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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Emmy722
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Need opinion...
Emmy722
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I found out on Tuesday that my 8week and 4day baby did not have a heart beat. I don't know what to do. This feeling is so unreal it's terrfying. Now, I am torn between having a D&C or letting the baby go naturally. My pros and cons, that I'm aware of are letting it go natually I won't need surgery, I'll be able to grieve longer, and the cons are that I'll never know when it's going to do it naturally, and that I'll still feel pregnant while I am not. For the D&C the pros are its done quick, I won't have to wait long, and my body will get back on track. But the con I'm concerned with is Asherman's Syndrome and I don't know if this effects trying to have a baby in the futue. Basially, I'm leaning more towards having the D&C done but I'm worried about being able to still have children. This has been a rollercoaster of emotions and I'm still in complete shock. I would really like to hear what some of you did and your opinions on it...Thank you ladies very much...
*11/20/2009*D&C*Angel Baby*
BFP on 5/6/2010*My Birthday Surprise*
My life changed forever 1/12/2011
Dominic Orlando
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Re: Need opinion...
This is a very personal decision and you have to do what is right for you. I tried cytotec first and it didn't work, so I ended up having a D&C. I think you will grieve the length of time you need to regardless of how you proceed. For me, I was worried about the natural because it has already nearly 4 weeks with no signs of natural m/c. I was afraid I'd begin to heal emotionally and then the physical stuff would start and it would set me back again. Plus, DH and I know we want to TTC again, so I wanted it over soon.
I will say, I was nervous about the D&C because it is surgery, but it went great. Unfortunately, these doctors are well experienced in performing them. It was quick and I have only had minor to moderate cramps since.
Good luck with your decision.
Missed m/c 11.09 | Missed m/c 3.10 | We miss you & love you so.
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Formerly toddandjulie
I'm very sorry for your loss.
If your doctor is going to do testing on the baby, it's probably easier for them to collect what they need at a D&C rather than you trying to collect anything at home.
I went with the D&C...as soon as I knew it was over I just wanted to be done with everything and I didn't want to sit around waiting for it to happen as there was no indication my body was going to get going naturally any time soon. I actually thought for me the grieving would be worse if I waited because I was in no fit shape to work once I found out...so that would have just prolonged how long I felt out of commission and I would never have wanted to be at work and have it happen there.
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I also found out Tuesday that my 9 week 6 day baby had no hb. I think it's a very personal decision that will take some time. For me I think the natural process would somehow help me cope, but that's just for me. I do have a d&c scheduled for Tuesday because I'm having other surgery and they can do both, and also because my baby stopped growing a couple of weeks ago. My body may have missed that fact. But I have started bleeding already, so I think it my be happening on it's own. Sometimes, even a natural m/c will require a d&c if all the tissue fails to come out.
Good luck to you. The ladies here are great and it's so nice to have somewhere to go.
BFP#2 02/18/11 * Beta@15dpo=215 * @18dpo=698 * @20dpo=2337 * @25dpo=10,931 * DS Arrived October 24, 2011
BFP#3 08/12 | D&C 9/12 (no hb)
BFP#4 Due May 1, 2014 Stick baby stick!
Just had my D&C today, and I was nervous but just cried for a bit before with DH. The anesthesiologist asked if I wanted something, but I turned it down because I know a big cry calms me down. But afterwards I am only bleeding some and have little cramps, but mine was suction D&C and got Vicodin/APAP for the pain, which does wonders. Ask your doc for pain meds, if you find you don't need them then you can flush 'em or keep them in case you need them later.
I felt better after giving any questions I had for my doctor to DH so he could ask while I was in recovery. That calmed my nerves quite a bit as well.
I hope this info helped. Never doubt your decision, you know what is best for YOU!
I am very sorry for your loss, my 1st was an 8 week BO and even though it doesn't feel like you have known your baby long, they were always a part of your life before and after knowing you were preg. Good luck with everything, will keep you in my T&P!