Does anyone see a therapist?

flutterby918 · November 2009

I am contemplating it. This last cycle and my cruddy job really have me down in the dumps. It's hard to get out of bed in the morning, especially knowing I have to come here and be put down and micromanaged.

How do you find a good one?

What do you do? Just talk???

Thanks to anyone who responds........

Mrs.NYC · November 2009

I actually just went back on Monday. I saw the same therapist off and on throughout my 20's. Occasionally, I have gone back when there have things going on in my life. It's nice that he knows my history and how things can trigger certain feelings, etc.

I think it's important to find someone that you click with. It can be frustrating at first bc each time you go to a new one, you have to relive everything over again and tell them your story, issues what have you. But don't let it stop you from finding someone that you click with and can talk to. I can't tell you how much better I felt on monday after just sharing how I felt.

good luck!

CJ71903 · November 2009

I used to and I went for almost two years. I didn't go for infertility related reasons, but I think that if you're having a hard time getting up in the morning, it may help you to talk to someone. I am an advocate for therapy if needed as it gives you some time to focus on yourself. I found a good one through my husband's employee assistance program so you might want to call that line if you have one. At the sessions, we talked about what was bothering me and she tried a couple of different techniques with me. They are very good about getting things started so you just take their lead and go with it.

My therapist was very kind and really helped me to become a stronger person. The whole experience was quite beneficial for me. Feel free to PM me if you have any other questions, as I know it can be hard to discuss this stuff sometimes. Good luck!

shipoopiisforme · November 2009

i do. i actually waited WAY too long to seek one out and it was an emergency situation by the time i finally sought one out. a friend of my family's is a social worker and she gave me the names of some people she thought i would mesh well with. your primary care physician may be able to recommend someone to you.

good with therapists is all relative you need to find someone you feel good with, the first person may not be a good fit for you, but don't give up.

in the beginning i was in an emergency situation so i was seeing my therapist twice a week and she sent me to a psychiatrist who i saw every other week. the therapist just kind of let me get all my problems out there, cry, rant and just talk. the psychiatrist talked to me more about my specific symptoms and reactions so she could get my meds balanced well.

i know go once every other week, whehther i am having issues or not. it's great to have that sounding board and i know to avoid having another emergency situation i need to stay on top of my mental health. sometimes i think of things i want to adress with her ahead of time, like if mh and i are butting heads and i want her input on a possibly better way to approach things with him. other times i just go in there and just chat about what is going on in my life, my therapist is pretty good at directing the convo so i always get something meaningful out of our sessions.

i think the hardest thing is realizing you need help and reaching out for it, so you have the biggest hurdle down already, good luck!

smilee · November 2009

I do. I did not originally go to discuss IF, but that is what it has morphed into. I started going a couple of months after my mom died. I had already lost my dad and was really having a hard time being 32 and having neither of my parents alive.

We were also TTC at the time, and had been, but that was on the back burner. As time went on, our sessions became about IF. As it turns out, my therapist also suffered from IF. I can't begin to explain how wonderful going has been for me. I have a degree in counseling, so I know the importance of taking care of one's mental health, but actually going and experiencing it was one of the best decisions I have made for myself.

I called my employee assistance program and they were able to set me up. As a PP mentioned, it is important to feel comfortable. If you do not feel that you are clicking, it is okay to find a new therapist.

Good luck. it is a very personal decision, but it has one that has been very powerful for me.

lnle · November 2009

I started seeing one last summer right before IVF#1. She specializes in IF stuff and was recommended by my RE. She has been wonderful as a sounding board and as someone to help me rein in my anxiety. I can tell you more later if you have more questions - just PM me - gotta run right now...

flutterby918 · November 2009

lnle, I pm'd you.

And ladies, thanks for your help. We have individual insurance policies and work for really small family owned companies w/out much in the way of "help" (no HR or anything). So....maybe my insurance co. can help me find something.

I am having issues with my RE too, that is part of the problem, so I don't really feel comfortable asking him for a rec at this time.

Any other ideas??

AlissaCell701 · November 2009

I have been to a therapist on and off since my 20's when my mother passed away...Started off going as a family then I just decided to continue...I stopped for a few years and now just started going back. My therapist actually deals w IF issues so that has been helpful.

I would suggest calling your IF RE maybe they can recommend services too you. Also your Primary Care might have someone that the can give you.

I hope you find what you need! GL

JM1977 · November 2009

Me! I have been before, and now I go to someone who specializes in IF. She is great (she went through it herself). She also has a small group that meets every 2 weeks where 4 of us get together with her to talk, and that is also really helpful. (I'm also taking Zoloft - I want all the help I can get!)

njdcgirl · November 2009

I'm a little late to the post, so I hope you see this. I've been seeing a therapist (w/ DH) since about April, regarding IF issues (although we do talk about other stressors in life too - work, family, etc.) It's been great, and I am thankful that my DH convinced me to go. I go about once every 2 weeks or so.

My conselor specializes in IF, and I also got the rec from my RE office. Another option besides that is to check or call the Resolve web page - maybe your local group has recommendations....I'd bet they do. Good luck! For me, walking in the door that first time was the hardest part (I made DH call and make the appt.)

lilmissconni21 · November 2009

I have seen a therapist for the last few years, it orginally just for my bipolar disorder, but has now morphed into talking a lot about my IF issues! I have seen several therapist, and it is very imporantant for you to feel comfortable with the person and easily talk to them.

I just called my insurance company and asked for a recommendation.

In mine we mainly talk. During session she always asks me first what is on my mind / what has been going on since the last time I saw her (right now I go just about every week). She sometimes gives me things to journal about or things to think about...kinda as homework.

If you want to know more just e-mail me lilmissconni21@yahoo.com

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