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NER: Time out ?

proudarmywife08proudarmywife08
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I'm struggling with DD during time outs. I know she's young but sometimes she needs them. Anyway, what do you do with your toddler during time out? I'm reading the happiest toddler on the block and he recommends putting them in a pack n play so they can't get out. Well DD still sleeps in hers. Will that create a negative association with sleeping (naps only)? I'd hate to do that. I don't really have another place to contain her either. Any suggestions are welcome :-)
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Re: NER: Time out ?

  • TJ&CrewTJ&Crew
    I wouldn't put her in a place where she sleeps. At this age it is all about learning self control (sitting in one place). Start very simple with putting her in one area and counting to 10. Eventually you lengthen it to her age (1 1/2 minutes). She will constantly get up first bc she doesn't understand and it is typically far more dramatic than it needs to be but consistency will prevail!  Keep putting her back until you get to 10. Don't talk during the time othr than stating " no, time out" When it is done change the mood immediately and distract her with a fun activity. Good luck!
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  • lar1203lar1203 member

    we're in the same boat.

    we decided not to use ds's pack 'n play because we use it for a crib when we go out of town. we don't want him to associate it with time out.

    we are going to buy a baby gate to gate off the kitchen. that's the only place we can leave him by himself because it's childproofed. we'd put him in his br, but with all the toys and books in his room, he would actually enjoy that, i think.

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  • clayswifeclayswife
    We use our PNP for a crib when we're not at home, so we don't use that for time out.  Time outs now, I've been taking them with him.  I sit him on a kitchen chair across from me.  It's not ideal, but I don't have any other options.
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  • crackerjackprintercrackerjackprinter

    I read Dr. Sear's discipline book and he recommends with toddlers who are just learning to sit with them (not with them on your lap, but across or next to them) while they're in time out so that you can remind them to stay put.  Also you do a minute per year of age.  So I'd do a minute up to 2 years then do 2 minutes.

    He also stresses that it should be a PUNISHMENT but a chance to reflect on behaviors (or to calm down when they're younger an not able to really reflect).  When I think of it this way it helps me to approach it better because I don't feel like the mean mommy.  

    Last time I sat Mady down in a corner away from her toys.  I told her when she sat down that she needed to take some time to calm down.  I should have told her how long at the time but it was our first time so it was a little bit rough.  Anyway, she sat nicely for 30 seconds but then started to get up so I kept sitting her down and eventually sat across from her counting back every 5 seconds until the remaining 30 seconds was over.  

    My plan in the future (not sure when, but maybe not til we get home) is to use an egg timer to count back the time for her. 

    I hope that was helpful. I really recommend Dr. Sears' book, it's really thorough and has a lot of great suggestions.

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