Who will be at your home

trapani2be · November 2009

when you bring home baby? Are you having family meet you there or keeping the first day totally private with dh/siblings? I feel like I just want to be left alone for the first few days so we can all get to know each other and ds #1 can adjust to the changes.

mandeline21 · November 2009

My mom is flying in from out of town, so she'll be there, and I'm sure we'll have to beat MIL away with a stick....

NJBride4-8-05 · November 2009

My parents were there to greet us and left soon after so we could be alone.

clamsnyder · November 2009

i don't think i have much of a choice whether or not someone is going to be waiting at my house, lol. i have pretty much just accepted that we will have company...

broomy · November 2009

mandeline21:
My mom is flying in from out of town, so she'll be there, and I'm sure we'll have to beat MIL away with a stick....

This, exactly.

IrishBrideND · November 2009

no one. I had never heard of having family in the home until the bump.

DASHSKIDADDLE · November 2009

Well...my mom is going to stay with us for a few days to help out, and knowing my MIL and FIL, they will be in and out too. Also my SIL and BIL should be coming in from Chicago after I go into labor (they will jump on a plane and come down) so they can be there within the next day or so.

I'm not couting on my dad and step-mom to be around after the birth, but who knows with those two.

As for everyone else in our immediate family, they will probably pop in and out over the next day or so...who knows Smile .

teelaman · November 2009

I'm pretty sure for the first couple days I won't be able to keep anyone away - both of our entire immediate families live here, plus his grandmother. I've already told my mother that I'd be more than happy to set up a spot for her so she can help us out - which she will more than likely be doing.

This is our first, and I've talked to a lot of my friends, and my sister in laws to get advice on this whole "people helping out" right after the baby is born thing. And across the board - whether it was first or second or even third - every single person said "have someone come help!" Despite how exciting it is - our bodies are going to go through something super extreme, and the adjustment is hard enough when you feel well - having someone there to help out so you can get enough rest, feel better, help out around the house (thank you, mom!) is a huge help - and having those first few days of help won't do anything to hurt your bonding. You have years and years to spend with your kids and bond and grow with them - having a little help those first days won't change that.

Alexandra*sMom · November 2009

Same as with my girls. No one but us.

jescgrl · November 2009

no one! Our two year old will be with Grandmom and Granddad the first night home. Im putting my foot down this time. After we had Gavin I was tripping over people in our house. None of which were there to help out... they just sat around watching me and the baby... I felt like an animal in the zoo! This is why no one will know the exact time of the C-Section, we will not call anyone till I am out of recovery and in a room for at least an hour. My in-laws will be at the hospital during the C-section b/c they are watching Gavin...and DH really wanted someone there with him incase something went wrong. When we get home that day is ours, to get into a rough routine and get back into newborn mode

mcpelc · November 2009

My family lives in town, so they'll be around, but they won't be at our house. My in-laws are out-of-town, but after DS they didn't come until he was almost 2 months, so I'm anticipating the same kind of thing this time.

hoshicat · November 2009

Oh gosh, I already know everyone is going to be there and I just have to accept that! haha But I'm good with it now.

MFalor · November 2009

I am a very private person and I will get overwhelmed if I have people around (even if I did have any room at my apartment). When I go into the hospital to deliver, I will call my mom and DH's parents and they will fly/drive out. The rules are, they stay at a hotel and they don't come over (to my house or the hospital) without first calling us to make sure it's okay.

MFalor · November 2009

MFalor:
The rules are, they don't come over without first calling us to make sure it's okay.

I should add that this is basic manners that all people (including family) should observe whether or not someone just gave birth.

BamBam510 · November 2009

I think I want it to just be us for hte first day or two at home. My parents would probably drive me nuts and my MIL for sure will be over-bearing and we just want to settle in when I get home and enjoy the baby so I plan on putting in a request for peace and quiet for the first day or so. I mean, coming to visit for an hr or so will be okay I think...but thats it.

Calibride31304 · November 2009

It will probably be just the 4 of us. I'm not quite sure what will happen with DS1 and whether he will be here with my parents or at my parents house and DH will just go pick him up. I'm not a fan of having a ton of people around for the first few days.

coliecat@hotmail.com · November 2009

I really want it to just be "us" for the first day or two - but our parents are all crazy. They all live out of town - and all have already made plans to fly in and stay for a week. I don't think they realize how overwhelming it will be to have everyone in the house at once. Oh well, what are ya gonna do?

Alli0410 · November 2009

NJBride4-8-05:
My parents were there to greet us and left soon after so we could be alone.

NJ Bride: that is the cutest pic of your daughter!!! Love it! It put a big smile on my face after a long day!

butterbeansmama · November 2009

I have no idea. My mom will probably stay with us for a week or so when the new baby is born. DH travels alot too, so she will probably stay with me when he is gone until we get into a routine too.

Pickybod · November 2009

Leighfg:
i don't think i have much of a choice whether or not someone is going to be waiting at my house, lol. i have pretty much just accepted that we will have company...

Same for me.

prego760 · November 2009

I think the first day should be for just us and our fur baby Jameson. He is such an important part of our family we want him to meet baby and get used to him.

Mrs.BoomBoom · November 2009

All family lives OOT. My mom's trying to get here in time and I'm sure ILs won't be far behind. I'm fine with my mom staying with us (and I hope she'll stay a while) and I know I can tell her to get a hotel if I want some space. I've told ILs that they'll have to get a hotel.

Pumpkin30 · November 2009

I'm hoping it will be just the two of us. My parents would be okay, but the ILs are just annoying and rude and I always stress when I have to see them. My parents would also help; the ILs wouldn't help nor would I trust them to help.

MrsDonk · November 2009

Hopefully no one besides my mom. I want the first few days to be stress free. If the IL's are hanging around I will be a nervous wreck. Getting them to stay away however could be interesting.

lite-bright · November 2009

My mom will be, b/c she's flying in from OOT to take care of DD and our dogs while DH and I are at the hospital.

No one else.

kat1012 · November 2009

My parents will be flying in. They will be the only people at our pad. DB's mother is the devil so she's not invited...it helps that she's 3,000 miles away!

cathylynn1213 · November 2009

Good question! I hadn't really thought about it yet. My parents live in town, so they'll be at the hospital for sure, but I don't know if I'd want them at the house. Parents-in-law live about 9 hours away. MIL keeps talking about coming to help with the baby after its bor, but DH and I have talked about how we'd like some alone time...

Bottom line-- I don't know, but thanks for making me think about it!

Rache22 · November 2009

im going to be by myself i think.... i might have a friend come and stay the night though... She needs a place to stay and she offered to help me out with baby if i need it.... so yea.. it will help quite a bit..

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