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We really are so lucky

ReeseMReeseM member
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I had a moment today when I was all pissy that DH was sleeping in. I wasn't mad, just annoyed that I had been on DD duty for like, a week straight. DH has been working a ton of overtime and just weird hours in general. Needless to say, I was worn out.

Then I started thinking. What if the situation were reversed and I had to go to work 5 days a week, sometimes more, and sometimes go for days without seeing DD? I would be so sad and miserable. DH loves DD more than life, and misses her so much, I know. 

I really had to take some time and appreciate what he does for this family, he provides for us and is an amazing father. I really need to remind him of this more often, and remind myself. 

Just some food for thought, cause I know I don't think about it enough.

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  • Chrisy-WyobrideChrisy-Wyobride member
    Yeah, I am lucky.  It is nice to appreciate the other person in the equation for sure. I am glad I don't have to leave my kids at daycare for 10 hours a day for sure.  But my DH has it good too...he has someone he can trust that loves his children w/ all her heart watching them all day, everyday plus doing most all of the work involved w/ them & the home...so he is able to go to work without worry about us & focus on doing a good job there.  He never has to think about picking up a sick kid from daycare, taking them to activities or appointments or getting the kid ready before getting out the door, etc.  I have a friend who was a SAHM for a few years (has 3 kids) & now is a WOHM while her DH is a SAHD (he got laid off & she was able to go back to her old job)...Now she looks fabulous, so well rested & happy & she told me that working she now has the better end of the deal--LOL!  Definitely having a SAH parent makes a huge difference in the stress level of the working parent.   
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  • lilone_06lilone_06
    Thanks for the reminder!  It makes me feel good to remember this.  Although he has it pretty good, too, and is well-taken care of, I know he would switch places with me in a heartbeat. 
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  • dionnemd10dionnemd10 member
    yep i know i am very lucky to have my hubby.  he is the rock to our family foundation for sure!!!  he is so supportive and nothing ever seems to rattle his feathers-he has priorities in line and just knows he doesn't have to keep up with jones's etc.   i asked him today if he was doing okay as our only bread winner.  he reassured me he was and when i panic about finances he always tells me things will work out and that we will be fine-because we have done it in the past!   love love love him!!!!!!!!!!!  and only hope i let him know enough how much he is appreciated and cared for.
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  • cp760cp760

    I know how you feel. I used to get tired and stressed out taking care of the kids and I used to think that he had it so much easier because at work he got to sit at a desk and listen to music and not have kids screaming in his ear and crawling on him, but then he was laid off and spent a lot of time at home the last two months and now that he finally got a job I actually feel so sad for him that he has to go back to work and that he doesn't get to be with the kids all day like I do. I feel sad that he will miss everything just so that we have money to live our lives. While I'm taking the kids to something fun during the day, he's working to pay for it. Of course I do work from home and bring in some money, but he's the primary bread-winner. He's the one gone morning til night 5 days a week.

    I'm very blessed.

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  • ReeseMReeseM member
    I am for sure not saying that his "place" in the family does not have it's perks, but I am very grateful to him, as I could not leave DD every day and go to work. No way.
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  • DianeN9DianeN9
    That was very selfless and sweet of you to put yourself in his shoes.
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  • mandymackmandymack member
    Always good to gain a little perspective as we go through life.  What a sweet sentiment!  :)

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  • AllisonErqAllisonErq
    my LO is still on the inside and i have been thinking about that a lot. my husband works so hard to provide for us and i apprieciate it so much. i have seen so many moms drop of tiny litttle six week old babys and go to work in tears everyday for weeks. i have seen so many babies crawl for the first time or take their first steps and just kept it from the mom so that she would think she had seen it the first time. i am SO thankful that this is not something i will have to face. i am very fortunate and it is nice to reflect on that!!! :)
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  • MrsRebeccaMrsRebecca member
    I am incredibly lucky. I was able to stop working before our child even arrived. Although, like a PP said- DH is pretty lucky too. Having me at home has been great for both of us.
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