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having a bad moment

kymomakymoma
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

So, it's been exactly 4 weeks today that we lost our daughter. So many of our friends got pg right around me, that it's been hard anyway, but for various reasons, I have been able to stay away. Tomorrow we leave for my in-laws- for 10 days. I was excited before because we were going to announce we were having a girl, and take a big family picture, and I am making the whole dinner with my MIL, and we have 25 people who will be there. But, a friend of the family is pg with their 4th. She got pg 2 weeks after me, and she is so pretty, and will look so perfect in her cute maternity outfits with her little bump. Just thinking about it makes me want to cry. I'm supposed to be cute and pregnant with a little bump. Now, all I have is a flabby stomach that I have been desparately trying to rid myself of. I know this sounds so selfish, but I can't help feeling that way. I just don't want to see her. I know she feels bad, and she can't help that we got pg the same time, it's just so hard.

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  • Temp950106187509203Temp950106187509203 member
    I don't think you sound selfish.  We were all robbed of something. 

    Milestones are so hard, and dealing with pg women is so hard, and having to put up with both at once is terrible.  {{hugs}}  I hope your visit goes as well as possible!
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  • HeatherPB1020HeatherPB1020 member
    I understand how you feel... One of my closest friends is 24 weeks pg and staying with is for thanksgiving... I know it is hard.  Just remember that you have every right to feel how everything that you feel.  T & P to you!
    ~Married- 10.20.2007~ TTC Since- 4.3.2009 ~BFP#1- 8.25.2009 ~ Missed M/C and D&C-10.9.2009 ~BFP#2-8.12.2010 ~ EDD- 4.20.2011~ It
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