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Do you think this is nice or obnoxious?
We have 3 men working on our home. They have been here for about 3 weeks and don't speak a ton of English. One had a baby over the weekend. He had a boy, and I have a 7 month old boy. We had a lot of clothes that DS never wore, with tags still on. I gave him about 5 layette sets - sleepers with shirts and pants, a sweater, a pack of onsies, and a gap jacket. that DS had never worn because DH & I hate baby blue and little creatures on his clothes. All of these are in totally new condition with tags and mostly 0-3 month size.
I don't know the guy, but I assume that he can use the stuff and if not, possibly knows someone who can. All my friends are very fortunate and don't need much stuff, so giving it to them would be a waste. I could sell it but it isn't worth the time/effort for me. I had planned to donate it.
Do you think it is condesending to give it to him without knowing him better?
(My DD's clothes are almost all hand me downs from a friends DD and I love it).
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Re: Do you think this is nice or obnoxious?
I would just ask him if he's interested. I wouldn't assume he wants or needs them, but if you ask, he may be thrilled to have them.
We don't have tons of money, but we do have tons of grandparents (both our parents are divorced), so DS gets a crazy ridiculous amount of clothes. I don't want any hand me downs from other people, because DS already has more than he can really get a lot of good out of and I don't need more stuff to store. Someone once sent me an ENORMOUS box of hand me down clothes shortly after DS was born. They never asked if I wanted them, just sent them. This box was HUGE. I know they had very thoughtful intentions, but truthfully it really stressed me out to have a gigantic box of stuff that I didn't want or need or have room for. I just didn't need the extra hassle of figuring out where to donate the stuff when I was learning how to be a mommy
I think it was a sweet.
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
Very nice.
We can totally afford new clothes for our kids, but LOVE hand me downs. I would be super excited about new clothes someone gave me, and wouldn't think it was condescending.
You take my ovaries, I take your yarns.