How has your LO's birth changed your relationship with your SO?

blushingbrideoct07 · November 2009

My DH is currently sleeping on the couch btw 12- 4:30 am so he gets?uninterrupted?sleep. ?I sleep in our bed from 8- 12am alone while he watches Gianna. ?We have slept in the same bed only once in the past 2 and a half weeks. ?It sucks and it's not ideal but its the only way that the two of us both get enough sleep to function during the day. ?

hmarsano · November 2009

You are in survival mode right now. Do whatever makes you sane! Just try to make some cuddle time if there is a point in the day when LO goes down for a nap and you guys are alone together.

FWIW, it does get better! It was hard on us at the beginning, but now our relationship is closer than ever!

DrCsWife2b · November 2009

Sadly we bicker more often Sad

and we go to bed as soon as LO does so it leaves little to no time for sexy time.

Pennylane824 · November 2009

We have become so much stronger, it is ridiculous. At the same time we do snap more often than we used to- it happens when you are totally sleep deprived. Madison is a great sleeper so we are really lucky that the sleep deprivationis gone.

mrs.schwery · November 2009

I think a lot of it is that DH was gone for the second month of W's life so he really doesn't know what he needs all the time. We argue a lot and I think DH is starting to feel a bit inferior when he can't get him to stop crying and I take him and he just stops. I hope it gets better but right now it's hard on the both of us.

mommyof2texans · November 2009

We haven't slept in our bed since coming home. I had a c-section and our room is upstairs so we just set up everything downstairs for now. I sleep in the room downstairs between feedings as much as possible and DH sleeps on the couch.

We have been mostly in survival mode here as well and I look forward to getting back into our bed just to be able to sleep beside each other!

sam19 · November 2009

Our relationship has only strengthened. I'm so in love with him and it is amazing to see him with our daughter.

laurenaac83 · November 2009

Our LO has made us much closer. We do a lot of teamwork and he helps a lot around the house now!

arrasmith · November 2009

we don't sleep in the same bed most nights, but I know it will get better. And when I see DH holding LO it just melts my heart. More sex would be great but we're working on that.

SusieQ1982 · November 2009

Honestly, it's gotten better. For us, having a child was the ultimate sign of our commitment to each other- we knew we were in it for the long haul.

Since our son arrived, things have been hard on us, so we had to work together as a team to face the challenges of new parents. It's really brought us closer together.

evhamm · November 2009

mostly all changes for the worse but only temporarily. I love DH very much but we bicker and no sex yet... the first 6 weeks were awful but now (at 6wks on) we sleep in bed together, sometimes snuggle.

It will get better for you... the first 6 weeks are incredibly hard. Get rest wherever and whenever you can.

brainwashxx · November 2009

So far I

Mrs.S.on.01.19.08 · November 2009

sam19:
Our relationship has only strengthened. I'm so in love with him and it is amazing to see him with our daughter.

This, exactly.

New Mrs · November 2009

DH is amazing w/ LO. I love seeing him with her. We have had our fights though. He was home for 3 works..then went back to work. That first week back to work was tough on me because I was getting up with her at night and letting him sleep...and it caused some resentment towards him. We worked it out though. I do feel soooo much closer to him now that we have a family of 3 and it is not just us 2.

No sexy time yet though Embarrassed Not even a BJ. We frenched kissed two nights ago and I felt like it was the first time he kissed me all over again (when I was 14!)

T_&_A · November 2009

DrCsWife2b:
Sadly we bicker more often and we go to bed as soon as LO does so it leaves little to no time for sexy time.

This. People tell me it will get better. I'm waiting.

Scooter359 · November 2009

Its had its ups and downs. We normally dont sleep in the same room at nights, and we tend to bicker more considering we NEVER fought before, but theres also the times when I watch them together and I get super emotional and I realize why I fell in love with him.

angie05161 · November 2009

I feel like I'm one of the lucky ones. We haven't really fought much and we've had our share of arguments and issues in the past. I think it's brought us closer. We haven't had much time for cuddling and no sex yet, but we're only at 3 1/2 weeks. We still sleep in the same bed at night and even though DH has gone back to work, he gets up once at night to feed DS a bottle while I pump (we've had feeding issues and it takes me an hour plus to feed at night otherwise). That's been a huge help.

pregali80 · November 2009

uh, i think we just broke up last night. i wish i was kidding. fighting at 1:30 am over nothing.

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