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Introduction very surprising #2

gina311gina311
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Hello ladies!

Our daughter was born on June 2, 2009 at 34w1d gestation and spent 2 weeks in the NICU. We just found out that we are expecting #2 on June 17,2010!!

I can not imagine having 2 babies so close together, I know that when it comes down to it I can do it but I am terrified, nervous, worried, anxious.... I had a complicated and rough pregnancy with my daughter and honestly, i still dont even feel recovered from the whole experience.

I love my daughter so much and am so worried that she will feel like she isnt getting all of the love she needs when the new baby comes (irrational fear I know) and I am worried I won't be able to feel the way I do about her about a new baby, especially being that this was so unplanned and unexpected. (again, irrational)  My emotions are just so out of control right now and I have so many worries... money, our health, how we will handle it all...

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  • lisaroolisaroo

    Congrats on #2! I completely understand how overwhelming it must feel for you right now. (or, I am trying to!) My kids won't be that close together, but I know there are women on this board who do have them that close together.

    It is still new, and I bet that once you get used to the idea, it will seem a little easier to handle. I mean, you won't know any different, right? They will be so close growing up too! It's going to be a lot of fun ;)

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  • tothemoon2tothemoon2

    First off, Congratulations!

    Second, what you are feeling seems completely normal to me....or at least those are my concerns as well.

    I have a 10 month old daughter was was born at 32 weeks, 2 days and we spent 30 days in the NICU. I'm also 9 weeks pregnant with a SURPRISE! baby as well.

    I'm assuming our preemie experience causes a few more emotions regarding the second baby. All I want is a happy and healthy pregnancy this time around knowing full well what life is like with a preemie. And so in addition to the normal.....how will we afford another one in daycare, how can I possibly love a second child as much as the first, etc. we're also worried about the actual pregnancy more so than someone who has expereinced a full term pregnancy. That can be stressfull.

    I'm personally just taking every day at a time, loving my daughter with all of my being, and staying confident that this was just meant to be. It's truly THE best gift. As for my worries I just think back to the NICU which was hell on earth. If we can make it through that, I think we can make it through anything :)

    And so with that....I'll be thinking about us both. We SO have this...no problem!

    FYI: There is a "support" group on the Preemie board you should check out that is for pregnant woman, those tryng to conceve again, etc.

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  • kate081206kate081206
    First of all congrats.  Second of all, I know how you feel, our number two was a shock as well.  I experienced all of these emotions at first but have found that now that I'm used to the idea I wouldn't want it any other way!  Good luck!
    Nathan Thomas, C-section (frank breech), September 22, 2008 Maren Anne, VBAC, April 6, 2010 Lilypie Fourth Birthday tickers Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
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  • noah-bearnoah-bear member

    Congrats!

    Our LO's were 1 day apart gestationally! Lol. DS was born at 34 weeks on the day and is now 10.5 months and I'm 4 weeks today. It will be tough, but we're NICU moms and we're tougher! Haha.

    My aunt's children are 18 months apart and I'm learning all I can from her! 

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