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who the hell was i kidding?

j+kj+k
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Sd calls dh tonite. She's late. As in she fears she's pregnant. Yeah. Lovely. Need good thoughts, prayers, energy....whatever...sent our way that she's not. Will post more when not on my blackberry.
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Re: who the hell was i kidding?

  • ScissorTailedFlycatcherScissorTailedFlycatcher member

    OOH WOW...

    Just wow. Yeah... keep us updated. T&P for you guys, for sure.

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  • j+kj+k
    Thx shortyred. Its 4 30 am and I can't sleep. This is one of many things on my mind. Realized tonite that not only am I pregnant but two boyfriends she dated this past summer - they both got their girlfriends pregnant. One got the GF before her pregnant and the other broke up with SD to be woth this girl and now that girl is PG. A high school friend just had a baby boy 3 months ago and she has two other friends who have had babies in the last two years out of wedlock. (What is the rate of teen unwed pregnancy in texas anyway???) And then on top of that in finding her sisters...they too have babies. Top it with an insane daddy issue where she desperately wants his attention amd won't forgive him for divorcing her mom....this should be no surprise. Bit we don't know that she is yet. She feared this once when she came back the last time from running off with that creepo ex boyfriend. And she wasn't. Her system has never been consistent and reliable anyway so I'll stay positive. She won't move here. That's for sure. Told dh that I will not raise two babies on this home. And I won't. I'll move myself and my baby put if he allows her to come here. *sigh* I hope I never have to make that choice.
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  • j+kj+k
    Sorry for typos. Still on blackberry. Uf it turns out she is pregnant I hope dh and her mom convince her to give baby up for adoption. She can't even take care of herself. How the heck is she going to care for a baby??
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  • J+RJ+R
    Eh, I wouldnt put much stock into it... I think she's trying for attention since you are pregnant and have your DH's undivided attention.
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  • Mrs.Astros_FanMrs.Astros_Fan

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    Eh, I wouldnt put much stock into it... I think she's trying for attention since you are pregnant and have your DH's undivided attention.

    My thoughts exactly.  Yet another way to get attention.

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  • mom2onemom2one member
    Definitely a ploy for attention. WHO calls their parents to say they are "late"?? You can get a pregnancy test at a $ store and there should never be any question. Ugh.
    Stay at Home Mama to 3 Beautiful Children by the miracles of Birth & Adoption
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  • j+kj+k
    True. Very true. I thought the same thing too...and thought to myself "call us when you really ARE". But with SD...this was a small fear when I got pregnant. I worried a little she would too to compete. I hoped tho that her many statements of not wanting to have kids was true. We shall see.
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  • j+kj+k

    Ahhh....so much better to be back on laptop.  No more typos....

    It's all up to speculation right now until we know for sure. I found it very odd too that she called her dad, but she's always been very open about these things. She has other female issues that she used to just blurt out to her dad, her brother...and sometimes in the most crude ways.  I was horrified that nothing about her body was private.  SS always looked like he wanted to crawl in a hole.  DH would always just tell her he doesn't know about these things and to go to me or her mom with them. I'd tell her to keep these things private, but no. Nothing with SD is private. She puts it ALLLL out there for everyone to fuss over her about.  Good or bad. Doesn't matter.  As long as she gets attention.

    The phone call couldn't have lasted more than 5 minutes.  DH told her that he thought he raised her better than this and that she doesn't need this right now. 

    He gets off the phone and tells me. He says "she's going to screw up college."  I say nothing. Just raise my eyebrows.  He says, "You know she registered for classes don't you?"  I calmly tell him, "Well registering for classes does not mean she's IN college. When she completes a semester and registers for the next semester...THEN I'll say she's going to college."

    He didn't respond.

    Then I told him calmly but firmly, "I'm not raising two babies in this home."  He didn't say anything. Conversation ended.

    I understand as her father, he has to remain hopeful for his daughter, but this is just gotten ridiculous and insane. 

    The other thing that makes me mad, is there is absolutely NO excues for her being pregnant. With her other personal "issue", she should be using condoms.  With or without other birth control, she should always use condoms. And obviously...she's not. Which is incredibly irresponsible of her.  And does she even know who the father is?  The way she changes boyfriends and sleeps around....she could probably whittle it down to a few but this isn't going to be a guy that should or would marry her.

    I guess I'm just going to sit back and just let it ride until we know for sure.  Ugh. SO aggravating.

    Regardless of the outcome, they need to get her into therapy. And fast.

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  • jpowell3jpowell3
    I will cross my fingers & toes & pray that this is just a desperate and sad attempt to get attention. You know we will be here for support if you need it!
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  • goldenjesgoldenjes member

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    I will cross my fingers & toes & pray that this is just a desperate and sad attempt to get attention. You know we will be here for support if you need it!

    This.

    I hope this is a false alarm and a situation that will get her some real help.

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