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TTC After a Loss
Well everyone, I am being bump stalked
After changing my bump name because of internet stalkers, I think I have to change it again. Apparently my SIL decided to track me down on here and took away the only place that I have to vent about our loss and the only place that I have ever had any support with people that understand how hard miscarriage is (how she found me is beyond me.)
But before I do that, I may just have to take a bump break. I'll lurk a little but this place that used to be safe is no longer and that is more upsetting than anything else.
Here is my hijacked post:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/26017220.aspx
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Re: Well everyone, I am being bump stalked
just make sure with your new SN you let us know with some hints as to who you are!!
sorry you have to go through this.
good grief.... I'm sorry
It's just mean of her to take away your one sacred place that you can let it all out.
::hugs::
p.s. just because I would still love a disabled child just the same, that doesn't mean I would ever do anything to put him/her in danger - that's a ridiculous defense for what she's doing.
Labor Buddy to Blowfish11
wow!
i'm not sure what to say about that. why is she looking for you on this board? it's one thing to come across it accidently but that seems like she was purposely seeking it out. do you think someone ratted you out to SIL?
Thats what I was thinking Tex. She only has 1 post so its not like she came across me by accident. Oh well...
My pg cousin did the same thing to me. I was so aggravated that she took away my one safe place to vent about what I was feeling. She didnt have the time to call to see how I was doing after my m/c but she sure had time to stalk me online.
I am losing my faith in people. I cant believe that people are so cruel! {{hugs}} please know that I have been there and I know how it feels.. Im so sorry!
"don't worry, we all remember your SIL posts"
good grief, how long has she been doing this and what exactly is her problem? I can't stand my SIL, but if she were going through something difficult and I stumbled across her on a message board where she found support I would walk away. I would never, ever violate her privacy like that, and I would certainly not use it as a forum to call her out.
Unbelievable. Are you going to approach her about this? I guess you don't need to, because I assume she'll read your thoughts on here.
Don't. Think of all the wonderful, caring and supportive women on here. This heartbreaking experience has given me more faith in people. I've seen how strong women are and how we pull together for each other.
don't let a few bad apple relatives ruin it for you!
I know DH and I were thinking the same thing. The real question is how in the hell did she find me? I mean would anyone in their right mind seriously go to a pregnancy loss message board to see if their family member posts there? I gotta be honest it freaks me out just a little.
And furthermore...I just decided that I AM NOT changing my name. FVCK that! She can come on here and read everything I have to say if that entertains her and makes her happy. Good for her!
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry. This is supposed to be a place where we can talk and vent with people who understand, she should be ashamed that she stalked you out and took that away from you. The fact is she cannot understand and never will. Nobody that has not gone through this does understand, it is not possible...that is the frustrating part.
I hope she can understand that this is a place for you, not for her. Even though she may have had her own issues or whatever she says, but she is being selfish trying to find you on here just to see if you are talking about her.
That's the attitude Mimi. To hell with her.
BFP #2 - 12/9/09 After being on bedrest for 10 weeks due to TTTS and hospital bedrest for 4 weeks due to PPROM, my sticky babies are here! Born at 32 weeks!!
You go girl! Im glad you decided not to change your name. I refused to change my sn too. Why should we have to re-create ourselves here just because your no-life SIL decided to stalk you. Dont worry if she is dumb enough to post here again we will definitely have your back! I think we may have scared her off though. You have nothing to worry about! ; )
Ugh, I'm so sorry you're going through this hon.
P.S. YGPM
Yikes! I can't believe she would create a profile just so she could find you!
I understand how you'd like to switch names. Just drop us hints of who you are!
2 years of TTC, Seeing RE Feb 09, 2 medicated TI cycles - BFNs, 3 medicated IUIs - BFNs, back to medicated TI cycles until IVF approval, IVF approved in March 2010. BFP on last medicated TI cycle.
Just read through it. What a B.
She is in violation of terms of use as follows:
"No harassing, intimidating, stalking, or threatening other community members.
No invasion of another's privacy."
I'd like to report her but some of you used some strong language and I would hate to get any of the good girls in trouble.
Thanks for all the support ladies. DH spoke with his bother and apparently the two of them have been watching me on here for a while. I can't even begin to tell you how violated I feel. They have no business being on ttcal so the only reason i can think that they came here originally is to look for me and that makes me kind of sick. I was half joking when I said that I was being stalked but now I sort of think if for real. I am wondering if they have read about when DH and I BD, my CM and AF's....sigh.
But there is no way in hell I am giving up the only support I have ever had, so I guess I will just have to post from now on knowing that they will be reading.