11/24/09 (no hb)
    BFP#2 02/18/11 * Beta@15dpo=215 * @18dpo=698 * @20dpo=2337 * @25dpo=10,931 * DS Arrived October 24, 2011
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  • I am so very sorry.
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    Mira was born 9-14-2010
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  • I am so sorry you're going through this.  You're in my thoughts and prayers.
  • I just wanted to tell you I thought about all the same things when we lost our baby boy. It really stinks and I am sorry you are having to go through this and you have to wait. I really hope things do change for you and your baby.
    Baby boy, you are forever loved and missed. 19 weeks 2 days 10/14/09 Partial Molar Pregnancy Lucas Glenn 12/18/10
  • I am so so so very sorry that you are going through this. You and your family and your baby will be in my thoughts and prayers. The lovely women here have really helped me through times when I thought I was all alone, they are here, as well as I to help as much as we can, even if that is just listening and being there for you. God Bless you and your family.
  • Oh hon,  I can't imagine.  All you can do at this point is rest and pray that he is a fighter and that he will make it through. You have every right to be a mess. 

    I sincerely hope it will have a good ending.  I will be thinking of you.  

    ((hugs))

     

  • I am so sorry dear. Having my boys and saying goodbye was one of the hardest things I have gone through. I was on hospital bedrest for three weeks, and I am glad I was. I really focused on my babies then. Most of my pregnancy memories were in the hospital. Dh and I would just lay there and feel kicks. Sooo try to enjoy the next three weeks of time that you have with your baby. I know it is bittersweet, but try to make memories with your baby. You will cherish those. I pray that everything will be ok, but if not this board is amazing. If want to chat, feel free to pm me.
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    Thank you everyone for your prayers.  I am trying to comprehend how it will be having to deliver a child and not be able to take him home.  And all the new clothes I bought, I have to return.  I am just happy we havent put the crib together yet.  And returning to work with all the questions from the people that dont know what is going on.  That may all sound superficial but I cant help thinking about all of that. 

     

    None of this is superficial. I am so sorry for your situation. Wishing you lots of strength to get through this difficult time. 

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