morbid question, but i have to ask.

someflower6 · November 2009

so someone on the first tri wants to know how a missed mc happens. she's getting a lot of replies about how "rare" it is. and one poster said it only happen in "very very early pregnancy."

ummm... i don't know what the scientific definition of "rare" is but it seems to me that a lot of the women i talk to who have had a loss had a missed mc. i remember doing a poll on the mc/pl board while i was on there, and the majority of women had a missed mc.

i know there are a lot of other reasons for loss, and maybe i'm off base... but i'm just wondering, what kind of loss did you have?

and if you did have a missed mc, how far along were you? i was at 10 weeks and i don't consider that "very very early"...

ETA: i re-read the comment and think i misunderstood the first time...the very very early part was in regards to a specific type of loss, where the mom's body reabsorbs the fetal tissue. i am unfamiliar with this particular kind of loss, but i guess it happens very very early in the pregnancy!

nomadicprincess · November 2009

I had 2 CPs.

From what I've seen on people's sigs, most missed m/cs were in the later part of the 1st Tri.

B2BMN · November 2009

missed m/c at 8.5 weeks

Addicted2thenot · November 2009

Early M/C at 5-6wks

jumagirl · November 2009

I had a missed-m/c. Baby stopped growing at 6w4d and I found out at 8w4d. My dr did not give me any indication that it was rare. In the bump FAQ'a on mc/pl it mentions that a missed-m/c is rare, but I still disagree.

As far as m/c's go, I sort of preferred not dealing with the blood and shock at home.

andrea z · November 2009

I had premature rupture of membranes with Jacob at 19.5 weeks. I was hospitalized and monitored for 3 weeks. I went into labor at 23 weeks exactly from infection. Jacob lived for 11 minutes, and Ethan for 36 hours.

I personally thought missed miscarriage was the most common way??

bebeblues · November 2009

Mine was a blighted ovum. I was 10wks when I had the d&c, 8 wks when it was confirmed that it wasn't viable. I had NO signs or symptoms of a m/c. None. I had awful ms, I had NO cramping, NO spotting, nothing.

M/C happen in 1 of 5 KNOWN pregnancies. (Statistic provided per my ob/gyn).

People can be so niave, immature, and ill-educated when it comes to statistics/knowledge of dealing w/mc's and pregnancy.

daphne814 · November 2009

Ugh. That girl is smoking something. Either that, or she's listening to what all the doctors tell naive people to keep their hopes up. I feel like I know so much more know that I've been through a loss. I didn't have a missed m/c myself, I had a natural m/c at 7w1d, but being on this board long enough as taught me that she's wrong about the rarity of it, and its "very, very early occurance."

ezbakejess · November 2009

I found out at 10 weeks that my baby had only grown to 8.

I think 1st tri newbs have a different perspective than real life sometimes. People who are still early in their pregnancy and have never been through a loss have to tell everyone/themselves that it's very very rare to keep themselves sane. I never wanted to admit that it's so common, or that it could happen to me.

I have been tempted so many times to tell people to stop registering for their baby showers when they're 5 weeks pg and not to cancel all their plans 9 months from now, but I hold myself back. Sometimes it's comforting to hear what you want to hear, because if you are going to m/c there's nothing you can do to stop it anyway. Maybe it's better to just think happy thoughts and stay positive.

My life changed the second I found out I was pregnant, so I don't think how far along you are matters. However, the longer you have to get to know that baby, I can only imagine that it changes your life that much more.

someflower6 · November 2009

jkclosso:
Ugh. That girl is smoking something. Either that, or she's listening to what all the doctors tell naive people to keep their hopes up. I feel like I know so much more know that I've been through a loss. I didn't have a missed m/c myself, I had a natural m/c at 7w1d, but being on this board long enough as taught me that she's wrong about the rarity of it, and its "very, very early occurance."

i MAY have read the comment about very very early wrong. i don't know if she meant all missed mc happen very very early, or just a specific kind where the mom's body reabsorbs the embryo. maybe she just meant THAT happened really really early. i'm not familiar with that particular aspect of loss, but i'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

ladylaurali25 · November 2009

I had an early m/c at 6 weeks. I had cramping the night before and woke up to bleeding in the am.

maritzburggirl · November 2009

My missed miscarriage was discovered at 9 weeks, and like you, I don't consider that "very very" early. From my discussions with my OB, I gather that unfortuinately he deals with at least one missed miscarriage a week in his practice-that doesn't sound rare to me.

daphne814 · November 2009

someflower6:
jkclosso:
Ugh. That girl is smoking something. Either that, or she's listening to what all the doctors tell naive people to keep their hopes up. I feel like I know so much more know that I've been through a loss. I didn't have a missed m/c myself, I had a natural m/c at 7w1d, but being on this board long enough as taught me that she's wrong about the rarity of it, and its "very, very early occurance."

i MAY have read the comment about very very early wrong. i don't know if she meant all missed mc happen very very early, or just a specific kind where the mom's body reabsorbs the embryo. maybe she just meant THAT happened really really early. i'm not familiar with that particular aspect of loss, but i'm giving her the benefit of the doubt.

The only kind of loss that could happen very, very early would be a chemical pregnancy. Maybe that was what she was talking about?

AppleRidge · November 2009

I also get annoyed when people (and actually, a lot of reputable medical sources) say that missed m/c's are rare. They are becoming quite common now that u/s's are available sooner.

Mine was discovered at 9w1d.

KelleyBean · November 2009

I also had a missed miscarriage at 8w1d. I had some spotting but no red blood or heavy bleeding. I had to take misoprostol at 9w b/c my body wasn't letting go. If I hadn't gone in for the spotting I wouldn't have known until out NT scan.

yogisunam · November 2009

I think you read the person's response wrong. I had to reread it myself. However, there is a comment after mine stating that missed m/c's make up ~1% and I don't think that is true. Not from what I've seen on these boards and in real life. I can't tell you how many times I told people about our m/c and either the same thing had happened to them or to someone they knew.

I bit my tongue in correcting her since ignorance truly is bliss. I'd give anything to go back to that point.

Nicole_H · November 2009

I had very light spotting, but I had just found out that morning that a good friend had lost her baby at 21 weeks, so I was paranoid. My husband and I went to see my doctor mainly just to reassure me. We listened to our baby's heart beat and then they examined me. That's when we found out the spotting was due to cervix opening up. My doctor said I was presenting a classic case of incompetent cervix. We were admitted to the hospital immediately in the hopes of stopping it until they could perform an emergency cerclage. I was so hopeful, but my water broke that night, and I went into labor. I gave birth to our beautiful baby boy that morning, at 19 weeks and 2 days.

My friend who lost her little girl found out at her 21 week check up that her little girl had stopped growing at around 18 weeks.

lovethebosox · November 2009

My second m/c was a missed m/c - found at 8wks, growth stopped at 6wks.

My first was a "natural" m/c at 8wks.

lax15bsu · November 2009

9wks - missed m/c, baby stopped browing at 7wks.

14wks - sudden loss, heard the heartbeat just two days before we lost him. I don't consider this an early loss. I was in the second trimester.

5wks - this was an early loss, if I didn't know better I never would have thought I was pregnant, would have thought was just a late AF.

ChicagoWeded2007 · November 2009

I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks, 5 days. So did two of my sisters and a friend of mine. NOT rare.

KelzinBoston · November 2009

I guess mine was missed....I had bleeding throughout the pregnancy, but we saw the heartbeat at 7.5 weeks. I found out at 10 weeks the baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. I miscarried naturally the same night I found out.

I wouldn't consider that early....and I hate these stats that say you're in the clear after you hear a heartbeat.

ChicagoWeded2007 · November 2009

Also, I had no signs of mc. I had strong pregnancy symptoms, like sore boobs and naseau. No signs of trouble.

someflower6 · November 2009

yogisunam:

I think you read the person's response wrong. I had to reread it myself. However, there is a comment after mine stating that missed m/c's make up ~1% and I don't think that is true. Not from what I've seen on these boards and in real life. I can't tell you how many times I told people about our m/c and either the same thing had happened to them or to someone they knew.

I bit my tongue in correcting her since ignorance truly is bliss. I'd give anything to go back to that point.

i saw that ~1% stat too and it drives me crazy. as another poster said, quite a few sources, even reputable ones, call missed mc's rare. i think we can all attest to otherwise. ugh,i think even the bump calls missed mc's rare on their FAQ page. not that the bump is the most reputable site, but still...

p.s.-- congrats to you. :-)

kshields104 · November 2009

My m/c was at 11 weeks. The only sign I had at first was brown spotting and then went to ER and had an u/s and no heartbeat. ER Dr said due to blighted ovum and ob/gyn said 80% of 1st pregnancy results in miscarriage. To me, that number seems much more realistic.

candylies · November 2009

I guess you can consider mine a missed m/c. I had an ultrasound at 8.5 weeks and there was no heartbeat, baby was about 8 weeks in size tho but other than seeing now hb I had no other signs I was going to miscarry. I had a d&e 6 days after the ultrasound. so i can't really say if maybe I would have eventually miscarried on my own. i didn't want to wait.

roxyttandme · November 2009

Our daughter had something called ABS (see siggy for details). Her limbs were amputating inside of me. We ended her suffering 2 days short of 24 weeks. Worst and hardest decision of our lives.

cchiquelin · November 2009

I had an u/s at 8 weeks and there was no heartbeat. All I had was very little light brown spotting and no other symptoms. My doctor was not really concerned; however he still had me come in and then ordered an u/s.

Sonadora · November 2009

I guess you'd call mine a missed mc. I had no cramping, spotting or any other outward symptom, but because of not a great result at my first u/s we pretty much knew it was coming, just waited until an u/s finally showed no more h/b.

BabyMimi · November 2009

I had a natural miscarriage at 7 weeks. Looking back, I wish I had a D&C because all the blood and cramping went on for over a week at home and I felt like it prolonged my mental pain.

amwallace · November 2009

I had a missed mc at 9 weeks after a good ultrasound at 7 weeks where we saw the baby's heartbeat.

TravelinMama · November 2009

I had a m/mc at 11 weeks, fetal growth stopped at 8.5.

I also had one very very early that the doctor thought might be Molar, I was only 3 weeks along (very complicated), but I had to have another d/c.

kjpam · November 2009

With my first pregnancy I had a missed m/c as well. It was discovered at the first ultrasound ... I should have been 9weeks 4days but the baby was only measuring 6weeks 1 day. I had no m/c symptoms and still had all of my pregnancy symptoms. I had a natural miscarriage 8 days later. My second pregnancy I had very very light off and on spotting for about 2 weeks. I would spot once a day and not even everyday. Doctor did not believe anything was wrong. I ultimately m/c'd when the baby would have been about 8 1/2 weeks. Again, it was a natural miscarriage. From my experience and from others, it truly seems missed m/c is not rare at all.

dondraandluis · November 2009

My first was a missed m/c at 9 weeks 4 days. The baby only measured about 7 weeks. The 2nd time was a spontaneous m/c at 5 1/2 weeks..

candylies · November 2009

seems like a missed m/c isn't all that 'rare'. Sad

bkjcwedding · November 2009

I had a blighted ovum which was discovered at 9 weeks.

Cissi64 · November 2009

My first was "missed". discovered at 11w 4d baby only measured 7w adn I had barely started spotting. The second two would have been missed if they hadn't monitored me so often with US. 2nd was discovered at 8 w wnd only measured 7 w. 3rd discovered at 9 w(no HB) at 9 w. The last was a BO. I didn't have any bleeding with 2nd and third until the D&C and the last took a week to naturally MC.