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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Califlorida
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does your DD have a purse?
Califlorida
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i never thought in a million years i'd be asking this. i looked at play purses the same way i look at play vaccum cleaners. perpetuating a stereotype that woman like shopping and cleaning and men get to play sports and race cars.
but she has become really fascinated by my purse. she points to it and says "puss" all the time. tonight i gave her an old one to play with but the straps make me nervous because she managed to get them around her head. so do i get her a play purse? or do i give her a dump truck and hope this goes away? flame away...
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Re: does your DD have a purse?
i looked at play purses the same way i look at play vaccum cleaners. perpetuating a stereotype that woman like shopping and cleaning and men get to play sports and race cars.
Best Quote ever! Let her have a play purse. I don't think it will make her a suzy homemaker and anyway, even the most powerful CEO women have one.
A dump truck purse, maybe? haha I don't know--I really try to steer away from the stereotypes as well. But--I have noticed that DS has really gravitated towards the boy stuff anyway. You cannot keep him away from his trucks, but could care less about his dolls.
I just try to keep a balance. He's getting a play kitchen for Christmas, but that doesn't mean we won't also get him a toy truck I know he would love. It's not perpetuating a stereotype by simply supporting your child's natural interests, kwim? I think as long as there is a balance and variety to the toys, your DD will play with what she likes the best. If that's a purse, great! If it's a GIJoe, great!
she loves my purse..she loves digging in it, taking stuff out, putting it back in. She has like two I think. She loves them. she puts stuff in them, carries them around, sometimes takes them shopping.
I don't like stereotypes either, but I like giving her something she's interested in. and it keeps her out of my purse most of the time.
Yes, and she loves it! I gave her one of my old ones. She puts it on her shoulder, waves, and says "buy" to me all the time. It's adorable.
We also try to balance things out with DD and provide her with a variety. She loves baby dolls and purses a lot, but she also likes to drive her cars and hammer on her little bench. It drives MIL nuts that she's not a complete girlie girl.
DH and I were so against having everything pink and girlie that I noticed after a while that we had nothing pink at all. Now I try to be mindful of buying her a variety of toys and colors.
As dr. phil always says (LOL), the same sex parent is the strongest role model in a child's life. So she is simply imitating you and modeling what she is seeing.
And may I ask this, in response to your 1st paragraph...
Would you rather play sports and race cars (than shop and clean)? If not, then i don't think you should worry so much about the stereotype, as it just MAY be true in many cases.
I know I would much rather shop and clean than play sports and race cars (UGH.), and I don't think that is so horrible.
I know what you mean about the steretypes. When DD was ready for a push toy and they had the vacuum cleaner and the lawnmower I bought the lawnmower!
I don't like the idea of her having a purse for other reasons - I dont like the idea of little girls growing up too fast, and play purses and makeup and fake heels all do that. However, DD loves playing with mine. I bought her a little trick or treat bag at Target in the $1 section and she has been carrying it around for 2 months. At the end of the day I find that she collects things in it. Maybe try something like that? Give her a little felt bag that is not girly at all.
Oh and PS: Thanks for your reply in my post earlier about the H situation. It gave me some hope
dd is obsessed with bags of any sort. she will wear a diaper bag or my purse over her shoulder and carry it around, emptying and filling.
i haven't got her one, but I did give her a small diaper bag that i wasn't using.
and are vacuums girly? two little boys i know have and love them. if i could find one that would suck and not scare dd, i'd buy her one and put her to work!
LOL. agreed.
Oh and I would do the same with a son. Before anyone accuses me of being a duggar.
LOL. agreed.
jeni, you're cracking me up!
crissy, that's a great suggestion about just getting a little felt bag she can play with. sounds like a lot of kids just like the ability to collect things in a bag and then take them out again later.
thanks for all your input. i know this won't make or break who she is as a female but it was weighing on my mind.
DD has a purse she got for her birthday. It is super cute, essentially it is a cat stuffed animal and the tail is the zipper pull which opens as a purse. She uses it as both stuffed animal and purse. Which is really funny because when we go out she likes to wear it and keep her snacks in it and then when she falls asleep in her stroller it becomes a lovely.
It came from H&M in case you may want to find it.
FWIW DD has both girly toys (dolls, a tea set, etc.) and boy toys (trains, cars, etc.) In general she prefers the girly toys and daycare confirmed this. Honestly I don't care what she goes with as long as it is her free choice.
DH and I were a little wierded out by the Laugh & Learn purse, etc...and then DD started carrying my purse around all the time. She LOVES it, says "bye bye, see you tomorrow" and strolls away from me, then comes back and says "hi!" She'll play that game for a half hour:-)
I think we'll let her pick out her own cheap little purse at Target for Christmas -- she loves balls and cars too, and has a pop up fire truck tent from MIL, so I'm trying not to worry about stereotypes at this point!
Eh, I don't really see a purse as perpetuating any bad female stereotypes. I guess I can see some other things that way, but not really a purse!
DD has a hard plastic one somebody got her for her birthday. And she has a purse with Dora on it. She loves carrying that thing around and putting stuff in it.
And she has a dump truck, so I guess it evens out
Someone gave DD a Laugh-and-Learn purse. Of course she loves the thing. It's little songs make me cringe...
"Ready to go out, I'll bring my purse along. Get my keys and bracelet, sing a little song. Look into the mirror, put some lipstick on. Wave and say `Bye, Bye', I won't be gone too long."
Oy.
My DD has this. Please note I did not buy it for her! She likes the phone.
https://www.amazon.com/Gund-05792-My-First-Purse/dp/B00004VX2C
Rory has like 10 purses. She has baby dolls, strollers, a play kitchen, will be getting more girly stuff for her birthday and Christmas. But she also plays with her brother's boy toys whenever she wants. She prefers the girl stuff though. I don't see getting her girly stuff as going with the stereotype. If you think your kid will play with it, get it for them!
DD has a purse. It is a real purse and not a play one. My friend was going to goodwill it, but she figured that Addie might like to play with it and brought it over instead. It just has one thicker strap and is silver metallic. She loves it.
I also gave her a small wallet with a bunch of cards that I no longer use (Petco, Bakers Plus card, etc), and a pair of old sunglasses. She loves that stuff.