anyone else not make a big deal about 'big moments'?

americanada · November 2009

not to take anything away from anyone who does, i totally get why, (and frankly, i'm the type to do it, but just haven't) but for some reason, dh and i didn't make deal about announcing the name, sex or feeling movement. we just tell people as they ask.

well, apparently, my mil is freaking out that she found out about a kick from fb. i actually posted that about a month after i started feeling movement (for me, movement has been very minimal, i have anterior placenta and still can't feel much) and i posted that i thought someone kicked me. it was no big deal. i never 'announced' or called people when i started feeling things. why can't people just let us enjoy this w/o getting their panties in a wad?

i don't want this to turn into a vent, but i seriously have so many issues right now w/both mil and my mom. i'm very disappointed that the people who should be supporting us the most are our only source of stress during this pregnancy.

acaudill75 · November 2009

Hate to say it, but even if they are not actively trying to piss you off, MIL and mom will probably do so anyway. Its like, in their job description, or something.

carney09 · November 2009

Nope, we told everyone the sex via telephone. We're telling the name as people ask. I tell people about kicks as I talk to them and they ask.

We're not "announcement" type people.

wachs · November 2009

wow.... what did she want? a formal announcement? My mother is like that but thankfully my mil is totally laid back & feels like if we want to tell her something we will & if not eh so. I'm sorry they are being like that though Sad

IrishBrideND · November 2009

The only thing we made sure we called people/emailed people about was finding out the sex. We knew they would want to know.

Anything else people only find out about if they ask. Thats my style. I'm not someone who runs and tells the world that I felt my first kick...and I won't be the one who runs and tells the world things like that when the baby is born, either.

whit022109 · November 2009

yeah your MIL needs a life. what did she want, a mailed announcement?

star173 · November 2009

"i'm very disappointed that the people who should be supporting us the most are our only source of stress during this pregnancy."

I have to tell you- this is the same way for me with both pregnancies and with DD. I'm really sorry. And I don't think there's anything wrong with not throwing a party every time you feel the baby kick.

KristinKD · November 2009

We didn't even announce my pregnancies in a big way -- just phone calls to our parents and siblings -- so I definitely wouldn't make a big announcement over kicks. lol.

I'm fortunate that our moms are always very nice and supportive, but I know from hanging around here that you're definitely not alone when it comes to mom and MIL gripes. Sorry you have to deal with that.

VampyAuthor · November 2009

I think your MIL and my FIL need to sit down for tea together. Sorry she's putting you through that. I hope she lightens up and learns to enjoy the moment without getting her panties in a twist.

julinejb · November 2009

DH & his family are the "announcement makers"... I just mention things as I go along.

All out of no where my uncle left a message for me saying he heard I was pregnant and couldn't believe I hadn't told him.... Ummmmm well since we haven't really spoken since my wedding 2 months ago and even then it was more like a "hey how's life, thanks for coming type deal"... I'm like dude we don't even speak on the phone regularly.

Folks like that are just dramatic if you ask me...

trapani2be · November 2009

We don't make big announcements either, just not our style. We share if people ask but that's about it. My inlaws get annoyed when they aren't the 1st to hear stuff too, they feel entitled about alot of things not just baby.

soko987 · November 2009

We are the same way. I'm not a center of attention type of girl. DH and I feel that most things and moments in life can still be special without fanfare.

Mhild · November 2009

We really haven't made a big deal out of much so far and probably won't with things to come. I TRY to update my blog (which I clearly suck at) to keep those who want to follow our progress in the loop but other than that, I'm just answering people when they ask.

shari_rngleson · November 2009

carney09:
Nope, we told everyone the sex via telephone. We're telling the name as people ask. I tell people about kicks as I talk to them and they ask.

We're not "announcement" type people.

we did exactly the same thing!

katymichelle · November 2009

I would feel like a total AW if I called everybody up to announce every little thing about my pregnancy. I mention things casually as people as me about them (i.e. kicks and such). I make sure to share everything with DH as it happens, just so he can stay connected to what's going on, but everyone else finds out in an "ask me, then I'll tell you" manner. Since EVERYONE seems to think they get an opinion when it comes to pregnancy, I find that the less they know, the better for me. We're Team Green, and we've gotten all kinds of responses from "Good for you!" to people being truly offended like we did it to spite them personally or something. DH and I just do what we feel is best for us and let everything else roll off, but it does get frustrating!

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