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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Just found out m/c, how to move things along naturally?
I just found out this morning that I mc ( I was 5 weeks). My beta levels did not double. I havent had my period or any sign of and have to go back for bloodwork on Sat to check the levels again. Is there anyway to help my body move things along naturally? like a masage or reflexology? or do I just wait? I just want to move on if that makes any sense.
Also, if anyone has any advice on helping DH. Its hard on me, but he is not taking the news any easier. He is trying to find a reason. I told him these things can just happen, but I really dont know what else to say to him to help him feel better.
DS- 4 years old, Natural m/c @ 7 weeks-12/1/09. Infertility issues- low ovarian reserve- low AMH and high FSH. Looking into adoption.
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Re: Just found out m/c, how to move things along naturally?
I don't have any advice. I just wanted to say that I am sorry. I miscarried on Tuesday, and I was 5 weeks as well.
I am heading back in tomorrow to have my blood drawn for the 2nd time.
You can pm me, if you feel like talking about it.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I've never heard of anything kind of thing to "help" it along. It could be days or even weeks before your body starts the process. For me the baby stopped at about 8 weeks and I didn't find out until 13 weeks. I had already been spotting some and 3 days later heavier bleeding started and within a day after that I had the miscarriage.
My guess is, the doc will probably discuss doing a D&C with you.
As for your husband, I don't have much advice. Everyone deals with loss differently. And I know it's sometimes one of the most annoying responses you can hear from people but my doc told that there was probably something wrong with the baby and that is why it didn't make it. I didn't have a D&C so I will never know what really happened. But I guess I like to think that God figured that we couldn't handle whatever it was that was wrong with it.
Time will heal. If things don't get better then I'd suggest seeking out a grief counselor. That can help.
Good luck. ((hugs))
I knew I MCed a day before I actually started bleeding. Just waiting it out is the only thing you can do unless you opt for medical intervention (D&C) which will require longer healing time.
As for DH, just keep talking. Neither of you should be concerned about feeling better right now or making the other feel better. Now is exactly the time when you each just have to live through the pain, grief, anger, confusion, etc. You just have to feel it and just go through it. Don't censor each other's feelings or try to rush them. It will be a hard time, but just hold on to each other, spend more time together than normal, talk more openly then you ever have in your lives. Take things a minute at a time for now, then eventualy a day at a time, and so on.
I am so sorry for your loss.
First I am sorry for your loss. Even though it was early, never let anyone convince you that you cannot mourn for this loss. This was a baby to you and you need to take care of yourself and your DH right now. (((Lots of Hugs)))
I would say the only option for moving along a m/c is Cytotec if you want to avoid a D&C. No one in a professional setting will induce a m/c for you and I couldn't find anything online that looked legitimate. The first time I used Cytotec, I had results of cramping and n&v with loose stools and then a few hours later had bleeding ( sry tons of TMI on that! ). My second time using it, I had no results and got a D&C. Other than that, if you want to go completely all natural only your body knows when things will move.
As for DH, let him be as he is. If he is still seeking answers then he might need to ask your dr at your next appt. or do research online. The consensus is it is no one's fault and there should not be blame placed on anyone! Yes, there could be RH issues, or genetic issues that get passed down, but remember it was not on purpose. This HUGE event was not done intentionally.
He may say some things that are very insensitive and hard to forgive, but remember he is upset. With my first m/c my DH (for this story D is for d!ck) told me that I picked a career over a family ( we thought that I had PCOS at the time-that's a whole other long story with surgery! ) and that it took me so long that my cysts grew back and I would no longer have kids. He said it was my fault. I yelled at him. There were many choice words said and I hung up. I did not see him for 2 days after that. My point on that is, I still have not been able to forgive the words that were said, even though I know that he did not mean it and did apologize later. But I never use this fight as ammo in an argument. Keep a 48 hour rule!
Everyone's emotions are torn apart and a mess right now. Be open with him if you need to talk and be open with him if he asks you to talk. Good luck with all this. I hope this helps you with some of this awful event in your life. Take care and you are in my T&P's!