Do you think having a baby is that hard?

AMYfromKY · November 2009

I had a really rough first 2.5 weeks because I was in the hospital and felt horrible, but now I don't think having a baby is hard.

Sure I'm a little tired and sometimes I don't know what to do to make him happy when he's crying, but it's almost just like 2nd nature.

Anyone else doing just fine with your LO?

pivey · November 2009

I've seen all sorts of moms and babies - some it is easy, some its hard, some its easy then gets hard or the other way around - everyone is different!

MadameFancyPants · November 2009

I'm having a blast! Seriously. I was scared that it would be hard or horrible, but I have no complaints whatsoever.

MrsErinnElizabeth · November 2009

I'm with you, however I have a very easy baby. The first few weeks were rough, because of baby blues and the fact that I didn't know what the hell I was doing. But now it's not bad at all.

She never cries, is generally happy most of the time, and sleeps great at night (in three hour chunks, that is, but I'll take what I can get!). Some days are harder than others, but it's not bad...just tiring.

janice74 · November 2009

It is getting easier and my DH comes home to find me smiling instead of crying now, but raising a baby is harder than I ever thought it would be. (and I always thought it would be a lot of work). I think it depends on what kind of baby you are blessed with.

kle+spd · November 2009

Yeah, me too! Sometimes I can't eat when I want to or I don't get to clean everything I want to but I love being a mom since day 1! But my baby is very easy. She is not colicky and sleeps & eats really well!

Lucky428 · November 2009

I'm not sure if it's because I have tons of experience w/ kids and babies and my degree is in early childhood development/ed, but I really don't think it's been that hard so far.

Yes, waking up in the middle of the night often is hard. BF was hard for about a week. We do have our challenges. But overall, it's been great and pretty easy. (So far... I am currently watching a teething baby. He is much harder to care for than my newborn.)

And I'll also add, I have an EXTREMELY helpful DH.

sam19 · November 2009

yes. but I had bad ppd and a reflux/colic baby. It's getting easier now that I am feeling better and learning what does/doesn't work for my daughter.

Lucky428 · November 2009

MrsErinnElizabeth:
sleeps great at night (in three hour chunks, that is, but I'll take what I can get!).

I find it hilarious how our definition of "sleeping great" has changed since becoming a mom!! I'm happy w/ 3 hours also!

jennylove1084 · November 2009

The job itself isn't that hard. It's just exhausting and a ton of work. If had someone to clean my house, do my laundry and cook while I played with my kid all day I'd be a much happier camper.

MamiJam · November 2009

I think there are days and even seasons that are harder than others. The first 3 weeks were probably the hardest for me with getting used to BFing, lack of sleep, my own recovery... but now, it is much easier and more fun. DS makes me laugh and happier than I could've ever imagined. Hearing his laugh and seeing him smile as he drifts off to sleep in my arms are priceless moments that make me forget that it was ever hard.

alybookgirl · November 2009

It's getting easier everyday. The first week I felt completely ill-equipped for motherhood, but I am so much more confident in taking care of her now. I'm actually starting to enjoy my days inside the house these days!

AMYfromKY · November 2009

Lucky428:
MrsErinnElizabeth:
sleeps great at night (in three hour chunks, that is, but I'll take what I can get!).
I find it hilarious how our definition of "sleeping great" has changed since becoming a mom!! I'm happy w/ 3 hours also!

Ditto! Last night I didn't get my 3 hour chunks and I am pretty tired today!

carimeli · November 2009

I think it's all relative. Sure, having a baby is harder than life before kids, but I'm having a blast with DD everyday and don't consider it hard. Let's ask again when I go back to work or have had a child longer than 4 weeks! lol

MrsSandro · November 2009

It's much harder than I thought it would be. I was surprised how difficult newborns are. I never had been around babies in the past and this was a whole new experience. Is it so hard I wouldn't do it again...No.

.completely.amazing.love. · November 2009

MrsErinnElizabeth:

I'm with you, however I have a very easy baby. The first few weeks were rough, because of baby blues and the fact that I didn't know what the hell I was doing. But now it's not bad at all.

She never cries, is generally happy most of the time, and sleeps great at night. Some days are harder than others, but it's not bad...just tiring.

This exactly. I feel so blessed

tutter805 · November 2009

This is the first time I've really been around a baby. I've been around my niece and nephews but never took care of them, I would only hold them til they cried then gave them to their mom. I really thought with absoultely no experience with a baby that I would have a horrible time adjusting to being a mom and having no sleep but it is alot better than I imagined, I wouldn't say it's easy, but it really is the most rewarding thing ever. I've adjusted to little sleep and am happy when I get at least 2 hours here and there. Overall, I think it has been easier than I thought, but I do have a good baby. He sleeps good and doesn't cry too often. Can't imagine it any other way.

MrsLeslie030405 · November 2009

We have been blessed to have no complications while pg, giving birth or as a newborn. There have been some rough days and nights the first 3 weeks... it mostly just exausting with the amount of attention she needs... BFing take a lot out of you but is also so rewarding.

We are lucky that she has infrequent fussy moments... we have had it easier than some but i would still say babies are hard work, lots of sacrifices and dedication!

Finn829 · November 2009

At first I thought it was easy since he was such a good baby, but the last 2 weeks he took a 180. It's been hard and we finally got him on some reflux meds which seem to be helping, so everyday he seems to be feeling better. But he still has good & bad days. I love it though and wouldn't change a thing.

cc505 · November 2009

I totally agree. I do have an easy baby who sleeps well, eats well, isn't colicky and really doesn't cry much. She gives me the greatest smiles, too! My DS is also a very easy toddler so that really helps. He loves to help out with his sister and can really entertain himself when I am busy with her.

tigergreen · November 2009

MrsSandro:
It's much harder than I thought it would be. I was surprised how difficult newborns are. I never had been around babies in the past and this was a whole new experience. Is it so hard I wouldn't do it again...No.

i'm kind of like you, although i had been around newborns...i wonder if some of that has to do with the point we're at, both around 1 month old. i'm hoping that in one more month i'm going to look back & say "man, that was tough; i'm glad we've got it more figured out now!"

tigergreen · November 2009

MrsSandro:
It's much harder than I thought it would be. I was surprised how difficult newborns are. I never had been around babies in the past and this was a whole new experience. Is it so hard I wouldn't do it again...No.

i'm kind of like you, although i had been around newborns...i wonder if some of that has to do with the point we're at, both around 1 month old. i'm hoping that in one more month i'm going to look back & say "man, that was tough; i'm glad we've got it more figured out now!"

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · November 2009

i think it all depends on the mom and also the baby, some moms have a harder time even though the baby might be easy, some moms would be fine if it weren't for having a tough baby, some moms and babies both have a difficult time, and sometimes both take it easy. I think everyone eventually adjusts, but some take longer to get there.

I had a difficult time at first even though I have a relatively easygoing baby, now I've adjusted very well and I'm truly enjoying my son.

ladyalmalthea · November 2009

It's been pretty good since I left the hospital, save the mood swings. I know I'm lucky to have such a calm baby- takes after his daddy.

TarheelsInNJ · November 2009

I don't think the job is physically that difficult - changing, rocking, feeding (well, nursing has been tough, but it's getting better). I am lucky so far to have a fairly easy baby, not too fussy. Probably it will get more physically difficult when we have to start implementing routines and such.

But, it is hard emotionally for sure. I'm still getting used to the adjustment that my time really is no longer my own. Even though I knew that would be the case when I got pregnant, it is still a concept that's hard to really understand until you're in it. And waking up at night after just an hour or two of sleep is REALLY hard!

That being said, it was definitely hardest in the first 2 weeks, and it's completely, 100% worth it. But it has taken time to adjust to feeling like a mom - not sure I'm totally there yet!

achase123 · November 2009

I like this post because I feel the same way. I am a single mom too but it doesn't seem that bad. If DS is fussy I can usually find ways to calm him down and I haven't hardly had any "I just can't do this" moments. *Knocks furiously on wood*

Kristinmo · November 2009

I'm with you. Sure I have my moments but for the most part I think it's second nature. I also have a pretty easy baby and can absolutely understand how someone would think it's hard!

jdiaz79 · November 2009

Wow - glad to see you all count your blessings! My DS has several special needs medically, so it can certainly be a hard job! Nevertheless, I wouldn't trade it for the world.

orleyl · November 2009

So much harder than I expected, i had a hard time recovering from my c-section, issues with ppd, did not produce enough bm, and dd was pretty difficult the first month (very fussy and slept very little). She has gotten easier but now I am working full time again and think it is very hard to balance life, baby, work, house. So yes having a baby is hard but absolutely wonderful. I am crazy about dd and cant imagine life without her.

Lantaria · November 2009

Babies are easy. Toddlers and older kids are HARD.

ryry1977 · November 2009

I have had a easy time so far being a mom. A little (sometimes a lot) tired, but nothing unmanageable. I am really enjoying it. DS is pretty good and doesn't cry much.

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