2nd, 3rd time moms.....(breastfeeding ?)

shari_rngleson · November 2009

do you plan to try to breastfeed longer this time around? i still feel awful that i only lasted 3 months with DD.

i feel like we were always going places and i did not put in a good enough effort to be able to breastfeed anywhere so i would just pull out the bottle.

i really want to be more successful this time and i am so nervous of failure again!

madhatter2003 · November 2009

I'm not pg again, but bfing has been MUCH easier with DS than it was with DD.

Worcbride · November 2009

I only did 6 mos cuz DD had latch issues and I had supply issues; I'm hoping we wont have those issues this time around!

SueandSteve · November 2009

I stuck it out for a year but I have to admit there were MANY times I wanted to throw in the towel. It's hard with working and pumping, etc. and I can only imagine how it will be even crazier with 2. I'm really trying hard for another year of it!

Tess12 · November 2009

I only bf for three months, as well. We just struggled with it so much. I am hoping it will be easier this time and I will be able to go longer. But if we have the same types of problems, I will stop sooner.

Brewtowngrl · November 2009

I am going to try and go longer. 9 months with DS. I had to pump so much with DS not being able to suck. He had an NG tube for awhile. I hope this next one goes to term and we don't have the issues. It will be hard to make myself do it again. I will selfishly admit it was nice to get my body back. I am the type that holds onto extra weight when BFing. I dropped 15 lbs within 3 months of stopping.

rohansmom · November 2009

breastfeeding is hard.(to simple I know) Good job on three months the first time around. I had a pretty easy time when I breastfeed,once I got over small hurdles. Just do your best.Try to find a LC that may help.

Erin&Ryan · November 2009

I BF DS for 10 months (he self-weaned at that time - started biting me and was just no longer interested in the boob).

I think this time around if I make it to 6 months with the new LO I'll be really happy. Between having a 2.5 yr old, a new born and working (and pumping 3 times a day while at work) I think its going to be more challenging this time around (for me anyway).

GL to you! I think that if you make the commitment you can totally do it!

zakuravlm · November 2009

I only lasted two weeks with DD because of latch and supply issues. I was so exhausted because DD would be at one breast for an hour and still hungry . It was obvious that she wasn't getting enough. I was in such pain and it was a horrible experience. I don't know if I want to try it again with the next baby.

RedHeadedLeo85 · November 2009

At least you got 3 months in. I was only able to get 5 days in with DD but we had complications after birth (infection in stiches of perineum, high fever, DD had acid reflux, couldn't get to latch on correctly...) I have high hopes to try again this time and IF I get 3 months in, then I will be happy with that. I plan to BF for at least 6 months.

On a side note about the failure thing, on the 5th day, I remember calling my mom bawling because I felt like a failure cause I couldn't do it and asked her if it was ok to give DD formula...

Lisa_Ont · November 2009

I breastfed DS for around 9 months. I was happy with that long and so was DS. He only had the bottle for 2 months and then he quickly transition to a cup. If everything goes well, I plan to do the same this time around.

Mikeysbride2b · November 2009

I don't.. I will be lucky if I last at all.. my DS will only be 15 months old when #2 is born and I cannot imagine pumping and BF all the time and the lack of sleep with 2 under 1.5. I plan to do it for as long as my sanity lasts.. healthy mom=healthy baby and DS took formula after a few months and was fine!

Calibride31304 · November 2009

I've heard that bf #2 or 3 is much easier than the first. You know more of what to expect now that you've been around the track once.

I plan to BF till DS2 self weans. DS1 was EBF till 6 months and BF till 15months however, I was a SAHM who was studying for my RN test. With DS2, I'll be working part-time for a few weeks after mat leave then going back full-time so DH can finish school. DS2 will be about 1/2 and 1/2 with BF and FF. I would love to EBF however, it's not feasible when working 3 nights/week and sleeping 2.5 days/week. I have a feeling he may wean earlier than his brother did at 15 months.

chris27 · November 2009

No I plan on bfing for about 13 mos this time around. I BF DD#1 17.5 mos, DD#2 14.5 mos. I was ready to stop at 12 mos but it was still cold/flu/RSV season so I kept going until that ended. This time around I plan on nursing for one year and a month to get past the cold season again.

soko987 · November 2009

shari_rngleson:

do you plan to try to breastfeed longer this time around? i still feel awful that i only lasted 3 months with DD.

i feel like we were always going places and i did not put in a good enough effort to be able to breastfeed anywhere so i would just pull out the bottle.

i really want to be more successful this time and i am so nervous of failure again!

I am so sick of women beating themselves up about "failure" when it comes to breastfeeding. Yes, the breast is best, we all know that, but come on - breastfeeding for three months is in no way a failure. A true failure would be a failure to provide your child with adequate nutrition.

While I hope that you are able to meet your breastfeeding goals with your new LO, because clearly it is something that is very important to you, please DO NOT harbor guilt over the way that you fed your first one. The most important thing is that you raised a happy, healthy baby, and there is never any shame in that. Good luck.

jescgrl · November 2009

yes, I feel so guilty about only going a month with DS, this time I am signed up for classes, meetings, and have a support system in place for when it gets hard. Last time I had zero support other than DH...which made it so hard when he went back to work.

Court1 · November 2009

We made it to about 10 months this time, and I thought that was plenty. My goal was 1 year, but when he started self-weaned I was totally fine with it. 1 yr is the goal again, but I won't beat myself up if we don't make it. I work full time & ds will be 23 months....it's going to be busy!

lite-bright · November 2009

I'm pretty happy with how long I went with DD -- 15 months. I would've gladly gone longer, maybe 18 months, but she weaned herself when she was getting a set of molars and it hurt too much to nurse.

I definitely want to go at least a year again. BFing was a fantastic "diet" and I was so thin! Plus I didn't have to spend a penny on formula.

I just hope the first six weeks are easier. I had so much pain those first few weeks!

*LrCg* · November 2009

I breastfed my son for almost 1 year (at the time I was 3 month pregnant). He weaned himself because either he didn't like the new taste or was just too on the go to do it. Either way I'm happy that we made it that far. I'll nurse this one the same- as long as we both want to do it.

KristinKD · November 2009

I breastfed DD for 18 months and doubt I'll go any longer than that this time.

A_seattle · November 2009

I went to almost 15 months with DD so with this baby I will be thrilled if I make it to a year since I will have a toddler running around too. I'm aSAHM though - I think I would have stopped earlier if I had to pump a bunch...hate pumping.

gypsywitch · November 2009

You didn't fail the 1st time!! Don't beat yourself up over this. It really isn't a huge deal in the big scheme of things. I know our society puts alot of pressure on women to BF now a days, but jsut feeding your baby is more than what some people do!! So be glad your baby was fed and is perfectly healthy today! If you had BF, the outcome would still be the same as it is now.

I do plan on BF'ing this baby longer...I BF DD#1 for 8 months. This time, I'd like to go for a year. IF I even decide to BF this baby, I'm still up in the air on this.

soko987 · November 2009

gypsywitch:

You didn't fail the 1st time!! Don't beat yourself up over this. It really isn't a huge deal in the big scheme of things. I know our society puts alot of pressure on women to BF now a days, but jsut feeding your baby is more than what some people do!! So be glad your baby was fed and is perfectly healthy today! If you had BF, the outcome would still be the same as it is now.

I do plan on BF'ing this baby longer...I BF DD#1 for 8 months. This time, I'd like to go for a year. IF I even decide to BF this baby, I'm still up in the air on this.

Amen, sistah. Smile

Timeg · November 2009

The only reason I didn't go as long as I wanted (lasted 11 months) with DD was because I got pg and she weaned herself. Made me very sad. I am hoping to go at least a year with DD #2 (and hoping not to get pg AGAIN as quickly this time

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jays_bride · November 2009

I nursed DD for 11 months, I will probably do the same (or a little longer) with this one.

Barbie&Kevin · November 2009

SueandSteve:
I stuck it out for a year but I have to admit there were MANY times I wanted to throw in the towel. It's hard with working and pumping, etc. and I can only imagine how it will be even crazier with 2. I'm really trying hard for another year of it!

I'm with her. I BF my son for 11 months then this pregnancy dried me up. I hope to BF for at least 11 months with #2 (I only saw 11 months instead of a full year because my pediatrician is fine with EBF babies started cows milk at 11 months). I think #2 will be easier in some ways and harder in other ways. But im determined!

saraheg77 · November 2009

I pumped exclusively from month 5-10 cause DD never did really get the hang of things... before that I was BFing and supplementing with extra pumped milk... I plan to make a go of it, but I don't plan to pump like that again if this LO doesn't get it! I just don't think I can handle it with a toddler!

CrystalDaun · November 2009

I hope to. I went on the mini pill & I am the small % of people that it effects. It completely dried me up w/ in about 2-3 weeks time. I tried the fenugeek and mothers milk tea from GNC and eating oatmeal every day. Nothing worked. This time around I am not going on the mini pill.

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