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TTC After a Loss
s/o Did you foresee your m/c (clicky)
Heather's "let's play a game" post below made me realize that a lot of us here "knew" something was wrong before we learned we were miscarrying. So, did something in your heart tell you the pg wasn't viable before you actually m/c'd or learned of the missed-m/c?[Poll]
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Re: s/o Did you foresee your m/c (clicky)
Labor Buddy to Blowfish11
BFP #2- 1/5/10- Baby Jack born at 37w2d, 6lbs 13 oz, 8/24/10
BFP #3- 7/30/11- Baby Boy Due April 3, 2012
One of my best friends was due exactly 3 weeks before me so we were sharing everyting about TTC, testing, etc. She started telling people she was pregnant at around 10 weeks after her u/s. I went for my u/s a few weeks later and left her a message that everything was great, saw hb. Turns out she was in the OB's office at the same time b/c she was m/c. After that, I just had a weird feeling and I wasn't surprised at all when I started spotting. I ended up having my m/c exactly 3 weeks after hers.
With my first loss I knew right away.
With Zoe I knew that I stopped feeling her, but I kept telling myself I was just missing the movement. When they told me heart stopped, I was screaming I knew it, I knew she was gone.
With my twins, I thought it was too good to be true....it was. I didn't know though.
OTHER:
For several weeks the dr. thought they were conjoined twins and I was sure I would m/c.
The week before my m/c we FINALLY got the all clear from the doctors. The ONE week I felt confident in my healthy preg I go and m/c.
I kept telling my dh like 2days b4 my appointment that I thought something was wrong. He kept reassuring me I was fine. The day I got to the dr's office, I was so sick and so nervous that I sat in the parking lot trembling. Dh was having to calm me down before I even knew what was wrong.
It didn't hurt any less though---I was so devastated when the u/s tech told us that it didn't look good.
For some reason, I was really obsessive about reading anything m/c related before I had any indication there was anything wrong. The second I saw spotting (which was very light and nothing anyone would be concerned about), I knew it wasn't going to turn out well. I told my husband two days before my first appointment to brace himself for bad news.
The first time: No way. I was scared and all, but at my core, I never really thought I would lose my baby. I got little twinges and uneasy feelings, and looking back, those might have been some warnings from somewhere, but I was quick to brush them aside.
This last time: I knew almost right away, and even though things kept progressing, in my heart, I knew we would never hold our Pumpkin.
I chose other.
I always had it in the back of my head as my family has a lot of history of miscarriage.
However, after my first appointment when I should have been in the mid-7 week range showed early 5 weeks and no hb and then two days later the doctor's nurse sending me for an immediate u/s after the doc had first causually said to just come in the next week, I knew it was just a matter of time. Although it took 3 more weeks for the hb to actually stop.
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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I had a dream about 3 weeks after we found out I was pg, that I was telling people I was K/U and then at some point in the dream someone said to me. "Oh by the way you really aren't, HA HA" I woke up in the morning in a panic and took a test. The freaky thing was that when we went to the doc at 10 weeks they told me growth was only measuring 5 weeks 5 days and if I count from my O day on my chart it's almost the exact day from that dream. I was then totally freaked!!!
Second time I never really felt pregnant although my levels were going up so I knew it was doomed from the start.
My first one, no. I honestly thought everything was going okay. We had two sonograms done and both times the baby had a visible heartbeat and during the 2nd one the baby was bouncing around. My intense morning sickness had me a little worried, but I truly believed that everything was going to be okay. My mother had problem free pregnancies, as well as both of my grandmothers. So, why not me?
My 2nd one I felt wasn't going to happen. I just knew that deep down inside I was going to lose this one and it was going to be soon. But I still allowed myself to get close to the situation and fall in love with being pregnant again. I don't regret doing that.
I knew something was wrong. I literally kept forgetting I was pregnant. I started spotting at 5 wks and told DH I thought I'd have a m/c. He didn't believe me because I spotted with DS and everything turned out ok, but for some reason I KNEW everything was ok with that pregnancy.
Even after I saw the hb at 7 weeks, I still kept telling DH I didn't think this baby was going to make it. When it was confirmed at 10 weeks that the baby had recently stopped growing I wasn't surprised. Sad, of course, but I felt like I knew it from the getgo.
The first time: I knew when my second HPT was much fainter than the first.
The second time: 100% blindsided. Everything was going exactly textbook. I had all the symptoms. (Raging m/s, in particular. It hurts when people say m/s is such a good sign).
The third time: I knew right away, but it was such a weird situation considering I had been bleeding for two weeks (I thought it was my period that was lasting too long) and tested when the nurse suggested it. I wasn't surprised to see my empty ute on the u/s that time around.
Ditto, isn't it odd?
8/08 BFP resulted in m/c
3/09 Polyp removed and dx MTHFR (both copies)
6 Clomid cycles, all BFN
5/09 IUI#1 with Clomid=BFN
6/09 IUI#2 with Clomid=BFN
8/09 IUI#3 with Clomid=BFN
IVF#1 = BFN
IVF#2 = BFN
IVF#3 ET 2 Grade A blasts 11/16/11
Beta #1: 485
Beta #2: 2,495
this. When I started bleeding again this weekend I was like FFS. I hate being right.
I got pg the first month of trying, and thought that was too good to be true. It was. I also had this bizarre thought of not wanting to "waste time" and wanting to get started on the next cycle trying....which made no sense, since I was still pg and had no symptoms to indicate anything was wrong.
Yet, when I had spotting at 6 weeks, I didn't worry because I know that spotting can be normal. So I think it was just weird feelings all around.
I knew.
When I was pregnant with my DS I shouted it from the rooftops at like 6 weeks. This time, I only told people after I saw the HB at 8 weeks and even then I only told close friends and immediate family. There was something about the 12-week mark that scared me.
I just knew something was wrong before I ever even spotted (at 12 weeks - 5 days before the 12-week scan).
I had no idea I was pregnant until I had some spotting. It was really too early to be AF, so I went to the ob's office. The CNRP wasn't confident that I was PG, and I hadn't done an HPT. So, they did an HCG level. I called the next morning, and the nurse said "you're pregnant!" I was estatic and thrilled. But as this was my first pg, and hadn't really been on the boards at all before that, I wasn't even thinking about the possibility of m/c or even doubling betas.
I went back Monday for a 2nd beta, and sure enough, it was dropping. *sigh* The worst part of it was that when the CNRP called with my 2nd beta results, I saw the ob's office on my caller id. I was at work, so I scurried out of the area near the exam rooms and went into the office. I said "I'm so shocked and surprised, but really happy." That's how I answered the phone with her...and she said, "Don't be so happy just yet." What a sh*tty way to tell someone they are going to m/c.
Later, I asked the receptionist to flag my chart that I never want to see or speak that that CNRP again. Period. So, I answered "no," I knew nothing was wrong, and got way too excited too soon. When we get our second BFP, I'm going to be so much more cautious and reserved.
I wish I had. But I had no clue. Full-blown pg symptoms, no cramping, no spotting, no heartbeat.
I picked other b/c at our 1st ultrasound we saw a HB. It was slow and irregular, but I just "knew" that everything was going to be ok. I'd even had dreams that I was pg w/ triplets before the u/s.
Even a week later, when I started spotting and went into the ER, the doc said that things looked good (no HB, but it could be early). Then the next day it was all over and I had a complete, natural m/c.
I guess I was in denial.