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Crappy co-worker encounter

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It's been exactly a week since my m/c, so today hasn't been a remarkably happy day to begin with.  A co-worker just came by my desk and said, "I heard you were out last week."  I hadn't told anyone at work about the baby, so I took a sick day Friday but didn't expound on it to my supervisor, which was fine.  They're my sick days and I don't have to justify using them.  So I said to the cw, "yeah, I was out sick on Friday."  She keeps going: "But why were you out?"  I: "I.  Was.  Sick."  She (snippily): "Well fine then.  I bet we had the same thing.  I was out on Thursday."  Mercifully, my phone rang, so I didn't have to answer that one.

There's not really a point to this story.  I knew you girls would understand why this was such a crappy conversation, though.  Thanks for letting me vent.

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  • iggy.diggy.d member
    Vent away. Even though I didn't tell anyone about losing my baby I still feel irritated and angry when they ask "what's wrong?" I did tell my supervisor about the upcoming surgery on my ovary only because i have to be out for a month, but asked her to keep it quiet. What does she do? Comes into my cube loudly talking about my "ovarian situation" and how her niece went through it (we have two different problems) and it "wasn't bad". Um, thanks for keeping it quiet, and telling me it "isn't bad." Now go away. 
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  • far_more_than_rubiesfar_more_than_rubies
    I had a similar encounter my first day back, however it ended quite differently.  I broke down and told my coworker and she then told me she has had three blighted ovums and is now 16 weeks pg.  It was kind of awkward.  While it was nice to know someone had been there, I wasn't quite ready for the BTW I am PG.  
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  • ala_1220ala_1220
    We totally understand why you got upset!!!  I'm sorry she made you feel that way and you had to relive Friday all over again.
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  • simbajspsimbajsp member

    Argh! Yes, I understand! That is so annoying.  Co-workers can be super nosy and insensitive sometimes.  Before I was pregnant whenever I'd have to leave work early for a doctor's appointment they'd go "Oh, are you pregnant???" I never told anyone that I was pregnant, so now since I've miscarried and have doctors appointments they still ask "Oh, are you pregnant???"  I felt like screaming at them to shut up and mind their own business before I lost the baby so now it's even worse.  Just yesterday at lunch a co-worker asked me when I was going to be getting pregnant.  I said to her, "I have no idea. Whatever is written in the stars".  She had no idea that her asking that had me on the verge of tears.  I really wish people had more tact! 

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