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NMPLR (kind of..)-Things I know NOT to do when I become a mother...
So, while I was lurking on the other boards yesterday there was a whole big uproar over "bottle propping". I was totally appalled, but intrigued because my cousin thinks it's okay to bottle prop her 1 month old. I have never had a child, but know from COMMON SENSE that a baby that young is at risk of choking, aspirating, and maybe even death. Luckily the baby has been able to pull away from the bottle while I have seen him with it propped up. Whenever I am there I try to feed him as much as possible, the *normal* way, while I hold him. I just can't imagine NOT feeding a baby like that.
So, are there any things you ladies would like to share that you know not to do when you're mothering, whether by experience, or just plain instinct? I was just interested to see what taboo things people still partake in, but know that it's not in the best interest of their LO.
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Re: NMPLR (kind of..)-Things I know NOT to do when I become a mother...
Bottling propping with a one month old is pointless as well if you don't want your kid to puke all over the place. You need to burp a baby that age after each ounce usually. It seems dangerous, stupid, and pointless.
You really shouldn't use blankets unless in a swaddle. DS hated to be swaddled, so we always used to lay a light blanket over him. Around 2 months old, he started to lift everything over his head. Common sense should have told me that it was time to removed the blanket. One morning I went in to his room and saw the blanket over his face and neck only. I about had a heart attack, and I learned my lesson. Never again did he get a blanket until he was old enough.
You can't keep your baby from rolling over at night if they want to. You can change them back to their back as much as you want, but if they are determined to sleep on their stomach, they will. DS rolled both ways be 2.5 months old, so I learned this lesson early. I had a lot of sleepless nights worrying.
I don't even know how bottle propping could be an effective way of feeding a one month old. There is spitting up and burping involved...
There are tons of things that I wouldn't do as a mom but one major lesson I have learned constantly with things in life is never say never because you never truly know what its like until you have been there. Even when you become a mom every child is different. I used to be totally against CIO and I never did it with my son but seeing my friend struggle with her son and sleep I understood its place in the grand scheme of things.
Of course, things that can be dangerous to an infant or child does not fit in this category.
But, just for the sake of argument here I would say co-sleeping. It is effective for some parents and even in some cultures it is a tradition but that would not be something I would want to do. I would fear that my dh would roll onto the baby and therefore would not sleep a wink.
Yep, it totally boggles my mind. Whenever her LO is in his bassinet, she props up a bottle to "soothe" him to sleep. Never one does the baby get to burp or spit up. I babysit for her often so I have no problem picking him up, feeding him, rocking him, BURPING him, and of course he will have the occasional spit up. I can't imagine a little baby not being able to burp after being fed..their little tummies need to let some of the air out...poor kiddo, he must have a pretty bad tummy ache. Ugh, it just makes me so sad thinking about it.
I agree with you about the co-sleeping. I can't say for sure whether I would do it or not, but I would be SO scared that I would roll over on the baby-I would just sit up all night. I know that they have those co-sleeping "barrier" type contraptions (I'm not sure what they're called) but I would STILL be scared that I would somehow roll over that and crush the baby. I'm sure it works for some people, and like you said is a tradition on some cultures-but I cannot imagine myself doing that.
I totally agree with the PP who said, "Never say never." You don't *really* know how things will be and what you'll have to do when it is your own child.
There were a few things that I was insistent I would never do before I had my DD that I have since done.
That's a good one, and I'm sure the rest of the ladies on here (plus myself) can agree
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That is perfect. I am definitely going to try and enjoy a newborn instead of obsess with people's opinions, breastfeeding working, my post pregnancy weight etc.