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slukd79
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How involved is DH in the nursery decisions?
slukd79
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Just wondering if I am being hormonal or a pushy wife/mother already or what...!
We are changing my husband's office into the nursery. To make a long story short, we live in a 2 bedroom condo and this is really our only option. It is a great sized room and my husband knew eventually it would change into a nursery. However, I feel I am nagging him to get everything out and he keeps negotiating to keep items in the room that are clearly not for a nursery.
I love him immensely and want him to be a part of decisions but I only have one first baby's nursery. How out of line am I?
(The background is that I have cleared all colors, themes, ideas past him first. I do not plan anything or do anything without asking his opinion.)
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Re: How involved is DH in the nursery decisions?
he can't negotiate on something that has already been decided. I would stop nagging and start moving his things.. =] politely of course.
my dh doesn't have any opinions. he is wonderful, has great style and I want his opinion but he has none. I think guys just don't have the same gene we do for decorating.
We had also agreed on which room was to be the nursery, but when it came to moving stuff out he did not want to do it. Ours was a guest room and he wanted if left like that - his objection was where were the guests going to stay and why did the baby need a whole room. Could it not just fit in around the other stuff
Eventurally I took him to a friends house that had decorated a nursery that I knew he would like and showed him that one and said I wanted to do something similar. When he actually saw what was going to be done he was alot more understanding. I still had to start moving the stuff out myself, but got him to help for the heavier stuff.
My DH is wonderful.. I had said to him "babe, I don't want to bust your balls or anything, but when you can, could we clear out the room so we can start to prepare the nursery, I'd hate for anything to happen like the baby come early and we not be prepared - I'll help you so it shouldn't take long'? and he was right on it. I also had told him if we could get it started sooner while I was not the size of a whale, I'd be of more help rather than waiting to get things done closer to the due date.
I've pretty much decided on the whole nursery scheme, but I've ran my thoughts past him - he told me that he's fine with whatever I choose, and he did point out that he doesn't mean that he doesn't care about it, but he's happy with what I'll do.. I guess he just trusts my decorating judgement!
I wish my DH was a little less involved. ?I mean, not with the moving the stuff out, I agree that you need to just start moving the things that you can, he'll get the hint. ?He already agreed to do it, so you are just acting first, its not pushy, its practical.
My Dh was however, completely concerned about the color, the bedding, the details, everything. ?I mean, I love him dearly, but he is really picky. ?Plus, he's agreed that he loved everything I've done on my own, but now that we are married, we must chose everything for every room in the house together. ?When we were expecting our second, he would not even look at nursery stuff again, because he loved what he had picked out for the first and was not going to change it. ?Even if we would of been expecting a girl the second time. ?I'm all for gender?neutral, but what we have is not. ?We ended up having another boy, so I agreed to reuse what we had. ?We still had to create a new room for our older DS, so I took him to pottery barn kids one day, and he loved this one bedroom set so much, and I thought it was the most adorable thing I had seen, so I bought it, and the rug and some of the decor, and took it home, afterall, my DS wanted it for his big boy room. ?My Dh wasn't mad, and he even really liked what we picked, but he said "well, I just thought that we would pick something together." ?
So all of this too say, I wish my Dh was a little less involved in the nursery process.?
I wish my DH was less involved too! His office is getting turned into the nursery and it was completely decorated with sports things of his. I mean every wall is filled! I like some of the stuff but I would really like to take it all down and just redo the room as a nursery! I do want to make him happy too I just wish the bedding we agreed on was the same color as 49ers stuff he wants to keep up but its not! Hopefully in the end we can decide on meshing some of the things and it will look good, it is just frustrating right now! Most everything has been cleared out thanks mainly to my stepmom and stepsister who came over when I was out of town and moved mostly everything to the basement! Now there's just a couple big things left for him to move and we can start painting! He has been involved in every decision though even if it was just making sure he liked something I liked.
Mr. & Mrs. as of May 23, 2009
Parents to Baby Jack as of March 4, 2010
and Bobbi Claire June 7, 2012
Thanks for everything.
Just to reiterate-- I love my DH and he has been very supportive! I am just really wanting to tackle the nursery! It is fun!
Not much at all. I ordered the bedding and showed it to him... He helped me pick out wall colors but that's about it.
He doesn't care that much to be very involved.
big brothers 12.2009 and 02.2012