Scared about tomorrow

triple_sevens · November 2009

I'm having my D&E (I think--possibly a D&C) tomorrow morning at 10 am. It will be one week since the baby's heart beat was lost.

I'm so scared about it! I had this awful nightmare last night that they were trying to put me to sleep and kept failing and that I could feel everything. I'm scared it's going to hurt like hell afterward. I'm scared I'm going to be a complete basketcase, just when I'm starting to feel like I can leave the house for a few hours at a time without breaking down. I'm scared that the baby's okay after all and I've been misdiagnosed and I'll lose a healthy pregnancy (which is crazy, because healthy pregnancies grow and don't have disappearing heart beats--and they're going to do an u/s just to be safe before the procedure). I'm scared they're going to f it up and puncture my uterus. I'm just scared, scared, scared.

I need someone to talk me down from this.

Genie0120 · November 2009

I am so sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. I understand your apprehension. I also was so worried that the baby did have a heartbeat and what if it was alive etc....

However, they did another ultrasound before for confirmation and everyone was nice and very empathetic. I was such a mess before hand, but they explained everything to me and if they dont, dont be afraid to ask. Many women go through these feelings, its such a fragile time.

It will be ok, the anesthesia was good and to be honest, I fealt a little peaceful in those moments where it was just me and I was waking up. I was able to pray and talk to the baby without judgement from others. I spent that time just starting a little healing and finding a special time to think and start healing.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

pepomntpat · November 2009

I am so very sorry for your loss. {{hugs}}

I just had a D&E last week and physically it was really a piece of cake. Also, please ask up front for some medication to calm your nerves. My anesthesiologist saw how tense I was and just ordered some for me, but not sure if all of them are that perceptive. It really helped. Things went all fuzzy and it helped me relax.

DH was able to sit with me most of the time. They did take me back to the prep room first without him to ask about any domestic violence. As soon as I said that I was not a victim, they called DH back. They asked a bunch of medical history questions, gave me some meds to make me relax, hooked me up to an IV with antibiotics (which burned), told me to say goodbye to DH for a bit, and then took me back to the OR where I got out of the wheel chair and onto the table. They took my glasses, said they'd take good care of them and the next thing I remember they were calling my name about 40 minutes later. After I had a chance to wake up, I went back to my original prep room and sat with DH for a little while and had a snack and a drink. They gave me another antibiotic pill and my discharge instructions, made me use the bathroom and then sent me home. From start to finish I was there about 3 and a half hours.

Oh, I did bite my lip pretty hard while under anesthesia. Physically speaking, that was probably the worst pain I had of the whole ordeal. Apparently that is a relatively common side effect while under anesthesia.

I had some pain-just like bad menstrual cramps and they gave me more medication which helped almost immediately. I had no nausea or anything like that. I bled quite a bit the first day, but since then I've only had some spotting. I had cramping the first three days, but nothing since. I slept most of the afternoon the first day, partly I am sure from the anesthesia, but partly also because I was up all night with your same worries.

Everything will be okay. Keep us posted! {{hugs}}

schen0510 · November 2009

((hugs)) I honestly did not think it was that bad. I had a D&C after my first loss. They did an ultrasound one more time before they did anything to make sure that we really did lose the baby. I went to sleep fine and woke up with no problems. I hardly had any bleeding in the beginning, it got heavier for a few days, and then slowed down again. The pain was not bad at all. I had a couple of days with some bad cramps but nothing that the medication they gave me couldn't handle. You will be fine physically. It is the mental part that is the hardest to get over. I cried like a baby the entire time they were prepping me. The nurses that were taking care of me were wonderful and DH was by my side the entire time until I went in for the procedure. Everything will be okay though! ((hugs)) and GL tomorrow

Annoyed Bridesmaid (and Former Bride) · November 2009

Our thoughts are with you. The procedure itself was relatively easy for me. The most traumatic part of the day was when the nurse came in and asked us what we wanted to do with the remains of the pregnancy. It was awful. I had read about this on the board before I went in and was somewhat prepared to make the decision, but it still hit me hard...

Temp950106187509203 · November 2009

I don't have any D&E experience, but you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope it all goes smoothly and the physical part of it all is relatively painless.

cchiquelin · November 2009

First of all, I am sorry for your lost. I had similar fears as well. The D&C was my first surgerical procedure. I definitely was in more emotional pain than physical I was a little sore the next day or two; but nothing too bad. I had my D&C five weeks ago and my follow up appointment last week. My doctor said everything looked good. There is nothing to worry about.

I am so sorry you have to go through this.

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