new movie making fun of extended BFing

GretchenlovesMichael · November 2009

it's a comedy called "grown ups" with adam sandler and a bunch of other people. in the trailer a mom comically nurses her four year old and everyone is all uncomfortable about it and it's obv supposed to be funny/ridiculous. i just think it's sad. it's not that i envision myself nursing to age four it's just the implication that it's the most insane thing in the world to do so, and it plays upon people's uninformed opinions about extended BFing in general. i may very well nurse M&D until they are 2 or so, and i would imagine that some people will find that funny/ridiculous as well. idk maybe i'm oversensitive, it's just that there is so little BFing awareness out there and so things like this may be the only exposure "joe america" has to BFing and i hate that.

vent over.

habsoilers · November 2009

That's surprising because Adam Sandler is known for his thought provoking movies. I expected more of him Stick out tongue

I know what you mean, though. It's a question of trying to get extended BF to be seen as normalised and scenes like that sure don't help.

GretchenlovesMichael · November 2009

habsoilers:

That's surprising because Adam Sandler is known for his thought provoking movies. I expected more of him

LMAO you're right, i'm probably digging too deep on this one haha.

e_b_r · November 2009

i know what you mean though. i met a mom today who (after learning that i use my lunch break to nurse at daycare) whispered to me that her son still nurses at night. i think he's about 3. how sad that she felt this was the right choice for their family but that secrecy is needed to avoid being judged...

Angela814 · November 2009

Are they really running out of material for jokes? It's annoying, but movies that make those kinds of jokes aren't generally movies I enjoy anyway. At least it gets people talking, and it gives us a chance to tell people what extended bfing really is.

The_Spanish_Inquisition · November 2009

Yet another reason why I think Adam Sandler is way lame Confused

eml569 · November 2009

Mothering mag had a great article BF in the movies a while back. It was very interesting.

I work in the ER, and one of my coworkers was taking care of a 13 month old last weekend. She came out of the room and whispered to me "She's still breastfeeding that child" in the most snide voice imaginable. I just chuckled and joked that I wasn't the right person to complain about that to, because I plan on nursing J until he stops wanting it. I've never been shy about this, even before I got pregnant, but her jaw dropped. She just stuttered "you mean, until he's 18 months?" I told her "actually, until he's 2 or 3, if that's what he wants. I'm not planning on weaning for awhile". While the reality is that he'll probably be weaned long before he's 3 because of our next pregnancy and other issues, I still would be okay continuing with the BFing for a long time.

I just thought it was so sad that she thought 13 months was extended BFing and "gross". She then told me she found the idea of nursing a 3 year old "nauseating". I think she also thinks the fact that my son cosleeps at 7 months gross also. Oh well, different strokes, right?

LucyPevensie · November 2009

eml569:
Mothering mag had a great article BF in the movies a while back. It was very interesting.
I work in the ER, and one of my coworkers was taking care of a 13 month old last weekend. She came out of the room and whispered to me "She's still breastfeeding that child" in the most snide voice imaginable. I just chuckled and joked that I wasn't the right person to complain about that to, because I plan on nursing J until he stops wanting it. I've never been shy about this, even before I got pregnant, but her jaw dropped. She just stuttered "you mean, until he's 18 months?" I told her "actually, until he's 2 or 3, if that's what he wants. I'm not planning on weaning for awhile". While the reality is that he'll probably be weaned long before he's 3 because of our next pregnancy and other issues, I still would be okay continuing with the BFing for a long time.
I just thought it was so sad that she thought 13 months was extended BFing and "gross". She then told me she found the idea of nursing a 3 year old "nauseating". I think she also thinks the fact that my son cosleeps at 7 months gross also. Oh well, different strokes, right?

This is great. Narrow minded co-worker got exposed to it on both ends - the 13 month old - and then your response. So SHE was in the minority thinking nursing past "a certain age" is weird. Which was a good place for her to be!

ncbelle · November 2009

It sounds annoying - then again I find most Adam Sandler things annoying!

It is sad though that you don't see more breastfeeding in a positive light in movies, TV, etc. It does make it still very much a taboo thing or something to be mocked :-(

DaisyDolly · November 2009

get a grip. its an adam sandler movie. he mocks everything including disability. why do people who breastfeed until age 4 get a reprieve from mockery ?

laughing at yourself is fun. try it.

SeaSoul · November 2009

how unfortunate.

GretchenlovesMichael · November 2009

DaisyDolly:

get a grip. its an adam sandler movie. he mocks everything including disability. why do people who breastfeed until age 4 get a reprieve from mockery ?

laughing at yourself is fun. try it.

lol - thanks for the positive post.

you do make a point though - those types of movies make fun of everything.

GretchenlovesMichael · November 2009

LucyPevensie:
eml569:

Mothering mag had a great article BF in the movies a while back. It was very interesting.

I work in the ER, and one of my coworkers was taking care of a 13 month old last weekend. She came out of the room and whispered to me "She's still breastfeeding that child" in the most snide voice imaginable. I just chuckled and joked that I wasn't the right person to complain about that to, because I plan on nursing J until he stops wanting it. I've never been shy about this, even before I got pregnant, but her jaw dropped. She just stuttered "you mean, until he's 18 months?" I told her "actually, until he's 2 or 3, if that's what he wants. I'm not planning on weaning for awhile". While the reality is that he'll probably be weaned long before he's 3 because of our next pregnancy and other issues, I still would be okay continuing with the BFing for a long time.

I just thought it was so sad that she thought 13 months was extended BFing and "gross". She then told me she found the idea of nursing a 3 year old "nauseating". I think she also thinks the fact that my son cosleeps at 7 months gross also. Oh well, different strokes, right?

This is great. Narrow minded co-worker got exposed to it on both ends - the 13 month old - and then your response. So SHE was in the minority thinking nursing past "a certain age" is weird. Which was a good place for her to be!

that is a great story - and ditto lucyp re: it being great that your coworker got it on both sides.

cindy453 · November 2009

KateB1984:
I'm not really bothered by stuff like that. I think people's discomfort by people BFing is funny, though I'm all for extended breast feeding. Anyone seen 'Away we go'? Love that movie. Totally mocks APing (in its extremest form). On BW instead of using a stroller: "I love my children. Why would I want to push them away from me!?" lol.

Sometimes you have to laugh at yourself! I haven't seen that movie specifically though.

My H and I say the, "why would I want to push my babies away from me???" thing all the time! It's a running joke now

Maggie Gylenhall was a continuum parenting person though, not exactly an AP person. I'm AP, but I don't really get the continuum concept! I tried lurking on the MDC continuum thread, and got too caught up in women wishing they lived a tribal life. No thank you, not for me!

Sunny1inTucson · November 2009

meh. it's adam sandler. i don't think you could pay me to watch that movie. and it's not exactly news that BFing a 4 year old is outside the norms for our culture.

brideofaussie · November 2009

Sunny1inTucson:
meh. it's adam sandler. i don't think you could pay me to watch that movie. and it's not exactly news that BFing a 4 year old is outside the norms for our culture.

I have to agree. I find this very underwhelming. Considering our culture he's made fun of MUCH more shocking things.

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