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Just having a bad day...needed to vent

Erin RNErin RN
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Today I should have been 12wks along. We had a whole plan of how we were going to tell everyone today. I should be happy and celebrating. This whole thing sucks so much! It?s been a week since the d&c and I'm still in pain. I got an infection after the surgery, so now I'm so many meds it?s crazy. Then I see my primary dr today and she says the typical "well, you're young and you still have time". I swear I am going to punch the next person that says that or one of the many other stupid things people say. You don't have to say anything! I'm also struggling with the whole when to ttc again. A part of me really doesn't want to wait so long to try again, but another part of me is so afraid of another loss. I'm just hoping that once the pregnancy symptoms go away I will be able to think more clearly. I've been such an emotional wreck these last few weeks that I can't even think straight. It def didn't help that my b-day was this week. It just sucks! That seems to be the only thing I can say these days...the whole thing just sucks! I guess I just have to give it time. I want to feel like myself again, but maybe I will never be my old self again. I don't know, but thank you so much for giving me a place to vent. I really does help get through this. I don't have anyone IRL I can talk to. I guess that?s the down side of not telling people other than close family about the pregnancy. Thanks again:)

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  • KtB0605KtB0605
    Aww, I am so sorry you have had a bay day. Isn't it ridiculous when doctors try to "ease" the blow and come up with some lame sympathetic gesture?You'd think they'd have better tact than to say something so thoughtless. I agree, it would just be better to not say anything. Although you might not have anyone IRL to talk to, this board has been really helpful to me, so I hope it has been helpful to you, too. I'll keep you in my thoughts this week...and I hope your infection clears up soon. Keep us updated on how you're doing. 
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  • schen0510schen0510
    Milestones stink!  There is no other way to put it.  You will get through it...all of it.  I promise it gets better.  ((hugs))
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  • christina&philchristina&phil

    I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this!  I agree with pp...milestones are hard.  People say the most inappropriate things, and it is so hard to handle those comments!  You will make it through...

     As far as TTC, I am in the same boat.  Part of me can't even imagine trying this again and opening myself and my DH up to such heartbreak...and part of me wants to get started right away.  Let me know what you decide!!!! Wink

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  • simbajspsimbajsp member

    I know what you mean!  It's hard because you don't really want to tell anyone but close family because it's hard to talk about and its so personal.  But then you wish you had people in your life you could talk to so that they might have some sort of sensitivity to how you are feeling.  It's nice to have people here on the boards who understand how it is to feel this way and can validate how normal it is, and that know yes, it does suck, but who can also tell you that yes, it will get better. :-)

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  • rjbear21rjbear21 member

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  ((hugs)) 

    I think it's safe to say a lot of us are having these same feelings right now.   It's a natural process of loss that you have to let run it's course.  I'm so sorry everything is so difficult right now.  

    I think you need to give yourself more time to work through things before even thinking/talking about TTC again.  You will get there.  If you really are struggling with things I suggest to seek out a counselor or a pastor or someone who is trained to counsel.  It can really help.  

    Hang in there.  ((hugs))

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  • MSC03MSC03 member
    I don't have any answers, but I think everything that you're feeling is very normal. I'm so sorry for your loss!
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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    I'm sorry you are having such a bad day. {{hugs}}
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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    I'm sorry for your loss.

     I think everything you described is completely common to be feeling after a m/c. I know most of these thoughts run through my head every day. And the milestones suck..we planned to tell everyone this weekend as I would be 13 weeks.

     

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