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Feeling terrified- multiple IVFers?

Kiki11Kiki11
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As soon as insurance approval comes in (by the end of the week) we will be starting a FET cycle.  At first I was excited to get started again (we've been on a break since June), but now the terror is sinking in.  Why on earth would I think this cycle has a chance when 3 fresh IVFs have failed?  I honestly feel sick to my stomach at the thought of another failure.  Any success stories or words of advice to get through this without falling apart?
TTC with unexplained IF since 8/2007 6 losses, one beautiful perfect boy in our arms Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
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Re: Feeling terrified- multiple IVFers?

  • kimarino13kimarino13 member

    Hugs.  I know exactly how you feel, because I felt like that going into FET #2.  I don't have any great words of wisdom other than to tell you that you just never know.  Why, after 41 eggs retrieved and 9 transfered over all my cycles did 1 finally take (and split)?  It still blows my mind.

    Good luck to you!  You're always in my thoughts!


    After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
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  • chocolatechip06chocolatechip06 member

    It's hard but you have to keep believing.  We thought IVF #4 was our lucky cycle (see siggy for details).  But we just finished IVF # 5 and are very cautiously pregnant again.

    It's so hard, it's an emotional rollercoaster but you have to know that you are doing the right thing and keep moving forward.

    My RE was very proactive, she was/is willing to change my protocol, work with us/listen to our suggestions etc. and is a huge reason that we have gotten this far.

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  • Nesting.AwayNesting.Away
    Lots of good thoughts to you. It is hard. 2 fresh and 2 frozen didn't yield a thing... not even a little beta number. Fresh #3 seemed to do the trick. I had a lap earlier this year but the frozen after it didn't work. Who knows?! I wish you all the luck in the world though. I just kept saying to myself that it HAD to work at some point. I wasn't willing to let it not.
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  • gringa78gringa78
    I'm hoping this is your lucky cycle!  After a fresh IVF with 2 "perfect" blasts that failed, we got lucky with a FET.  You never know.
    PCOS, lupus anticoagulant, MTHFR (A1298C, one copy) 2 IUIs & 1 IVF = BFN FET#1 = It's a girl! Born 7.1.10 FET#2 = c/p FET#3 = Twin girls! Born on 3.16.12 at 33w2d due to severe pre-E. After 4 weeks in the NICU they are home! Lilypie Third Birthday tickers
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  • roaringrockroaringrock

    are you with the same RE? same protocol?

    it might be worth a second opinion if so. I went through 4 attempts at IVF (with 4 different REs.) multiple IVFs are indeed draining. by #4 I was simply "going through the motions." I lost track and forgot what I was doing. I really believe IVF is a process. it can take multiple times (with tweaking) and a tiny bit of luck.

    you can ALWAYS page me or email me through my blog.

    best of luck!!! hang in there.

    :)

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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member

    I was numb going through IVF #3, I never got many eggs, never had any frozen. I assumed I was doomed to a child free life and was preparing for it. When I got the egg count back with 6 eggs, just like my first IVF cycle, I immediately wrote the cycle as failed. The 2 ww was filled with me looking online for a vacation in France rather then spending it comparing eggs online and doing what I normally would do cycles before this... then the day before beta came and I POAS to get the bad news out of the way. 2 lines!!!

    It is hard, and sometimes being numb is a mechanism to help us get through, but it does not mean this will not work! If the FET doesn't look to a new RE. It can give you a glimmer of hope when a fresh set of eyes looks at a situation!

    (((hugs))) Tons of luck for this cycle for you!

    A lot of years and a million tears finally led me to you.
    After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
    My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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  • Kiki11Kiki11
    Thank you for the kind words.  I know you all understand how hard it is to be hopeful after so much failure.  We've had a second opinion at another local clinic and also a phone consult with CCRM so I feel like we're covering all our bases.  Our RE is very open to changing things up and being aggressive at this point, which we're comfortable with.  I just don't know how to stay sane during all of this... it's only gotten harder each time! 
    TTC with unexplained IF since 8/2007 6 losses, one beautiful perfect boy in our arms Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
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