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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
crystalknpp
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I was doing a little better...
crystalknpp
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Until my stupid follow up appointment today! I hate the Obgyn office. I seriously think it is the worst place to go to after a loss and that everyone who has suffered a loss should have a seperate waiting room AND an exam room w/o newborn baby photos everywhere! I was waiting for the nurse to call my name when out walks this girl and her mom. The girl was at the most 14/15 yrs old and she was VERY pregnant. It made me so angry and at the same time jealous that she gets to have a baby and I don't. There is no way at her age she could support a baby. Here I am 23 and married with a great husband and good job and I lost my baby. Then the nurse asks the usual "When was your LMP" and I answer "September 5th" and of course because she obviously does not think to read charts proceeds to ask me if I'm pregnant. I was aggravated and simply replied "No I'm not anymore" She takes me into an exam room filled with baby pictures where I then get an o so fun exam and am told that everything is healing ok but I still have to put off TTC for 2 months. Then to top it all off as I'm checking out and paying my co-pay of $20.00 I'm told that I owe the Doctors office almost $600 for the surgery I had done which is left from what the insurance didn't cover on top of the other medical bills I have from this surgery and my 4 day hospital stay! I'm so aggravated, angry, sad and so many other emotions! I have a crazy amount of medical bills for a surgery I didn't even want nor did I deserve! Blah I'm sorry for feeling sorry for myself but I just am so tired of trying to move past something that I'm angry I even had to go through in the first place!
"Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"
I'm a mom to my 4 angel babies who were taken from us much to soon!
BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
BFP# 2 on 03/21/2010 EDD 11/30/10 Natural M/C on 3/27/10
BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl 
IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
IVF#2 and Stims started 12/2 ER 12/16 ET 12/21 transferred two beautiful blastocysts. Please stick LO's! BFP 12/26
Benjamin Matthew Our Little Miracle Born 9/5/2012!
BFP 1/2/14 EDD 9/11/14
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Re: I was doing a little better...
I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. I understand how you feel. When I had my follow up I swear every pregnant women in town was in the waiting room. My Dr. told me to wait 2 periods before we could TTC again... which stinks... especially since I am still waiting for my 1st one.
I hope you feel better soon... and I hope we both have a great 2010!
I'm so sorry for your loss. ((hugs))
You have every right to have all those emotions. At my follow up last Friday the nurse that brought me back asked if my due day was still May 15th. I had to tell her I had a m/c. At least she tried making me feel better by saying she was sorry. I have to wonder the same thing...why don't they read the chart first? Gah.
"Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart"
Our TTC Journey
I'm a mom to my 4 angel babies who were taken from us much to soon!
BFP#1 on 09/29/09 and EP discovered/Left Tube lost on 10/19/09 EDD 06/12/10
BFP# 2 on 03/21/2010 EDD 11/30/10 Natural M/C on 3/27/10
BFP# 3 on 02/14/2011 EDD 10/28/11 Missed M/C discovered 4/19/11 and D&C 4/21/11 On 5/6/11 we found out our Oct Angel was a beautiful little girl
IVF#1=BFP#4 on 8/31/11 EDD 5/12/12 EP discovered and MTX shot given 9/14/ & 9/21 M/C on 10/9/11
IVF#2 and Stims started 12/2 ER 12/16 ET 12/21 transferred two beautiful blastocysts. Please stick LO's! BFP 12/26
Benjamin Matthew Our Little Miracle Born 9/5/2012!
BFP 1/2/14 EDD 9/11/14
I'm sorry your appt was so lousy. And WTF with the nurse - read the freakin chart first! I would have been so pissed off. You would think that they would figure that out by now.
I agree with the separate waiting rooms. When I went to the Dr to confirm my m/c there were all these happy couples sitting there and new moms with babies for their f/u appointment. Ugh.
Photo courtesy of mrs_b
I'm so sorry but can sympathize. I had to go tues to get an ultrasound/second opinion on my babies heart failing and allt he other mothers in teh waiting room were talking across to eachother about how exciting it was blah blah i started crying, then cried harder the more they went on but they didn't stop.
The grieving prcoess from clinical terms is called bada (or something) it stands for betrayal, anger, depression and acceptance ( i think there are more) and you can go through these stages in cycles for many months before you complete your grieving.
I recommend counseling. My therapist has been amazing and is TAKING me to and from the proceedure tomorrow (that i am now gratefult he county will pay for bc of my no income status).
Good luck to you
(sorry for any and all typos i'm doped up on pain meds
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