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Need advice regarding DH/his job..

Mrs.T22308Mrs.T22308
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Long story short.. DH has NEVER been reliable for ANYTHING.  Never on time, rarely keeps a promise, etc etc. Annoys the crap out of me, but I love him and I've learned to deal with it.

His job, in no way helps the issue.  He works for a large retailer and understandably retail royally sucks this time of year (yes, it sucks all year, but I used to work retail until 2 years ago so I know how rough the holidays are).. and he works security so its demanding.  He also has to work on Thanksgiving (at the parade in NYC.. so you can guess who he works for LOL) so I'm always bummed about him missing that holiday. He is on call for his job 24/7.. and on a regular basis he has to stay for hours extra, or has to get up at 2 am because the alarm is going off or something.

If your husband was either 1) not reliable or 2) had a job that wisked him away at the most unopportune times... how did you deal... especially AFTER the baby came?  I just flipped out on him on the phone because he was literally 5 minutes from home ( we live an hour away from his store) and he has to turn around and go back because they caught and employee stealing and only he can handle that (his detectives do not have the authority).  As always.. dinner is now on the table getting cold, and I'm bumming.   

Any advice would be great.  I've gotten a holiday job to fill my time (and earn a little cash) as I know how lonely I was last year.  Ironically... my job is for Macy's as well.. working for his boss LOL I guess what I'm looking for is advice on how to deal with being alone a lot... especially after the baby comes :( 

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Re: Need advice regarding DH/his job..

  • choco_labchoco_lab
    My DH works a lot and does a lot of travel.  Honestly, I have just learned to do everything on my own. If he can help.. great.  But I don't expect it.  I am now a SAHM so it's my full time job to take care of DS.  If I was working, too, I might have a different attitude.  If you want his help, just be VERY specific about what you need done.. they can not read your mind and he will have NO idea what to do.  (For example, I got really mad a DH when he didn't come to an appt with me but I didn't tell him "You have to come with me."  I thought he'd just know that I wanted him there.. which he didn't.)
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  • qtpa2tqtpa2t member
    Honestly?  I would just consider myself a single mother and act accordingly.  We'd all like a Rockwellian idea of parental involvement and sharing, but you know that he first off has a job with on-the-spot demands and on top of that, he's not reliable.  You're not going to change either of those things.  Sure, you can find things to fill your time pre-baby, whether it's an additional job or hobby or reading or other friends to socialize with.  After baby, that's not going to change much, and the more you dwell on it, the more it will depress you.
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