Anyone else obsessed with getting PG again?

EKG · November 2009

Hi girls. I guess this is going to be my night to post. I was just wondering if I am the only one out there obsessed with getting PG again? Some days it is all I can think about - then I feel guilty, it's only been 6.5 weeks, how could I forget about the baby we lost so soon? Then other days, the thought of getting PG again terrifies me - I am so worried that something will be wrong with the baby that it makes me seriously question whether I want to do this again.

To make it worse DH and I have not yet discussed when we will TTC again. When we were given our initial diagnosis, he was trying to reassure me, saying we will try again in a few years. Of course I flipped out and said I am not waiting a few years. I would like to try again starting somewhere between January - February. I am worried about discussing it with him because what if he is not ready? It is giving me so much anxiety.

Please tell me I am not the only one that feels this way!

B2BMN · November 2009

I'm sorry for your loss.

You're not the only one, I totally feel this way. It's been 3 months for me and often times I feel like my days are consumed with thougths of wanting a healthy pregnancy.

I've forced myself to take one day at a time and that has really helped.

Hang in there and good luck chatting with DH about ttc again soon. (((Hugs)))

Mrs.Kristen · November 2009

I feel wrong for wanting another one so soon. It isn't even two weeks yet. DH passed a comment a couple days after everything happened about two or three years and we'll try for another one and I cried. I don't want to wait that long. Selfish maybe but I had my heart set on this baby and she was torn away from us. DH then said we'll wait a year after we talked again about it and I think we've agreed on 6 months. I feel terrible about the way I feel so soon after. I miss our little girl and cry about what has happened multiple times during the day a part of me is scared... a large part of me is scared. I don't want to go through the loss again. But i feel guilty for wanting to try again.

JuJuBe3 · November 2009

I have to admit, it's already on my mind and DH have talked about it. We know we want to try again, so that's not even a question. Until I get my first real AF, we are going to work on getting healthy and trying to enjoy some of what life has to offer.

monica92603 · November 2009

in the very very beginning, i remember thinking (b/c I had a c-section) that I probably wouldn't be able to try for several months B/C of the c-section. I couldn't believe how quickly the time passed. Seriously.....

It will be 4 months Friday since we delivered our baby and we just started trying again this month (sort of- i think we missed our peak day). I'm not as consumed w/ it as I would have been a few months ago. I keep thinking ok if it doesn't happen this month, then I'll go get this damn wisdom tooth pulled I've been putting off for a year and that I can have a bunch of drinks at our holiday parties. I'm trying to make plans beyond being obsessed w/ being pg again.

I have NO guilt for trying again so soon b/c I truly believe that it will be the same soul that will come to us next time. it's just what I believe.

candylies · November 2009

I am feeling the same. obsessed about it and terrified at the same time. I was obsessed about it even before I got my first BFP so not much has changed in that respect. Luckily DH and I are on the same TTC page and are starting again right away. He seems to be even more impatient than me to get to the ttcing again.

jennsadye1979 · November 2009

I wouldn't say that TTC consumes my life, however, I do spend time on a TTC message board Wink

I am ready to get started, and as much as I don't think I am any more obsessed than I was before, I would say that part of me is now terrified of getting a bfp. Part wants one so bad, the other part is abject terror that I will experience this again.

I am still waiting for AF to show up, so we'll see how things are once I get to start FWP, but right now, I just want to move forward into the next stage.

katieketner · November 2009

monica92603:

in the very very beginning, i remember thinking (b/c I had a c-section) that I probably wouldn't be able to try for several months B/C of the c-section. I couldn't believe how quickly the time passed. Seriously.....

It will be 4 months Friday since we delivered our baby and we just started trying again this month (sort of- i think we missed our peak day). I'm not as consumed w/ it as I would have been a few months ago. I keep thinking ok if it doesn't happen this month, then I'll go get this damn wisdom tooth pulled I've been putting off for a year and that I can have a bunch of drinks at our holiday parties. I'm trying to make plans beyond being obsessed w/ being pg again.

I have NO guilt for trying again so soon b/c I truly believe that it will be the same soul that will come to us next time. it's just what I believe.

I feel the same way, Monica and it brings me some peace...I guess the time just has to be right- it doesn't make the loss any easier though!

jamienbj · November 2009

I think about getting pregnant again every.single.day.

Part of me thinks it's a coping mechanism for me, to hope and think about the future. I felt a lot of sadness in the beginning and still do. But I want a baby, ie a family, more than anything in the world!!!

DH is on the same page as me. We well not TTC before this year ends. Enjoy the holidays stress-free. But most likely in Jan/Feb/March we will begin trying. I know exactly how you feel Monica!

firefightersgal · November 2009

I am. I'm surrounded by so many pregnant people who are due around my previous EDD. I'm obsessed with being pregnant by my EDD. Thankfully, I have until May. I hope it doesn't take that long (or longer)!

cchiquelin · November 2009

You are not the only one feeling that way. I can not wait to get PG again; I think about it a lot. My DH asked me what I wanted for Christmas this year and I told him without hesitation to be PG again. Hopefully AF will be here soon and then it is time TTC.

MSC03 · November 2009

At first, my knee jerk reaction was to get pregnant again as soon as possible and considered not waiting the full 12 weeks that my dr. suggested we wait (I had gotten an "all clear" at my last pelvic exam).

But the more time has passed, the more at peace I've been with waiting until January or so. I think it's the smart thing to do--we need to get through the holidays and my EDD (Jan. 9th).

raygan · November 2009

Girl, I just mc'd last wed and had a dc last thurs. I am already waiting to get a normal AF. I am not waiting i am 36 and got a BFP after a year of trying so i am not wasting time. I do feel a horrible loss but with having problens ttc i can't wait around. Goodluck

raygan · November 2009

My DH also doesn't seem to be in a hurry and it pisses me off. I am 36 and have no kids with him, I guesshis 3 other kids are good for him.....feeling sorry for myself..this sucks!

JulieJ719 · November 2009

I too am obsessed with getting pg again! AF is here now and we are planning on trying over the Holiday Break while we are in Italy...hoping that the time away from the stress and family will have a positive effect on everything.......

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