Did you find out what you were having beforehand, or are you going to find out?
I have a friend who just doesn't want to know - loves the idea of the surprise, while DH and I want to know when the times comes because it just seems easier to plan accordingly...
Re: s/o gender...
I didn't want to know, DH did, we didn't find out until she was here.
Since he did it my way, I promised that for #2 we would find out. (although I wish I hadn't promised because I liked not knowing.)
I want to know.
I believe in sex stereotypes, and I want to perpetuate the pink & blue mentality.
with chloe we chose not to find out, however my doctor slipped up accidentally at 35wks and told me it was a girl. FWIW i knew 100% my entire pregnancy i was having a girl, i just knew it.
with McKenzie i told DH the entire time i knew it was going to be a girl, and we chose to find out with her. i am so glad we found out with her because we had a deffinant name picked out early and with everything that happened im glad i didnt have to pick one in at that time.
Thing 2 = May 2009, Stillborn 33weeks 4lbs 9oz 18in
Thing 3 = October 2010, 27weeks 4days 2lbs 4oz 14.25in
We're team green. Number one reason is for the surprise element. Number two reason is for planning - we plan to have more, and will want to re-use everything. So we'll have everything gender neutral from the start.
I have a friend who is having a girl, and plans to have more. Everything they registered for is pink. Not just bedding and clothes, but all the big ticket items you keep for the next kid. I don't get it. In fact if anyone here who has done that wants to enlighten me, I would love to hear something supporting this so I could understand it a little better, lol. I truly just don't get it.
I am a planner and don't think I could handle not knowing! So yes we found out.
If she's anything like my friend, she will have another shower if she has a boy and register for all BLUE things. Wasteful...
I am all for decorating your kids' life in either pink or blue.
However, I firmly believe gender neutral big ticket items are necessary.
BFP 2/17/12 EDD 10/24/12 MM/C 3/22/12 D&C 3/27, 4/4, 4/9
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Ick I hope not. And I have to admit - I got her the only things on her registry that weren't pink. Bath toys. Hehe. I want my gift to last for all their kids, dammit!
Me too! I swear at every ultrasound I will repeat 5 times DO NOT TELL ME! I would be so pissed if someone let it slip.
Our u/s tech didn't even "go there" since I told her immediately that we weren't finding out. She said she wouldn't go near that area so there wasn't a whoops on her shoulders. DH was disappointed because he was dying to try to get a peek.
This happened to my cousin. After 7 miscarriages, she wanted SO badly to be surprised. Month 8, she went in for an u/s and the tech said, "Well she looks really good!" Argh.
She was so upset!
We're going to find out what we're having, but we're not telling anyone else.
It will be nice having something just between the two of us. Plus it makes it a lot more difficult for people to go rogue with the gift giving.. if we wanted everything pink or blue.. we wouldn't bother with neutrals.
When we find out, I think we will tell everyone what we'll be having, but I believe we will keep the name to ourselves... that way everyone know something, and we still have something to us