Anyone else depressed?

Temp700504562508948 · November 2009

I'm feeling guilty because although I am very excited for #2, I'm having a hard time not feeling depressed. Since I've been pregnant before, the new-ness of it isn't exciting. I feel terrible because there are people who have trouble getting pregnant and would scoff at me feeling this way.

I own a business that is very stressful and already feeling pulled in a million directions is tough, but add m/s and exhaustion on top of it, and I'm just not coping. The symptoms are keeping me from working hard and the repercussions aren't good.

My family is the most important thing in the world to me and I imagine that once LO arrives, I'll ask myself how I could ever feel this way.

I'm susceptible to depression and am on meds that are working well. This is just a tough time right now, pregnancy aside.

Anyone else having a tough time? How are you dealing?

bone2595 · November 2009

Are you still on meds? If so, maybe the pregnancy hormones are causing the medicine to be inefective or mabye making the depression worse?

jolynreed · November 2009

I haven't felt depressed personally, but my sister went through it when she was pregnant (well, actually since she was 12 years old...), and I wanted to say I hope things get better for you.

sjame1 · November 2009

I wouldn't say I'm depressed but this whole process is so hard. So exhausting and SOOO hard...I have had a very tough time coping with the symptoms and trying to funtion at work and be a good wife all at the same time. Luckily I have a supportive husband or I would be going crazy! I'm sorry you are having such a hard time too. I just keep telling my self that this whole experience is a blessing and that it will all be worth it in the end!

winelvr · November 2009

Sounds like you have so much on your plate. Is there anyone that can help you? Maybe talking to someone, a therapist, would help. You need a place to vent for sure. Good luck to you.

MrsBraun · November 2009

I wouldn't use the word depressed, but I'm definitely feeling more "defeated" these days...I feel like I'm good for nothing at work and that everybody thinks so (I know that's a stretch, but can't help it!). I find myself wondering if I can do this after the baby is here (this type of work I mean), etc.etc. I feel like I'm in bad spot right now.

I talked to an older friend of mine, and she said "well, is it working for you today?" Meaning my job, my set-up in life sort of thing. This really stuck with me and helped me to take it one day at a time. i don't need to be making life-changing decisions right now and I'm glad she pointed it out. I'm sure its different with clinical depression, but my advice would be to TRY and slow down and only deal with today's problems today and don't worry about what's to come.

CapeSummer21 · November 2009

(((hugs))) Depression/anxiety is something I've always dealt with and it just plain stinks! I am on meds but they often need to be adjusted. Please give your doctor a call. There is no reason for you to feel this badly and it could be as simple as adjusting the medication. Also, have you ever gone to talk to someone before? It can help release some of the stress & they can give you a lot of good tips on how to cope.

synchrosally · November 2009

Thankfully, my SAD doesn't seem to be too bad. I'm too excited for this LO to be depressed. However, this not sleeping and exhaustion thing is not making me feel good. My only advice is to talk to someone about it. Talk to your DH, your friends, and maybe a therapist. It's normal to feel overwhelmed and stressed, and exhausted, but if this turns into full on depression, it is not healthy for you. I hope you find some answers.

Temp700504562508948 · November 2009

Yes, I'm still on meds. I stayed on them during the last pregnancy too. It was definitely for the best. I, too, have been dealing with it since the age of 13 when my dad passed away.

I think a lot of it has to do with the hormones. I'm trying to step back - reducing operating hours for the business - and downsize a bit.

Ya, I'm basically going through the same things - feeling like I'm pretty worthless at work or any other physical function right now. I have to remind myself that 2nd trimester will be a whole different story. That was the case last time.

Thanks for the support. It's great to know there are others out there who care and understand the feelings.

StarlitRN · November 2009

I'm not depressed about the pregnancy but I am starting to become depressed about not having any support systems around DH & I moved from California in July and are really regretting it! I hate not having any friends around to share this pregnancy around......and I'm not close to my family. Luckily my BF is coming for a visit in 3 weeks and we are hopefully moving again in April. I was originally hoping we would get stationed overseas (Italy or Japan) but now Im starting to pray for San Diego so that I will only be an hour from my friends!!

The weather here in Chicago isn't helping any either.....it is pitch dark by 4:30!!

Temp700504562508948 · November 2009

And by the way, I do see someone - before pregnancy, it was every 6 months because things were fine and meds were regulated, but now I'll probably call and move my next appt up a bit.

shanmoyer · November 2009

I've been feeling more "God I feel so alone!" than anything lately. DH is wrapped up in his work-drama/quarter life crisis, and I feel like I'm going through this all by myself.

My bff has a 7 year old, another bff has a 1 year old...they live close to eachother and haven't shown much interest in my pregnancy other than "yay, we're so excited for you!!"

Two girls at work were pg at the same time, and delivered last October/December - so they at least had each other to lean on. Noone else at work is pg, now does it look like anyone will be at any time soon.

It's overwhelming, it's stressful...but I'm just trying to focus on the positives and treat each day as a new one.

LaurelBee · November 2009

Hope you're feeling better fast! The closer and closer I get to the 2nd tri, the better I feel... And the less worthless I feel too...

As far as work goes- are you able to hire a temp to take on some of the responsibilities that are draggin you down?

14years · November 2009

I am surprised at how much harder it is to be pregnant when you already have a toddler than it was to just be pregnant with #1.

I have been down, too, so you aren't alone. I'm really happy about expecting #2, but I am so tired and sick, am working FT and am chasing my toddler down at the end of the day and all weekend.

Things will look up in the 2nd tri -- remember how great that is? I just keep reminding myself that this part doesn't last long. Take care of yourself!

daniellems2003 · November 2009

I am feeling the same way. We planned and planned for baby #2, and once it happened I thought I'd be more excited but I think with dealing with severe morning/all day sickness, exhausion, and a toddler its just plain hard to get excited.

I keep telling myself things will get better. Once you get an u/s, start to get more of a baby bump, and feel better you will get more excited.

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